Then you will have to go through a dozen to find one. Sucks because it takes the fun out of the lifestyle!
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if i could just find real people
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DITTO ON THAT ! It's so amazing they talk a good game and then when it comes time to meet face to face they disappear.
If I was close to Eureka, I’d love to meet up.
It is frustrating, when you set up a meet and the guy not only doesn't show but doesn't even take time to let you know he won't make it. I have also had white guys who will pretend to be Black men. That one just annoys me big time. Just be an adult and do what you say you will do. If we have a meeting set up and something happens that we can't do it, I always send a text letting them know that we can't meet and this is why. It is common courtesy to me to let someone know you can't make it.
The best one I had happen not to long ago. My partner and I were meeting a Black man at a local resturant. We had arrived early and had gotten a table and were waiting on him. He said he was on his way. He said he was close then nothing. I watched a Black man walk into the resturant stand near the cash register look around then leave. I then got a text saying he wasn't going to make it. I knew it was him just from the way he acted. I know meeting for the first time can be a challenge. I am nervous when meeting a guy for the first time. Thus meeting in a public place, let's one relax and get to know each other with no strings attached.
The best one I had happen not to long ago. My partner and I were meeting a Black man at a local resturant. We had arrived early and had gotten a table and were waiting on him. He said he was on his way. He said he was close then nothing. I watched a Black man walk into the resturant stand near the cash register look around then leave. I then got a text saying he wasn't going to make it. I knew it was him just from the way he acted. I know meeting for the first time can be a challenge. I am nervous when meeting a guy for the first time. Thus meeting in a public place, let's one relax and get to know each other with no strings attached.
That is the problem with internet contacts. It's always been bad, but it's getting worse. I've had so many guys who just want to get off on talking about sex and texting. I can usually tell when they start requesting more and more pictures. When that happens, I stop sending pictures as that is likely all they are interested in. I had one guy on here who was suppose to meet me in Vegas tonight. Have not heard a word. I'm guessing I never will! It's no wonder a lot of guys can't get laid!
im honestly not sure why fakes would arrange a meeting...i dont follow that logic, do people really get off just being douche bags? i get how guys posing as fems or whites posing as blacks might want a few pics, but their so much free porn on the internet, the idea of having a meeting setting up and just not showing up....im simply not following the logic or what that does for them?? maybe im naive- new to this site
Some are fakes with no intention of going beyond fantasy and some find the reality too scary and flake out even though they though they wanted to play.
Sorry to hear that it hasn't gone well. Sometimes a few bumps in the road to get to the destination. Can't control others, but we can control our own behavior. We've all heard this before. Maybe take a break and return with fresh eyes, ears, mind and the rest. Positive change bring positive results.
Maxfield0316
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Why we arrange things carefully. Our photos are on fetlife. We arrange everything through fetlife. First meeting is always public, usually a restaurant and theres no pressure or expectations to perform in bed that night. Just a casual meet and greet, more commonly called a munch. If the guy flakes out or never shows up, we out them as fakes to the bdsm community. They then get blackballed out of community events and parties because they were outted. We warn them before arranging a meeting that they will be outted locally if they fail to show up or waste our time. This usually works well enough to weed out the fakes. Most won't even arrange the meeting with us knowing we will out them locally. You need a vetting process, and don't set your expectations too high on a first meetup. We're not pic collectors, we can find plenty of free nudes online, we don't give any pic requests or nudes until the first meeting is done and we've talked about it. Only pix we give are PG for the purpose of meeting up. They want to see her nude, they gotta show they are serious about meeting. No point giving them nudes up front, you can weed them out fast by not giving your nudes away immediately.
Come to.my.city.
Shame the UK is far but dont give up hun xx
Thanks, gonna keep pushing on til I find someone to push me
Lots of women on this site has done the same thing....its not just us men. Cold feet or just fakes.
Everyone seems to be in Socal
Unfortunately there are time wasters in the UK as well.... :-(
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Well hubby is very frustrated, it's his fetish to see me with someone
I understand, I know it's on both sides. Just makes it hard for the serious people. How did we do this before websites? LOL
