Hello,
I'm here to ask a question to those more experienced than me.
I have been a cuckold only for a short time (1 year) with my wife.
It took me some time to talk about it and convince her but in the end she realised she have a blast taking control and unexpected pleasure with the guys we met.
Which lead me to my actual problem, i would absolutely love to make her taste some black guy (she has never been with one whatsoever), but she is not "attracted", and my subtle approaches failed to make her change her mind.
Any ideas or tricks to make her appreciate black men more and consider a black lover ?
If she has no sexual attraction to black, then you will not be able to generate it by constantly badgering her about it. It has to be HER genuine desire.
My late wife Sarah was born and raised in the East TN mountains (1957-1975 when we married) where she was indoctrinated by community, family friends, culture and church, with the idea that "race mixing" was bad, wrong, not natural and NOT to be done at all. Had she been exposed to the idea of a white wife having a black lover, she would have been totally repulsed by the idea and would have rejected it completely.
We were living in coastal NC (1976 career move) when we made friends with a black co-worker, Thomas. For the first year it was a genuine friendship, and for us "black" was not even a consideration. Thom was just our very good friend.
After the first year, Sarah experienced a growing sexual attraction to Thom. Her mind was in total denial of what her body desired. I recognized the attraction and we began to discuss it. Slowly over the course of about 6 months, Sarah began to admit the attraction to herself. Assured of my support of her desires, she began working on her reluctance to act on those desires. Early one Sunday morning in May 1978, Sarah's desires overcame her denial and reluctance and she and Thom became lovers. She, Thom and I began a Polyamory relationship that lasted 10 years from MAY 1978 to OCT 1988. Sarah was Thom's about 20% of the time and mine for about 80% of the time. When Thom got by for a weekend stay, I made sure Sarah was exclusively his during his stay. We did not do threesomes, although I often got delightful sloppy seconds! I wanted Sarah to fully experience her desire for Thom without distractions.
Thom was able to drop by for a weekend stay about every 6 weeks or so, partly due to his travel-heavy work schedule, and partly due to us having to be extremely discrete in those days about Sarah having a black lover because that news getting out in Coastal NC would have had disastrous consequences. Thom and I would have lost our jobs, and we would have had to leave as we would have been totally rejected in the community, in the church and by all our friends. We covered Thom's visits by the fact that Thom and I were genuine friends who liked to hunt, fish, camp and hike together, plus Thom had great carpentry skills and helped me around the property. I'm certain that no one at that time had a clue as to Thom's freedoms with Sarah.
Anyway, the point of our experience is that it took Sarah about 18 months to overcome the "taboos" of her upbringing, and to accept and then act on her attraction to Thom. It became a powerfully hot, erotic thrill for her, to take the "forbidden fruit" of BBC and black seed, as a Southern girl in total defiance of her upbringing. This would never have happened had I suggested such a thing to Sarah, as her upbringing would have had her totally rejecting the idea. It had to happen with her slowly developing the attraction all on her own and gradually being able to over come the mental hang ups about acting on the genuine desire her body was experiencing!
Sorry to take so long to get to the point, but I thought the background was important. Best Wishes.