No, I don't think so. It's definitely "the thing" for some people in this lifestyle, but not all. I don't think my husband would go for much of that. It's mostly just the extreme eroticism of me being with other men (and he sometimes being with other women), that kicks it up a notch for us! Of course, I am cuckolding him by being with other, better endowed, black men. That's gotta be a little humiliating...