Fighting the Cuckold Urge

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  1. Dsoul

    Dsoul Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    The Husband’s Urge, Pt. 2


    The urge never dies inside a hubby’s mind. Sure, it might pretend to go away for a while. The hubby might assume that all what he’s having is nothing but some weird, crazy type fantasy of his that will never ever come through. I’ve met numerous hubbies who always say the same thing. To them it was like being lost in their favorite dream: the desire of sitting back and watching someone else fuck their wife. Such hubbies describe to me the warm feeling it gave them to imagine such, and of falling back to bed laughing, telling themselves that it’s all just a dream. Something that’s never bound to come through.

    Yes, it’s never supposed to come through. But that won’t stop the urge from knocking at the back of their heads, making them wonder aloud when they’re alone: “But what if it really came through? Seriously, how spectacular that would be?

    The urge is yearning. It is infectious and commanding. Even worse, the hubby realizes he’s become a slave to his urges when he goes out and wherever he is, his eyes happen to sight interracial couples frolicking about with abandon. He begins to imagine what it would look like if the white woman lost in the black man’s arms were his wife. How would he respond if he were here watching his wife smiling and flirt coquettishly in public with another man. With a black man. The thought of such disgusts and simultaneously arouses the hubby as it works into his imagination. He is at a loss which picture to accept: would he be angry at her for breaking their marital vow to be with some other man, or would he be happy that finally she is giving herself a taste of erotic sexual pleasure/freedom that he is incapable of giving to her? But another thing that pesters him is whether he should be happy she’s cheating on him with a black man, instead of a white?

    The picture continues to trouble the husband, and it gets so bad that there isn’t anyone around whom he can tell about this sensuous feeling he’s having. Or if he’s right in the head to even be having it. He begins to look at his wife differently. He starts to pretend already that she’s fucking some black guy, and he watches her closely for any tell-tales of cheating. Even the wife sometimes might catch on to her hubby’s percolating thoughts but figure nothing harmless about it. Things go into overdrive when the hubby begins experimenting sexually with the wife whenever they’re having sex: The hubby starts eating the wife’s pussy with a frenzy that often surprises her, and starts fucking her less. Even when he fucks her, he imagines she’s already fucked some man already before coming home. He imagines she’s just fucked a black man! And instead of him being afraid, or angry with himself for having such crazy thoughts, he actually starts enjoying it.

    http://damiendsoul.blogspot.com/2014/07/black-owned-husbands-urge-pt-2.html


    Was it a struggle for you when you found out you had the "Cuckold Urge" of wanting your wife to enjoy being with a bull?
     
  2. Bellaazz

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    This is a great article. Yes, it was definitely a struggle for me. The "urge" to watch her with another man became stronger and stronger. It started to take over during our sex life as you mentioned so that when we were together, it was almost impossible for me to get hard unless I was imagining her with a bull. Black especially. Then as you mentioned, I began eating her pussy like a man possessed. We would rent porn (usually with a white wife and a black lover) and during the entire movie, Id be eating her pussy and getting her off as she watched. She could cum 4 or 5 times and I never got tired of it and after she'd be too spent to fuck or get me off. This fed the urge even more until it become obvious to us both that we needed to turn this fantasy into a reality
     
  3. jeannie4u

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    yes very much so, closet cd but becomeing more and more addicted to dressing and thinking of being a good sissy for a real man
     
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  4. Sluttysams hubby

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    I do really want to see my wife get fucked! I think...
     
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  5. Dsoul

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    You've had the urge for so long but never realized it until recently, as it's starting to take a stronger hold of you.
     
  6. Dsoul

    Dsoul Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    You've had the urge for so long but never realized it until recently, as it's starting to take a stronger hold of you.
     
  7. Dsoul

    Dsoul Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    What advise would you give other couples who're struggling with this urge, especially since you too have being through it before?
     
  8. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Well, I certainly would recommend trying to make this urge a reality. How to do this depends on the persons involved and sexual views. I am sure you have a lot of great suggestions in that regard. I do know in my personal experiences that both of my wives needed to be assured that I wasn't trying to set this up in order to sleep with other women. They need to be totally convinced this isn't the case. It is hard to determine what will work for someone and not for someone else however I do know that this overwhelming URGE to watch your wife fucked cannot be repressed as it will totally consume you
     
  9. Dsoul

    Dsoul Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Such is what I've many times communicated to a lot of hubbies who've enquired from me how to go about doing this. Problem I get from them is they're too fascinated by the fantasy aspect and overwhelmed with fear by the need to actually jump-start into things.
     
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  10. CuckJordan

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    I've definitely struggled with my cuckold desires. I go back and forth. Sometimes I'm really into it, and other times I'm not sure if it's the right thing for me. Is it just a fantasy? Do I want to actually do it? And if I do, will I ever find a woman who will want it, too? It can seem hopeless. I'll go a week or two without watching any IR porn or frequenting cuckold blogs or whatever, but I always get the itch and go right back to it. I can't quit. My urge to be a cuckold always returns.
     
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  11. Ann4BBC

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    Great article, Dsoul, as ever. One part in particular I want to comment on is when you write 'and starts fucking her less'. This is what hubby was like with me in the year or so leading up to me starting. After a time of dildo play and acting out fantasy etc, we went through a period of no sex, hubby either didnt want to know or was 'tired' or whatever. I have asked him since and he said he doesnt know why it dried up but I think it was an attempt to push me into the arms of a black guy, to get my sexual needs elsewhere.
    This, I think, is a dangerous ploy as I was beginning to think he didnt love me or fancy me, it could have put me in the arms of an ex lover off Facebook or something, so guys need to take care when using this strategy. As it is, it did sort of work with me, but only after a lot of reassurance!
     
  12. TwoBiFour

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    Hubby replying...

    No struggle at all. Nothing I love more than seeing my wife's face, gazing into her eyes and looking into her soul during her time in total ecstasy. I can do that in first person during missionary, but that is the only position and I can't watch the rest of her body. I need the 3rd person view so I can watch her entire body and every different position yields different body language and expressions. Exceptionally beautiful and sexy. It's emotionally satisfying to watch her body in sync with her Orgasms and to watch her uncontrollable movements tell a story of fire and lust is nothing short of remarkable.

    Everything else is just added kink.
     
  13. Chip

    Chip Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Of course there is a struggle your wife is yours but when she wants black men and it makes her happy you want to please her too. To not feel a little hurt that another guy is screwing your wifes pussy is normal but you do feel some guilt in watching/hearing her being screwed to, yes a struggle!
     
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  14. TwoBiFour

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    I look at it as a win - win. We are both getting what we want and those desires out weigh the jealousy and guilt. Besides, it's not healthy to focus on the negative and you can channel that negative to enhance the positive ;)
     
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  15. TwoBiFour

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    Thats a hot picture by the way.
     
  16. marriedslut4blax

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    GREAT POST..I SURE WOULD LOVE FOR MY HUBBIE TO READ AND REPLY ON THIS 1 ;) ( I read it yesterday love ya)
     
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  17. Race

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    I've just recently come to terms with black men being bigger and better than me, I don't want to think about anything else for a while now
     
  18. small balls

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    I don't want to fight the urge. I want to surrender to it
     
  19. lOCalcpl

    lOCalcpl Member

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    Daily struggle. Pretty much the only thing I fantasize over anymore yet I am still unsure
     
  20. Dsoul

    Dsoul Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Yes, you're very sure. You simply need someone to knock the doubts off your mind!