I got married recently, and my wife has previously dated and likes Black Men

Discussion in 'Cuckold Forum' started by intfan, Nov 13, 2015.

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So should I discuss my interracial fantasy with my wife and see where it goes?

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  1. intfan

    intfan New Member

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    I recently got married to a lovely young woman (10 years difference). We met on an online dating website originally. She has dated a lot of men of color based on what she told me. She also perks up when she sees a good looking Black Man on TV and the like. She has also mentioned more than once how well endowed Black Men are.

    I know this is a cuckold's dream come true, but I'm really nervous and apprehensive about approaching her with my fantasy. I used to have a lot of interracial porn on my computer--having deleted it because it consumed so much of my time. But I still will occasionally look at sexy interracial pictures and videos. I think Black Men and White Women look beautiful together.

    We watched a TV show tonight with a shirtless muscular black man that appeared and she of course whistled and checked him out. I feigned a bit of jealousy but I was secretly happy.

    I think I will slowly broach the subject with her, maybe ask her about her experience with a past black boyfriend, eventually asking her if the color contrast of black skin against her white body was nice for her. I'll see how it goes. We also use sex toys, and maybe when we buy a new vibrator, I can suggest a black one.

    I'm not sure at this point if she'd be open to being shared with a Black Man. I certainly wouldn't know how to arrange for something like that. It would have to be an arrangement where all parties are safe and comfortable. I'll worry about the details if it ever comes to that.
     
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  2. theshaw81

    theshaw81 Well-Known Member

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    When she talked about how well endowed black men are, was she comparing them to you?
     
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  3. intfan

    intfan New Member

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    Specifically, the subject of Black Men's endowment came up when she told me her best friend was dating a Black Man and she was told how big it was. Then I asked, feigning incredulity if it was really true that Black Men were better endowed on average or if it was a myth. She said in the affirmative from what she has seen and heard that it was not. In another context, we watched a TV show on HBO and there was a nudist camp scene with a nude Black Man walking by where it appeared that he had a two foot long penis, but it may have been his arm. She said: "See? It's true!"

    No, she never compared their penis sizes to mine. At least yet.
     
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  4. theshaw81

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    Would you like it if she told you how you measured up?
     
  5. trista4pleasure843

    trista4pleasure843 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    sounds like a fantasy and by that I mean you're not telling the truth
     
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  6. intfan

    intfan New Member

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    Well, I can't make anyone believe me of course. But I will post updates as I have them on this thread.
     
  7. intfan

    intfan New Member

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    I never really got turned on by the size aspect of IR porn, but more about the color contrast. If she said "he is so big compared to you!" It might be fun, however.
     
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  8. intfan

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    So I finally have an update with some positive developments. My wife called me yesterday as I am working out of town this week.

    I broached the subject of IR porn with my wife yesterday explaining hat I was really into it before we got married. Also said I was aroused very much by white woman/black male IR porn and that I loved the color contrast. As we talked some more she talked about black TV stars she found attractive and then she became excited and said she'd find it hot if I watched her making love to a black man.

    She reiterated that while she finds the idea of going black very arousing, that she does not want to bring other people into our relationship.

    Today I sent her a few sexy interracial images to her cell phone during work today. She became really excited and said plainly she was so turned on that she wanted to be fucked by a black man right then and there.

    Not sure what are the chances of her really going black, but hopefully as she is stimulated by IR erotica, she might lose her apprenhension to try it for real.

    But so far so good, she gets really turned on by IR imagery and I really love her reaction so far.
     
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  9. oldale

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    I am not sure how old you are, but I too was also turned on by IR porn way back when. I now have a wonderful wife of 4 years that loves blk men. I have NEVER cam inside her and she has never sucked my dick, yet she has black bf that gets all the full contact relationship including BJ's to completion that she swallows. I can honestly say I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. Sp I wish you the best
     
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  10. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    .....Well, I'd say, by all the info you've shared, the likely hood of you getting what you desire looks pretty good. I think she's probably having more discussions with herself right now ... as to whether she should give in or not. No doubt she wants to, but she's wrestling with a ton of issues, one of which is how it will impact the relationship & marriage the 2 of you have, and she's wise to do that, because it doesn't seem you've given it all that much thought.
    .....It's more than just "a fuck" for her, and she knows it. And this type of activity leaves her wondering if you've lost interest in her for some reason. Its going to impact your relationship, however, when it happens ... maybe for the good, but just as likely for the bad, and once done, the event will be irreversible. At least she's indicated her desire that you be present to see her get fucked. There's so much to discuss and plan before actually doing it. I hope you'll get the input from the forum members who have the good of your marriage relationship in mind. I'm all for anything that enhances the existing marriage or relationship.

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  11. intfan

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    I'd have no idea how to arrange a real life encounter with her and a Black man. The thought crosses my mind a lot.

    And yes, there are probably many unforseen circumstances and impacts if we were to go through with something like this.

    The idea of it really does sound hot though. But At least I confided a kink/fantasy to my wife. And I definittely have not lost interrst in her.
     
