AnjaLepota
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cuckold guide
My intention is to help the men deal with the proverbial bear trap of becoming a cuckold, voyeur, or simply someone who wants to sexually liberate their partner. It is possible to do this in a logical, precise, and most importantly, in a way which will not alarm your partner. I also have a guide for woman on how to approach this from the opposite view if interested. This guide is very long as it is a holistic approach. Everything from health, diet, and psychology is discussed. However, for the impatient you can jump straight to the "cuckold" section at the end.
About Me
As of the time of this writing I am a 40 year old happily married director, and partial owner, of a major tech firm. I have had the immense pleasure of traveling and living in 3 different countries over the last 20 years. I am bilingual and used to work in a very technical field. Also, I have successfully sexually liberated 5 women, all of which were very conservative with all types of men (With my current wife being number 5, still very much a work in progress). But more importantly, and more rewarding at times, I have coached over a dozen men successfully into this lifestyle (and half as many women). The pinnacle of which was a 1.5 year journey with a very wealthy Arab immigrant from Saudi Arabia, lets call him Amir, who I took a personal stake in getting his 15 years junior trophy wife Mina past the finish line. Personal stake as in he claimed this was an impossible task, so impossible it was pointless. Not only did he want his wife to cuck him, he wanted her to do it with a black man. Well in order to get him to commit I told him I would work on commission, no money needed. If we were successful, then I wanted to meet his wife once. He was really intrigued that I was confident and cared enough to forgo payment. Well, once we got her to the finish line successfully and smoothly without any drama, he made good on his word and unknown to me literally sent me his wife first class to meet me at my office. Absolutely lovely woman. His story was a text book “impossible” case, and I will refer to it, as it was really the culmination of all my learned lessons over 20 years that made it possible. To be clear this is not a solicitation for coaching, the point of this guide is to allow you to guide yourself. However, If you feel you need more help than I can provide here, feel free to reach out.
Prerequisites and No Go Zones
Its very important to point out not every single woman on this planet is capable of living this lifestyle and likewise not every man on the planet can do this. However, with that caveat out of the way, nearly all are capable with the right psychology applied. I didn’t always believe this until I started coaching. That’s when all the pieces of the puzzle came together for me. Men and women generally follow patterns in behavior and response with minor variations. These variations seem large upon inspection, but once you abstract it out a bit, its really enlightening to see that’s not really the case. Don’t worry if this is getting out there, we will get practical very soon. There are certain no go zones I will mention when relevant. These are just generally terrible ideas that never workout in reality.
Where to Start
This really depends on where you currently are, but for the sake of this guide we will assume you are at step zero, including a spectrum of personal circumstances from not even having a partner yet to being married but having never broached the subject. Again, this is my assumption. First some principles I’ve noticed that generally hold true (These will be explained in more detail):
1.) The more submissive you are in the relationship, the harder this will be.
2.) The longer you have been in your relationship, the harder it will be for you (This is good to know for those about to get into a relationship)
3.) Nearly all of the advice given online is terrible.
Point One – How to Fix Being Submissive
Lets examine point number one. This one is extremely protracted and might seem to veer off course, but I assure you this is all related. The good news is this is fixable. Women inherently want to please strong men. Its a very primal, genetic instinct. Even though there is a concerted effort to reverse the natural inclination of women, genetics always win. You don’t have to worry about it this one, it will fix itself under the right environment.
The first part of being dominant is simply being healthy. If you are healthy, great you can skip this, but I have some very good advice here, from everything to fixing ED to losing weight easily. I am 40 years old and people think I am in my 20’s. I have rock hard erections literally every day. So, lets get straight to it.
Lets start with your dick
The way you get an erection as a man is through a term called “vasodilation”, it simply refers to the expansion of healthy arteries via a myriad of processes but generally controlled by nitric oxide production. There is also a hormonal part to this as well and we will get to that. For reference, viagra is a vasodilation *******. As you age or if you are unhealthy your arteries lose much of its ability to produce nitric oxide.
