I'm not being judgemental, but what does your husband get out of this? Does he get a vacation? Who pays? It's hard for me to imagine my husband paying tousands of dollars to send me on a vacation with a lover while he works his ass off to pay for the trip.
I've read a lot of stuff on here, but I've always thought that most was fantasy. This sounds very real. I'm just amazed this doesn't create a lot of complications.
In our relationship we keep things equal. If we purchase and expensive bottle of wine, we don't open it unless both of us are enjoying it. My husband might allow me to do this, but only if he could do the same. He could make that happen and I would Not be happy! Apparently you've been doing this for a long time, so it works. I'm just wondering how?