Gift ideas to win her over

jrc90

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#1
Do you guys have any ideas for gifts that might get her into this scene? I was this thinking a black dildo but not sure if its suttle enough?! Any ideas or thoughts are appreciated!
 

MacNfries

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#2
jrc ... to get serious answers & responses to your posts, you really need to provide us readers a bit more detail about you and your GF. You're moving along at lightning speed with your posts and requests, and you've posted a total of 5 times, yet you've given us no information about your GF. For one, it's not all that simple, and two, it involves HER interest and input, which it doesn't sound like you're even considering. You show us a verification pic of you, and to be honest with you, you're not at all small in the dick department ... a lot of white girls could be very content with your cock, assuming you know how to use it. Has your GF given you any indication that she would like to have sex with other guys, black, white, green, purple ... whatever? Has she ever mentioned or had sexual fantasies about black guys?

The reason(s) women might have sex with other men is usually totally different from the reason(s) men might have sex with other women. Women are very senstive about "cheating", and I imagine your GF looks at either of you having sex with someone else as cheating or being disloyal to the relationship, and she'll probably find it very confusing as to WHY you want her to fuck other men. She could very possibly be very, very happy with eventually getting banged by a black man, but what indications have you seen or heard that she's receptive to banging ANY guys at all?

First of all, it might be helpful if the two of you shared your sexual fantasies with each other. This gives you some clue as to where she is in being receptive to what you desire. She may not be turned on by black men at all, and therefore you'd be wasting a lot of effort until she did have an interest. If she is interested, possibly set up a 3-some with you and another man to show her you're comfortable with sharing her. This is really important ... she's got to be convinced that your desire to do these things is all about HER enjoyment, not yours. Also, if she's as naive & inexperienced as you indicated in one of your posts, you're chancing losing her to another man.

That said, I got my wife one of those life-like dildos ... foreskin, the whole thing ... its about 7" long, and she loves me using it on her while sucking her nipples, earlobes, and playing with her clit. They come in 3 colors ... white, black, olive; most adult book stores have 'em and they're about $40-50. Do some fantasy play with one of the black ones and see how she responds ... if good, then start working at making it a "real experience". Mac :)

http://www.venuspleasures.com/dildos/life-like/realistic-cock-8-inch-brown.html
 

jrc90

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#3
Not the response i was expecting but fair point... She is 19, blonde, UK size 8 and 32c bra. She's only slept with 4 guys including myself and hasn't given any real indication of wanting to sleep with anyone else. This is more of a fantasy of mine from a previous relationship. I would like to see how she would respond to doing something like this for real as we have only joked about stuff like this is the past.

The link you sent was perfect in my eyes, im just worried it may be a little too early to pull out a black dildo yet haha.

Have you been cuckolded?
 

Torpedo

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#4
Buy here expensive presents then tell her your phantasies. It may sound cold but it can work. I fucked a doctors wife while he watched quite a few years ago. She confided while we were in bed that this was his phantasy not hers, this was going to cost him a nice fur that she wanted. Cold attitude, pussy wasn't bad, and she didn't come back. As far as I know they are still together. Relationships are all different there isn't a magic technique that always works.
 

Torpedo

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#5
Not the response i was expecting but fair point... She is 19, blonde, UK size 8 and 32c bra. She's only slept with 4 guys including myself and hasn't given any real indication of wanting to sleep with anyone else. This is more of a fantasy of mine from a previous relationship. I would like to see how she would respond to doing something like this for real as we have only joked about stuff like this is the past.

The link you sent was perfect in my eyes, im just worried it may be a little too early to pull out a black dildo yet haha.

Have you been cuckolded?
19 and slept with 4 guys? I would say that she has a sense of adventure and is fairly uninhibited. You might suggest a three way with the two of you and another guy. If she agrees ask if she has any prejudices. If she doesn't find a bull for the third person.
 
#6
jrc ... to get serious answers & responses to your posts, you really need to provide us readers a bit more detail about you and your GF. You're moving along at lightning speed with your posts and requests, and you've posted a total of 5 times, yet you've given us no information about your GF. For one, it's not all that simple, and two, it involves HER interest and input, which it doesn't sound like you're even considering. You show us a verification pic of you, and to be honest with you, you're not at all small in the dick department ... a lot of white girls could be very content with your cock, assuming you know how to use it. Has your GF given you any indication that she would like to have sex with other guys, black, white, green, purple ... whatever? Has she ever mentioned or had sexual fantasies about black guys?

The reason(s) women might have sex with other men is usually totally different from the reason(s) men might have sex with other women. Women are very senstive about "cheating", and I imagine your GF looks at either of you having sex with someone else as cheating or being disloyal to the relationship, and she'll probably find it very confusing as to WHY you want her to fuck other men. She could very possibly be very, very happy with eventually getting banged by a black man, but what indications have you seen or heard that she's receptive to banging ANY guys at all?

First of all, it might be helpful if the two of you shared your sexual fantasies with each other. This gives you some clue as to where she is in being receptive to what you desire. She may not be turned on by black men at all, and therefore you'd be wasting a lot of effort until she did have an interest. If she is interested, possibly set up a 3-some with you and another man to show her you're comfortable with sharing her. This is really important ... she's got to be convinced that your desire to do these things is all about HER enjoyment, not yours. Also, if she's as naive & inexperienced as you indicated in one of your posts, you're chancing losing her to another man.