Luckily for us, there has been so much research into heart disease that we know certain foods can increase our ability to produce nitric oxide by a large margin. Namely, dark leafy greens. The number one being Arugula (or rocket lettuce in the UK). Its very important you understand how this works, as this is by far the best aphrodisiac I’ve ever experienced. When you chew dark leafy greens, the cells in the greens mix with a bacteria in your mouth to start the process of nitric oxide production. If you use mouth wash, you lose these healthy bacteria (Mouth wash is not healthy at all by the way, simply floss and brush, no need to brush your tongue unless you have certain disorders) and thus you will lose your ability to produce extra nitric oxide via this method. Also you can sprinkle a bit of balsamic vinegar for an almost doubling effect as balsamic vinegar has an molecule that prevents the enzyme that breaks down nitric oxide from working as fast. It just takes a little. Just chew it up nicely in your mouth letting it mix with the saliva a few times per day, and after one to two weeks you will have the dick of a teenager again. I recommend using organic Arugula and always washing it before eating, even if it is “prewashed”.
It is very important you DO NOT USE OIL OR OIL CONTAINING SALAD DRESSINGS as they will completely blunt the effect.
Treat this as medicine not food.
Weight management
Your body is one big calorie counter, whether you like it or not. If you are struggling with weight, incorporate more high fiber foods and cut back on processed sugars. For example, if you like pasta, a high calorie food, I suggest replacing it with “fiber gourmet” pastas, which have 50% less calories than regular pasta. They use infused with indigestible fiber and taste decent. Don’t even bother with whole wheat, still has nearly the same amount of calories. Another example is 45 calorie bread slices. Or even 40 calorie high fiber bread. Anyways, I think you are getting the point here. You don’t necessarily have to eat less volume, you can still fill your belly up while cutting calories. Grapes have 2 calories, for example. Also, making a habit of walking 15 to 20 minutes after meals helps a lot.
I also highly suggest water fasting. Start with 16 hours a few times. Then try a 24 hour. Then 48 hour. Really no need to go beyond 48 hour unless you are looking to fix some pain or injury. 72 hour fasts are great for that too.
Dominate
This is mostly mental but there are some very real physical things we must address beforehand. Firstly, if you are drinking alcohol, stop. Its a poison, literally, and it kills your male hormones like a magic bullet (Obviously if you are addicted you must stop gradually). If you are using lots of marijuana you need to scale that back too. Although safe physically, it mentally kills all ambition in most men. Not all, but most, and you are completely incapable of self judging this.
The last physical aspect linked to mental domination is hormone regulation. For men, its very simple. Simply lift weights. Join a gym, and start lifting on machines. If you are out of shape, trust me, use the machines. Lift slow, no jerking the weights, that how you get injured. 4 seconds up and 4 seconds down. Nice and slow. You really only need to do one set to failure. By failure we mean you can’t possibly lift another. Give yourself 4 days rest (5 even if you feel sore) between working the same muscle. That’s it.
Now the mental part. Let me present to you an interesting and sad fact. Couples in the west generally stop having sex after 2 to 3 years together. But in the Middle East, or Eastern Europe for example, couples generally remain having sex their entire lives. The reason for this is very simple. Men fill a masculine and dominating role and women do the opposite. This is genetically as intended. I spent much of my life in Eastern Europe and I can assure you this is true. Its not something people just say.
Western men really need to change their mindset. The first one is self doubt. Stop with that garbage. If you apply yourself you can be just as good and competent as anyone else. Be confident when appropriate. Stop talking so much small talk to your partner. If its not important, don’t fucking say it. It just makes you look weak and too agreeable. Also, its never ok to cry in front of your partner as a man. No matter what anybody tells you don’t do this.
If you have followed my health advice above (Especially the daily arugula / balsamic vinegar salads) you will have the biggest and hardest erections of your life and your hormones will be through the roof. Take charge when fucking your wife/partner. Again, if you have followed my simple advice above this generally works itself out.
