Help a young guy please

Hello together,

I am still very new to the lifestyle.
My girlfriend is rather conservative but I can talk to her.

She knows about my fantasy. Does not find this suitable for herself and she says she does not sleep with other men.

We can talk about it and she is open to new things. Reading novels, trying dildo, other toys. Porn yes but think is too early.

As info for you: My girlfriend is 29 years I am 30. we have maxinum 1x a month sex for 2 years (but I also work Monday to Friday far away and sleep out in a hotel).

Now for my question:

I want to buy your first dildo what kind do I buy?

Does anyone else have a tip for a more conservative woman?
)
 
Hello together,

I am still very new to the lifestyle.
My girlfriend is rather conservative but I can talk to her.

She knows about my fantasy. Does not find this suitable for herself and she says she does not sleep with other men.

We can talk about it and she is open to new things. Reading novels, trying dildo, other toys. Porn yes but think is too early.

As info for you: My girlfriend is 29 years I am 30. we have maxinum 1x a month sex for 2 years (but I also work Monday to Friday far away and sleep out in a hotel).

Now for my question:

I want to buy your first dildo what kind do I buy?

Does anyone else have a tip for a more conservative woman?
)
First dildo, It shouldn't be too big,

Get some dual density smaller ones.
 
It's always a good idea to offer choices to your lady. If you can afford it, I would suggest you offer her, wrapped in the same gift box or bag, a 7 to 8 inches black dildo, a 5 to 6 inches white dildo, and a nice multi-speed small-size vibrator (clitoris stimulator). One day or another she will start to use the black one when becomes extremely naughty and horny.
 
Hello together,

I am still very new to the lifestyle.
My girlfriend is rather conservative but I can talk to her.

She knows about my fantasy. Does not find this suitable for herself and she says she does not sleep with other men.

We can talk about it and she is open to new things. Reading novels, trying dildo, other toys. Porn yes but think is too early.

As info for you: My girlfriend is 29 years I am 30. we have maxinum 1x a month sex for 2 years (but I also work Monday to Friday far away and sleep out in a hotel).

Now for my question:

I want to buy your first dildo what kind do I buy?

Does anyone else have a tip for a more conservative woman?
)
For how long you've been together as a couple?


ImO the type of toy should be adjusted to the Woman's likes and needs. There is no right choice anybody who does not know your girlfriend could suggest. How her body reacts to different sizes can be a good hint.

Finding the right size

Before you buy a toy make sure to know her preference. You can include your fingers, hands and "objects" in your sexual play in order to find out. Start inserting two fingers and then slowly increase the number. Watch her reaction. At what point is it most pleasurable for her? When does it start to feel uncomfortable or even a bit painful? Try reconstructing the most pleasurable girth with a strong rubber band and a tape measure. ;) Objects can be used to probe the limit of penetrative depth. A broomstick or vegetable can serve that purpose as long as you make sure there are no ridges on the used object and you only apply them with a condom! It is essential that your girlfriend is "in heat" as the vaginal canal naturally elongates in an aroused state only. Again measure with a measuring tape or ruler the length that has been most pleasurable for her.

Deciding for the right size toy

In any case it is wise not to overdo! Also most Women prefer girth to length which also can serve as a hint for a good decision. An example: If you find your Woman prefers 6 inches of circumference and 7 1/2 inches of (insertable) length then look out for a toy that is very close in both aspects. But never buy a toy that exceeds any of those dimensions, especially for a first toy! So, in this example, when you compare three toys with same length, the first having 5 inches, the second 5 1/2 inches and the thrid 6 1/2 inches of girth... the third one is to be excluded because it exceeds her most pleasurable size, and the second of the remaining toys is to be favored because it is closest to her preference. Based on the same example preference, when comparing two toys with one being 7 1/2 inches long and 5 1/2 inches around and the other being 5 1/2 inches long and 6 inches around, the second one is more favorable because girth is the deciding factor. ;)

A(n important) note on body-safety

But the most deciding and important factor is body-safety! i assume you love your girlfriend, so naturally you are concerned about her health. Only buy products that are body-safe. That means no plasticizers in the material, no ridges or pores on the outside that could "trap" germs, ... Only buy toys that are easy to clean and disinfect. Look out for retailers and review websites that provide ratings for - or other info on - body-safety of sex toys.

Creating a concept or plan for sex toy purchases

If you think of a roadmap that would depict the sexual aspect of a couple's life then each toy purchase (along with other things) makes up a milestone on your way closer to home. (You don't start by laying down a Black man on your girlfriend's bed when she's not yet prepared for that. 🤣 ) Having that said, any action (including but not limited to buying a sex toy) shall bring something in, a new addition that increases and improves what's already there. If you start with the utmost best then there will be nothing left to improve and grow.

