Help! Dom husband turned sub?

[Swedecpl30]

It is possible that this lifestyle he is sharing with you have just made him more comfortable in exploring more of his own fantasies. Opening up a completely new door with your SO and only seeing positive benefits might have made him more open to even more possibilities that he hadn't really considered before.

It is also possible that he is a switch, it's not really uncommon, and some people wanna go between being the dom and the sub.

I would sit down for atleast 2 long talks with him, in a non judgemental way, there are so many possibilities as to what is on his mind.

Make sure you have 2 different talks, one when he is horny, and one when he is completely sexually satisfied, the different ideas you get depending on your sexual state of excitement can really play tricks on your mind. Keep in mind that his might be new ideas for him, so you gotta be open to these ideas changing over time, he might completely lose interest in them, but they might also be more and more enticing to him, and everything else in between.

 

[whiteshadoe]

There is this silly notion that the world is made up of alphas and betas when in reality we are ALL complex beings. Doing what pleases you when it is contrary to the norms of society is about as in control as one can be.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Any ladies have experience with a dom husband turning sub overtime. My husband has always been my original master, but he recently admitted that he wears an old pair of my tights when he masterbates sometimes. He says he like the way they feel against his skin.

That didn’t surprise me, but the fact that he also uses a small toy on his ass really did. He said he was curious how it felt but it didn’t really give him too much pleasure.

ImO being (sexually) dominant within a relationship and what sexual stimuli are being used when masturbating have nothing at all to do with each other (per se). It may have an impact on the relationship dynamic though. For instance, when it (masturbation behavior) makes changes to perception - either self-perception or how the partner perceives the partner for that behavior.

My advice: Find out and openly discuss what it means for each of you, and how that possibly changes your relationship dynamic, if it does at all.

That didn’t concern me too, but I’ve also noticed that his cock immediately gets soft when he watches me play with my black toys or uses them on me. He actually has a large cock that is always hard and this is new behavior too.

There are articles about the impact of "male competition" especially on a "cuckold marriage". As far as i can remember there were some accounts of husbands who felt "relieved" for not having to provide 100% of their wives` sexual pleasure which also resulted in the husbands` reduced erectional abilities and/or stamina at least in some cases. May be even true in a competing situation with a toy, i suppose?

But also some man feels that special excitement and additional horniness while their woman is pregnant where for another it is quite the opposite.

The reasons for your husband`s "new behavior" that you described cannot be determined from afar. Again i say, find it out together over conversation.

So I’m just curious is my dom husband turning into a cuck or something? Anyone have experience with this?

Not my personal experience. i always tended to be extra up and going over fantasizing and using toys on women in my ex relationships.

BTW, what it means to be a "cuck" has nothing at all to do with being dominant or submissive. There are many different types of "cuckolds" out there.

 

[slinky1]

There is no doubt I have become more and more submissive as the years have passed. Before I was cuckolded for the first time I was very territorial, in the outside world quite alpha and turned my small cock frustration to anger... plus did the usual 'manly' things, ie: work, rough sports to compensate for what I lacked with my manhood. Once I started being cheated on/ cuckolded, that made that anger/ jealousy even worse for a couple of years. By my late 20's, with the help of the internet I discovered what a true cuck was, and the pieces finally fitted. I then discovered the true me and from then on (25+ years) I have become more and more submissive. The more I was cuckolded and the more bi contact I had with alpha bulls, the more and more submissive and beta I have become.

So can't speak for your husband or your sexual dynamic, but it definitely happened to me.

 

[Seth1805]

Any ladies have experience with a dom husband turning sub overtime. My husband has always been my original master, but he recently admitted that he wears an old pair of my tights when he masterbates sometimes. He says he like the way they feel against his skin.

That didn’t surprise me, but the fact that he also uses a small toy on his ass really did. He said he was curious how it felt but it didn’t really give him too much pleasure.

That didn’t concern me too, but I’ve also noticed that his cock immediately gets soft when he watches me play with my black toys or uses them on me. He actually has a large cock that is always hard and this is new behavior too.

So I’m just curious is my dom husband turning into a cuck or something? Anyone have experience with this?

Not a lady but I can speak about my own experience.

We got married 33 years ago, I was 21 and her 24 with a lot more sexual experience than me, light-years ahead of me because I was a virgin. I was in shape running 12 miles a day so I was eager to prove myself in bed with her and every time we had sex I wanted to "prove" myself to her. I was an alpha with my wife and territorial, meaning I got jealous but not the raging lunatic type.
As time went by and I focused more on my Air ******* career I found a lot of satisfaction in being a good provider and far less satisfaction in proving my value in bed. After awhile it dawned on me that if she did not feel desirable it might affect her and I did not want that and coincidentally that is about the time I came across interracial porn.
Somewhere in that time frame I subconsciously started viewing a hung black man as a man that could make my wife feel desirable and help alleviate my fears that my wife might question my own desire for her. It was then I started to become less an alpha but not to the degree you describe your husband.
My wife has a submissive personality and with me not being assertive I realized a well hung black man taking over in the bedroom for me was an option for us both. I think my wife was in tune with this as she did not object to any of this when I brought it up. I think she sort of knew the state of our relationship more than I realized.