Different strokes I guess. I realize that some people get off on being humiliated. I've played the dominate role but only for costume/Halloween type parties. I've had 3 different guys who I led around by a leash attached to his balls at Fantasy Fest in Key West. One was my doggie another was my pony. I do know how to properly use a flogger and riding crop. I always bring handcuffs. I might want to leave him unattended with almost nothing on for the other girls to do as they please with him. I don't want them to steal him. This the handcuffs. I had an amazing time! I did get a lot of help from other girls punishing my naughty doggy! This is just fun sex play. However, I could never do that to my husband. I would never say anything nasty or degrading to him. I do thank him for allowing me to have my fun.