That said, I got my wife one of those life-like dildos ... foreskin, the whole thing ... its about 7" long, and she loves me using it on her while sucking her nipples, earlobes, and playing with her clit. They come in 3 colors ... white, black, olive; most adult book stores have 'em and they're about $40-50. Do some fantasy play with one of the black ones and see how she responds ... if good, then start working at making it a "real experience". Mac :)

http://www.venuspleasures.com/dildos/life-like/realistic-cock-8-inch-brown.html
Dude...lighten up.
 
#10
You've already gotten some good ideas, it looks like.....

My suggestion would be a nice black realistic dildo just a little bit bigger than you are, for starters...in your size range I especially like the "cyberskin" and other soft ones you can get.....

If she is already into anal, there are some nifty little black butt plugs you can get in a couple of sizes that are penis-shaped with a head and veins, but a thin "neck" so they stay in back there.....if not, you could start off with a pretty jeweled butt plug, I was given one as a gift that I love, and still enjoy wearing on dates and special occasions ;)


:blackheart: Lanie
 

MacNfries

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#11
Have you been cuckolded?
Going by the real definition of cuckolding, I imagine I've never been cuckolded, at least by my wife. To my knowledge, my wife has never had sex with a man that I was either not present or did not know about it first, before it happened. But, that is in my marriage. I've had more than a couple ladies I was dating seriously "cheat on me", and based upon today's useage of the word, I was being cuckolded. I didn't like it at all, in fact, with one girl, I took it terribly and had to be put on medications for a few months. Real cuckolding is usually stressful for the husband/boyfriend that thinks he has a loyal, loving mate, then finds out she's screwing other men behind his back.
The best way to get over a cuckold relationship (if its a real one) is to find another woman to take your mind off your cheating mate. Otherwise it takes time ... sometimes a long time to get over it.
Voluntary cuckolds (a wittol by definition) acknowledge and even encourage their mate to find other men to have sex with. Even then, they usually experience the various emotional feelings (jealousy, envy, anger, remorse, horniness, etc) that give them that emotional rollercoaster ride.
Sharing a wife with other men is one thing, allowing her to pursue other men for sex, on her own, is an entirely different thing. There you are taking a higher risk of her getting emotionally involved with the men she spends time with, and once emotional involvement takes place, it invaribly affects the relationship you have with your woman.
 

jrc90

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#12
You've already gotten some good ideas, it looks like.....

My suggestion would be a nice black realistic dildo just a little bit bigger than you are, for starters...in your size range I especially like the "cyberskin" and other soft ones you can get.....

If she is already into anal, there are some nifty little black butt plugs you can get in a couple of sizes that are penis-shaped with a head and veins, but a thin "neck" so they stay in back there.....if not, you could start off with a pretty jeweled butt plug, I was given one as a gift that I love, and still enjoy wearing on dates and special occasions ;)


:blackheart: Lanie
That's exactly what i thought originally but now im leaning towards just getting her any colour dildoas it will be her first and then ease her to bigger and blacker things. After all i don't want to push her away, i want to ease her in!
 
#13
That's exactly what i thought originally but now im leaning towards just getting her any colour dildoas it will be her first and then ease her to bigger and blacker things. After all i don't want to push her away, i want to ease her in!
I wondered about my recommendation for the black color while I was writing - one excuse is that it's a better color for anal, but you didn't respond with anything about where you two stand with that...but you are right to avoid if if you have any concern about how it would be accepted.....

I know there is a controversy among some gay girls about using "realistic" dildos, and so some of the better toy sites have a lot of choices of alternative shapes in fun colors! Plus there's always the artistic glass that's popular.....

:blackheart: Lanie
 
#15
That's exactly what i thought originally but now im leaning towards just getting her any colour dildoas it will be her first and then ease her to bigger and blacker things. After all i don't want to push her away, i want to ease her in!
For what's its worth, I didn't ease my ultra conservative wife into it...I went for two big black dildos right away. Took a little adjustment but now she loves em. She has thanked me for making our sex life, as she puts it, more "interesting".
 

jrc90

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#16
Right well I've mentioned buying her a dildo and asked for her to tell me which one she wanted as we were set on the laptop together and she just smiled at me. I asked if she wanted one and just continued to smile so i don't know where that leaves me. Does she want one or not Haha
 

willsrvu

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#18
8" seems to be pretty much the average length enjoyed by most women, but it looks you are going to need to get her something a little thicker in the not too distant future.
Not very much thicker, just a little so she can get used to being stretched out gradually and enjoy the sensation of fullness.
 

9thWonder

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#19
Do you guys have any ideas for gifts that might get her into this scene? I was this thinking a black dildo but not sure if its suttle enough?! Any ideas or thoughts are appreciated!
How about instead of subtle machinations you just straight up tell her your fantasy?
 
#20
I should have mentioned, but somebody on the previous page pointed out, "doubles" are a fun choice too - they don't seem intimidating because they're obviously not mean to be taken all the way, but then sometimes a girl can find herself taking so much that she's suprised :oops: And of course they can be fun to play with, with another girl - though I think they're overrated compared to their prominence in porn.

As for the claim that "8" seems to be pretty much the average length enjoyed by most women" - I think most girls can work up to 8", and like me maybe more, but that's not a starting point in my experience with women.


:blackheart: Lanie