Make sure you understand how to pleasure a woman and give her an orgasm. Research the clitoris and understand how women masturbate, that is a good guide on how to pleasure them. You absolutely need to know how to go down on a woman. Look it up. Do what you have to do. Also learn how to fuck properly. A lot of women like missionary sex with lots of thrusting and rubbing. Don’t just “bang bang”, use your hips.
Start dressing better. Wear nice slacks with nice dress shirts. Whatever you need to do. Watch a youtube channel or two on looking better. Get at least one suit, try to wear it once a week a least.
Lastly, if you are following the above principles, hopefully you will have the drive and motivation to earn more, or get a better job. Its very important that your wife doesn’t work full time. Its life draining and not natural for women to work like that. This may seem like a tall task, especially if your wife likes her job, but trust me. Once you start dominating a woman through respect and not sheer ******* you will be amazed at how her attitude will change. Having a rock hard cock all the time definitely helps here as well. If she works full time, transition her to part time. And if its financially possible let her stay home.
Don’t mistake this for being mean. Being mean and being dominate are not the same thing. Its very important for women to get your approval when they do the right things. For example, lets say your wife starts sucking your dick after a hard day’s work, and trust me she will want to if you follow the steps. Its important you let her know how good she is doing and how proud of her you are. Positive reinforcement. Blowjobs are one of the major ways my wife seeks my approval. If Anja does something to stress me out I already know she will be on her knees with my dick in her mouth very soon. Its already understood.
Point Two – Earlier the better
Note, we still have not gotten into HOW to introduce this to your wife, this is merely about WHEN. We will get to the how soon enough. Generally speaking, going from a married guy who sneaks into the bathroom to masturbate and watch porn to proposing your wife fucks a random guy for you is a bit of a stretch. One of the “No Go Zones” is popping the question out of nowhere. Even if the woman wants to do it, she is likely not to admit it like that. Women are very sensitive about this topic for many reasons. Trust me, don’t do it. Ever. Trust the system being explained here.
Now if you are new into a relationship I suggest taking the upcoming guide to gently transitioning your women as soon as possible in the relationship.
Point Three – Most Advice is Terrible
Most advice on the internet and cuckold forums is extremely bad. Either its given by a black man who really knows little about a random suburban white woman’s psychology or social pressures. Even more so if they are from a wildly different “class”. This isn’t a porno movie or an internet forum. This is real life, and if you have social status and marriage/family concerns this can literally be a matter of life and death (In terms of a marriage).
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Now we are moving on to the main event with the assumption you have generally been working towards a more dominant state and your health and personal affairs are on point. Again, you don’t need perfection, nobody is perfect. You must be making a serious effort. A big part of this is the woman feeling complete trust in your leadership.
The very first step is occasionally telling your wife/gf to dress by explicitly telling her it makes you feel powerful when men stare and notice her. This is what all powerful men do, they show off their trophy wives/girlfriends anyway. This is very important do not skip this step. Don’t overdo it every time. But don’t be afraid to insist she changes into something better.
Hopefully your wife is in shape as you have followed the guide. This step only works if your wife/partner is worthy of getting men’s attention. Women love when men notice them, even if they don’t intend to cheat. Its affirmation. And its even more powerful in person than on social media. Once a woman realizes the power her ass holds it becomes natural. Now if your wife is obese, or generally unkempt this will short circuit the whole process as she won’t receive the affirmation.
Let’s look at a real life example I had. Amir’s case was stymied right from the beginning. His wife was very conservative and dressed in some of the most unflattering clothes I’ve seen. Very ironic given she had and absolutely stunning body. Small waist with an nice round and wide ass along with extremely full tear drop shaped C-cup breasts. Easily one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen.