So make up a list of things to do or buy that you find appropriate and appealing to your girlfriend, and put those in an order - sorted from good to best. Start with the good ones and go on with the better, a.s.o. ;)

In a situation like that described by the OP a start could be to buy a molding kit that is used to create a personal replica toy. The boyfriend could create a realistic dildo from his own penis and give it to his girlfriend as a present for use in those nights when he is not available because of his job. Masturbation sessions via facetime that would include the dildo could be added to the couple's sex life. In addition the toy can be used by the couple during sex sessions, assuming an additional dick or pretending the inclusion of another male player, and thus role-playing Mfm threesome constellations. Also the introduction of a penis-like toy may be a good basis for adding other (bigger and darker) dick-like dildos with a real look-and-feel in the future. ;)


Keep having fun
Everyone!

Oh, and
Happy New Year!!! 🎆
 
For how long you've been together as a couple?


ImO the type of toy should be adjusted to the Woman's likes and needs. There is no right choice anybody who does not know your girlfriend could suggest. How her body reacts to different sizes can be a good hint.

Finding the right size

Before you buy a toy make sure to know her preference. You can include your fingers, hands and "objects" in your sexual play in order to find out. Start inserting two fingers and then slowly increase the number. Watch her reaction. At what point is it most pleasurable for her? When does it start to feel uncomfortable or even a bit painful? Try reconstructing the most pleasurable girth with a strong rubber band and a tape measure. ;) Objects can be used to probe the limit of penetrative depth. A broomstick or vegetable can serve that purpose as long as you make sure there are no ridges on the used object and you only apply them with a condom! It is essential that your girlfriend is "in heat" as the vaginal canal naturally elongates in an aroused state only. Again measure with a measuring tape or ruler the length that has been most pleasurable for her.

Deciding for the right size toy

In any case it is wise not to overdo! Also most Women prefer girth to length which also can serve as a hint for a good decision. An example: If you find your Woman prefers 6 inches of circumference and 7 1/2 inches of (insertable) length then look out for a toy that is very close in both aspects. But never buy a toy that exceeds any of those dimensions, especially for a first toy! So, in this example, when you compare three toys with same length, the first having 5 inches, the second 5 1/2 inches and the thrid 6 1/2 inches of girth... the third one is to be excluded because it exceeds her most pleasurable size, and the second of the remaining toys is to be favored because it is closest to her preference. Based on the same example preference, when comparing two toys with one being 7 1/2 inches long and 5 1/2 inches around and the other being 5 1/2 inches long and 6 inches around, the second one is more favorable because girth is the deciding factor. ;)

A(n important) note on body-safety

But the most deciding and important factor is body-safety! i assume you love your girlfriend, so naturally you are concerned about her health. Only buy products that are body-safe. That means no plasticizers in the material, no ridges or pores on the outside that could "trap" germs, ... Only buy toys that are easy to clean and disinfect. Look out for retailers and review websites that provide ratings for - or other info on - body-safety of sex toys.

Creating a concept or plan for sex toy purchases

Wenn Sie an eine Roadmap denken, die den sexuellen Aspekt des Lebens eines Paares darstellt, ist jeder Spielzeugkauf (zusammen mit anderen Dingen) ein Meilenstein auf Ihrem Weg nach Hause. (Sie beginnen nicht damit, einen schwarzen Mann auf das Bett Ihrer Freundin zu legen, wenn sie noch nicht darauf vorbereitet ist. 🤣 ) Nachdem dies gesagt wurde, bringt jede Aktion (einschließlich, aber nicht beschränkt auf den Kauf eines Sexspielzeugs) etwas ein, eine neue Ergänzung das erhöht und verbessert, was schon da ist. Wenn Sie mit dem Besten beginnen, gibt es nichts mehr zu verbessern und zu wachsen.

Stellen Sie also eine Liste der Dinge zusammen, die Sie tun oder kaufen können, die für Ihre Freundin angemessen und ansprechend sind, und ordnen Sie diese in einer Reihenfolge - von gut bis am besten. Beginnen Sie mit den Guten und fahren Sie mit den Besseren fort;)

In einer Situation wie der vom OP beschriebenen könnte ein Start darin bestehen, ein Formkit zu kaufen, mit dem ein persönliches Replikspielzeug hergestellt wird. Der Freund könnte einen realistischen Dildo aus seinem eigenen Penis herstellen und ihn seiner Freundin als Geschenk für die Nächte geben, in denen er aufgrund seiner Arbeit nicht verfügbar ist. Masturbationssitzungen über Facetime, die den Dildo beinhalten würden, könnten zum Sexualleben des Paares hinzugefügt werden. Darüber hinaus kann das Spielzeug vom Paar während Sex-Sessions verwendet werden, wobei ein zusätzlicher Schwanz angenommen wird oder die Aufnahme eines anderen männlichen Spielers vorgetäuscht wird, wodurch Mfm-Dreierkonstellationen im Rollenspiel gespielt werden. Auch die Einführung eines penisähnlichen Spielzeugs kann eine gute Grundlage sein, um andere (größere und dunklere) schwanzähnliche Dildos mit einem echten Look-and-Feel in der Zukunft hinzuzufügen.;)


Hab weiter Spaß
Jeder!

