In my opinion the first emotion will be one of respect. A white boy is going to be less of a man than a black man. I think this is universal and it is why I think it is better to refer to white males as boys and black men as men. Not some of the time. All of the time. There is a difference. It is absolutely natural for a woman to be attracted to the black man and to prefer him over a white boy. He is just simply put better. It is also natural for the white boy to sense his real place in things and to step aside. All of this leads to both the woman and the white boy respecting the black man. He is the alpha and the superior in the relationship. I personally think that this dynamic will happen in virtually all cases if society does not interfere with sick taboos and prejudice. A woman being sexually exclusive to black men is a natural result of this if she can be reassured that this is healthy and normal. White boys watch porn, masturbate, become sissies and learn to admire. I think the white boy can earn respect by being a good support person. He will gain respect if he quits trying to have sex with his wife. He will gain respect if he encourages his wife to be with a better man. A black man. It will never be the kind of respect that is owed to the black man but it is normal and healthy. A white boy can really show his love for his wife by asking her to cuckold him. She could act shocked but will actually be relieved that she does not have to suffer what may be an ordeal for her. I think if she is with a black man a single time the changes will likely be permanent.
The issue of love, in my opinion, may be separate from sex. Falling in love will be up to the black man and the white woman. A white boy, in my opinion, cannot control what will happen. The couple may wish their relationship to be sexual only. They may wish to have a romantic relationship with, or without, the white boy around as a cuckold. They may wish to marry in a traditional sense which could lead to a divorce from the white boy. This may be the difficult part for a white boy. You go into this knowing that you are not as good as a black man. You have already lost in terms of being a man. It may not be fair but it is how it is. Your wife knows this and may have had conflicting thoughts about marrying you. She may not have known about black men. She may have been pressured. The two of you may be the best of friends. The two of you are presumably trying to straighten out the mess that happens with white boys attempting to be something they are not. I personally think that love between the white woman and the black man is natural and beautiful and is to be encouraged. White boys need to love the woman knowing it will not be returned in kind. She will, and should, love and respect the black man or men in her life more. Much more. That does not mean that she will not love her white boy but it is different. It has to be. White boys need to also think about the black man and put his desires ahead of their own. Again it is all about being in the natural role in all of this.
All of this is hard for white boys. In my opinion they know that their wives will be better off with black men. They know that they will become less important as this plays out. White boys will lose. Some women may want to keep the white boys around and continue a loving, non-sexual relationship. Some may want more. Interracial marriages are becoming more common but what a great role model to see a white woman with a black man. Once the door is opened the white boy is an observer and a supporter but not in control. I think it is best to be happy for your wife and her black man or men regardless of what they choose. That is the essence of being a white boy and a cuckold.
Sorry for the length and rambling nature of this. This is my opinion, of course, and I know that many will disagree. The subject of romantic love is often not discussed enough and is drowned out by the obsession with sex. Thank you for raising this point and I will be interested in other thoughts.