  12. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    .....Well, the first objective would be to convince her that involving a 3rd person in your love crib would be good for both of you. Its always better to let her do the choosing if possible, (maybe someone where she or you work), but that's not always possible. My wife and I attended a couple swinger clubs on their hospitality nights earlier on, and those seemed to work ok. It puts you face to face with people and usually hospitality nights are for just that ... no sex, just a chance to meet people. If you're specifically desiring to see her with black men, you might try using temporary tattoos and jewelry that send out that special signal so they will feel comfortable approaching her. Also, the 2 of you met on-line, so it obviously could work again ... but you can waste so much time with fakes, which is why I prefer going to clubs or upscale bar.
    .....Doing these things together can work, but you're going to feel envious and jealous when you see her having orgasm after orgasm with another man. A lot about how to go about getting into wife sharing has been posted on here. Explore at your own pace and seek answers & help when you are ready.
     
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  13. mmbbc

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    Hubby here, we have been into this lifestyle for about 6 yrs..married for 19. We talked on and off about it for a couple years before we decided to do it. Here's some things to consider.
    1. It's not something to rush into. You guys need to be sure it's what you BOTH want and are honest and open about with each other.
    2 . fantasy rarely lives up to reality.
    3. It's not all cotton candy and ferris wheels in this lifestyle. Things that you thought you wanted or, are cool with will be played out in front of you with no stop/pause button to push. WE actually experienced a little guilt after her 1st time with a bbc. Kinda had an omgosh, what did we do moment..don't know if it's normal but, we talked it thru and we haven't had any issues since with it. There's so much to consider and think about before taking it from fantasy to reality. That's just a few of my takes. Good luck to you guys.
     
  14. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    exactly, mmbbc ... good advice.
    .....I've told this story a couple times over the years, but seems to be appropriate here, too. My wife & I met in college through my roommate. They (my roommate & my now wife) were a couple for over a year and I got to be friends with her during her regular visits to stay with my roommate. I'd lay in bed many a nights listening to him pounding her pussy and her moans, and sometimes I'd kid them the next morning about it.
    .....My roommate met another chick and decided to break up with my wife, and he even fucked her a couple hours before telling her he was breaking it off. She came running to me for sympathy, and I gave it ... having always wanted to fuck her myself, I made a selfish play to lure her into my bed, and it worked. We had a few 3-somes and swaps with close college friends, and it was fun, and when we graduated from college we got married shortly there after.
    .....Anyways my wife was at the mall and ran into her old BF (my ex-roommate), and they called me on my cell to say hello. I invited him over to our apartment for drinks and dinner, and it ended up with us doing an all-nighter 3-some. My wife said later she was in heaven ... having her 2 favorite guys one after the other. But this is where reality sat in ... I got terribly remorseful and jealous, thinking I had rekindled a fire between them. It took me 2 months to finally be convinced by the 2 of them that it was just in fun and a one-time thing.
     
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  15. NEHIGHLANDER

    NEHIGHLANDER Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I was married to my wife for several years before I found out about her previous black lovers before we met. I too was turned on my the idea and like you I just kept asking her questions about them. All I can say is be careful what you wish for. You'd be surprised how turned on you can become but also can become very jealous. Make sure this is something you really want and think it through before going through with it.
     
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  16. intfan

    intfan New Member

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    If she were to make love to a Black Man in front of me, I think I would be extremely aroused at aeeing her getting pleasure. I could only see myself getting jealous or hurt if she were to withdraw from me.

    Obviously I would want the experience to be a good one and not a disappointment. Instead of trying to meet other black men online or trying to integrate into a swingers club--what about hiring an escort to fulfill a fantasy? It certainly would make tjings safer would it not?

    But this is the very early stage of just talking about it. She suggested that I get her a black vibrator though. I think that would be very erotic if I used one on her.
     
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  17. intfan

    intfan New Member

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    1. I agree here. I would want the experience to be a lot of fun, exciting and positive.

    2. Oh I have thought about that. What if the other man we arrange the encounter with turns out to be a dud? I certainly want her to enjoy the experience as much as possible.

    3. And there's also the possibility of buyer's remorse--on her part because she feels so guilty for developing very intense sexual and even romantic feelings for the other man or on my part whereas I thought would be thrilled to see her enjoy being with a black man and auddenly finding that I am really jealous or inadeqate.

    I will take it slowly. We're just at the talking stages right now.
     
  18. Drillher4me

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    I taken it from someone who's been there, done that!
    With a very very few exceptions, put any female in the right place at the right time with the right guy and she'll screw them every time! Race, religion, upbringing or current life status has zilch to do with it. My wife, Pam, and I enjoy the good life. Plus, she's tall (5 ft 10 ins), extremely well built (138 lbs), beautiful (still models) and was wanting for nothing. (Except that is, BBC) I had been sharing a long time fantasy of mine with her for almost all of our nearly nine years of married life of wanting to see a white girl "do it" with a black guy. Initially it repulsed Pam, in fact she got angry and called me a sex pervert and I spent the night that first time sleeping alone in the spare bedroom. Then while we were attending a convention cocktail party I unexpectedly met an old university friend and roommate of mine, Edwin. He also happens to be black, handsome, well endowed and ended up balls deep in Pam the next night in our hotel suite. I had always fantasized about it, never ever dreamed however that the white girl being fucked would be none other than my wife, let alone by my old friend. But as I said, it was a matter of being in the right place at the right time with the right guy.