Oh und
Frohes neues Jahr!!! 🎆
Vielen Dank. Schöne Tipps und wie ich es tun möchte.
Wenn Sie
Wenn Siewe are a couple now for 5 years.
 
For how long you've been together as a couple?


ImO the type of toy should be adjusted to the Woman's likes and needs. There is no right choice anybody who does not know your girlfriend could suggest. How her body reacts to different sizes can be a good hint.

Finding the right size

Before you buy a toy make sure to know her preference. You can include your fingers, hands and "objects" in your sexual play in order to find out. Start inserting two fingers and then slowly increase the number. Watch her reaction. At what point is it most pleasurable for her? When does it start to feel uncomfortable or even a bit painful? Try reconstructing the most pleasurable girth with a strong rubber band and a tape measure. ;) Objects can be used to probe the limit of penetrative depth. A broomstick or vegetable can serve that purpose as long as you make sure there are no ridges on the used object and you only apply them with a condom! It is essential that your girlfriend is "in heat" as the vaginal canal naturally elongates in an aroused state only. Again measure with a measuring tape or ruler the length that has been most pleasurable for her.

Deciding for the right size toy

In any case it is wise not to overdo! Also most Women prefer girth to length which also can serve as a hint for a good decision. An example: If you find your Woman prefers 6 inches of circumference and 7 1/2 inches of (insertable) length then look out for a toy that is very close in both aspects. But never buy a toy that exceeds any of those dimensions, especially for a first toy! So, in this example, when you compare three toys with same length, the first having 5 inches, the second 5 1/2 inches and the thrid 6 1/2 inches of girth... the third one is to be excluded because it exceeds her most pleasurable size, and the second of the remaining toys is to be favored because it is closest to her preference. Based on the same example preference, when comparing two toys with one being 7 1/2 inches long and 5 1/2 inches around and the other being 5 1/2 inches long and 6 inches around, the second one is more favorable because girth is the deciding factor. ;)

A(n important) note on body-safety

But the most deciding and important factor is body-safety! i assume you love your girlfriend, so naturally you are concerned about her health. Only buy products that are body-safe. That means no plasticizers in the material, no ridges or pores on the outside that could "trap" germs, ... Only buy toys that are easy to clean and disinfect. Look out for retailers and review websites that provide ratings for - or other info on - body-safety of sex toys.

Creating a concept or plan for sex toy purchases

If you think of a roadmap that would depict the sexual aspect of a couple's life then each toy purchase (along with other things) makes up a milestone on your way closer to home. (You don't start by laying down a Black man on your girlfriend's bed when she's not yet prepared for that. 🤣 ) Having that said, any action (including but not limited to buying a sex toy) shall bring something in, a new addition that increases and improves what's already there. If you start with the utmost best then there will be nothing left to improve and grow.

So make up a list of things to do or buy that you find appropriate and appealing to your girlfriend, and put those in an order - sorted from good to best. Start with the good ones and go on with the better, a.s.o. ;)

In a situation like that described by the OP a start could be to buy a molding kit that is used to create a personal replica toy. The boyfriend could create a realistic dildo from his own penis and give it to his girlfriend as a present for use in those nights when he is not available because of his job. Masturbation sessions via facetime that would include the dildo could be added to the couple's sex life. In addition the toy can be used by the couple during sex sessions, assuming an additional dick or pretending the inclusion of another male player, and thus role-playing Mfm threesome constellations. Also the introduction of a penis-like toy may be a good basis for adding other (bigger and darker) dick-like dildos with a real look-and-feel in the future. ;)


Keep having fun
Everyone!

Oh, and
Happy New Year!!! 🎆
You're a saint <3
 
It's always a good idea to offer choices to your lady. If you can afford it, I would suggest you offer her, wrapped in the same gift box or bag, a 7 to 8 inches black dildo, a 5 to 6 inches white dildo, and a nice multi-speed small-size vibrator (clitoris stimulator). One day or another she will start to use the black one when becomes extremely naughty and horny.
Clever answer
 
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