Great article, Dsoul, as ever. One part in particular I want to comment on is when you write 'and starts fucking her less'. This is what hubby was like with me in the year or so leading up to me starting. After a time of dildo play and acting out fantasy etc, we went through a period of no sex, hubby either didnt want to know or was 'tired' or whatever. I have asked him since and he said he doesnt know why it dried up but I think it was an attempt to push me into the arms of a black guy, to get my sexual needs elsewhere.
This, I think, is a dangerous ploy as I was beginning to think he didnt love me or fancy me, it could have put me in the arms of an ex lover off Facebook or something, so guys need to take care when using this strategy. As it is, it did sort of work with me, but only after a lot of reassurance!