I've been reading this thread an am curious as to how many of you would explain the difference between a hotwife couple and a cuckold couple. Sadly there are a lot of me who think that just because a man enjoys seeing his wife/gf with black men that he is by default a cuckold. Curious to hear your thoughts.
Excellent observation!
We meet with my Bull at a restaurant for a light dinner before proceeding to the hotel. I don't do anything overt with him (passionate kissing, holding his hand, or sitting next to him in a booth) so we're pretty confident that no one would suspect what our relationship is. We assume (yeah, know what THAT means) that folks just think we're three friends out for dinner.
We also check in before we go to the restaurant, that way, we can go to the room without passing by the front desk, also reducing the chance that others may suspect something.
Finally, we don't go to the same places (restaurant and hotel) all the time. We have a kind of rotation so it's a number of months before we go back to a place we've been before.
We are not (by any stretch) a 'cuckold' couple - instead, we refer to ourselves as being in a Stag/Vixen situation - hubby watches while I have fun. Some may call this a 'Hotwife' situation and I won't argue that. It's just that 'Stag/Vixen' tends to be a more acceptable term for us.
So, to answer the question as to how to differentiate between us and a cuckold couple? I would say that a cuck couple would be placing the white male in a submissive role - the wife (or Bull) would order for him. The wife and her Bull would monopolize the conversation, dismissing what the white male has to say. Stuff like that. But on the surface, it would be very difficult.
And remember, a lot of folks (like us) are actively working to act like a 'normal' couple. So if they're successful, you (as the observer) wouldn't guess that they are in an intimate relationship.
Just my thoughts on the topic. Not saying that we have a lock on it, but just how we see it.
Donna