All of her clothes were very thick one piece Arab style with no bends at the waist. She absolutely refused to wear sexy western style clothes as her extended family was in close contact frequently and unexpectedly a lot. So after much though I suggested that Amir find a tailor that can custom make some more attractive clothes, especially to accentuate her nice hips. The first attempt was a dud, as he used a middle east specialist tailor. It was better but still awful. So I suggested he let me find one for him. After what seemed like 20+ calls to his local area I found a gay guy, very easy to talk to. Explained the situation the we needed something sexy to accentuate her body but not grab family attention. He was very creative and said, “almost like accidental sexy?”. Fucking perfect. I immediately sent Amir his way. 48 hours later I get an excited message from Amir with a picture of her from the back. First thought was fucking nailed it! He basically cut the garb in half, sucked in the waist and replaced the bottom with silk thin and tight material, sewed the patter back on the sides and front but left the back free. At first glace looks ok, but her ass is completely exposed in a skin tight and very thin material. I could even make out her underwear line. But at the same time not overdone. Very hard to explain in words, but fucking perfect. I think Amir spent 10K at that guys shop alone and she was willing to wear all of it in public.
It was a good feeling once Amir told me male attention her way was 10X higher. Lots more men approaching in stores and she seemed to take very much pleasure in her new found attention from the male gazes coming her way.
Now let me describe Amir’s wife Mina a bit more. She is tall, maybe 5’10”, very light almost white skin and very Arab features. Nice deep hazel eyes, tall thin nose, fairly defined outline. Very, very attractive. She would look right at home next to any rich Arab Sheikh. Really large and erection inducing ass with great pointy tear drop breasts. Very nice legs as well. Overall, top tier genetics.
Back to the point at hand, nothing is too far out of reach. Just be creative.
Next is how to use porn and what type of porn. Another “No Go Zone” is jumping into gonzo hardcore low budget porn, or any type of other strange kink you have, like piss porn or anything like that. I highly suggest Marc Dorcel’s french porn with actual plots. Its a good producer to use as he also has high class porn that delves into cuckolding in a classy way. But don’t start with that. There are plenty of vanilla sex movies to choose from. Light interracial porn here is ok as well, as in one or two black actors in the film (Assuming you are going for black men for your kicks). Don’t bring up anything racial in the beginning.
At this point just focus on being dominate and assertive but not weird about sex or porn. Remember positive reinforcement when she does sexual favors for you. Don’t be afraid to talk to her while she is being submissive, generally that means sucking your dick. Be sure to tell her how good she is doing. Remember to talk to her the way a ******* talks to a baby. Make sure you are always giving instructions as well to reinforce your dominance.
At this point introduce dildos. Nothing crazy and it doesn’t have to be a black one, in fact I don’t suggest that yet. I suggest the first one is not too thick and not too long. If you are going for interracial stuff, we will introduce the larger black one later to further codify the association with big dicks and black men. The point here is to make sure you tell her you want to watch her use it. Make her use it performatively for you. Have her suck it like she’s giving it a blowjob. This will help greatly with her performance anxiety over time.
Again, there are no hard and fast rules here. In Amir’s case he went for a 6” relatively thin one to start with. In his case we had her use it for 8 months before stepping up to a very thick black dildo.
Another point here is we don’t want to rush straight to the huge one. Part of the selling point is the contrast from nice size white dildo to pussy stretching black dildo (Girth not length, too long can have an opposite effect and scare a girl away. Long dicks can be painful).
At this point mention you like when the porn features a bigger cock, and mention you will look for something online. Tell her explicitly like its an afterthought. Then on your next session mention you could only find a huge black guy to watch, at this point you can introduce more hardcore porn. After watching together mention you want to see her use a bigger dildo. Its best to telegraph these thoughts in real time, like its organic. Make it seem genuinely organic. Avoid cuckold porn, or anything low brow still.
Now its time to step up to a bigger black dildo. Again to reference Amir’s case, he got a VERY THICK WITH REALISTIC VEINS 7” Black dildo. He confirmed it was a winner on the very first session, Mina had several back to back orgasms with it. Amir said the entire bed was covered in her creamy discharge, something he had never seen before. She also was enthralled by the hardcore fucking she was watching on the screen. Make sure to keep associating these two. And be sure to keep her performing for you. Its very important she gets used to sucking black dick in front of you.
You shouldn’t mention anything yet about fucking other men. Have patience, it needs to seem organic. What you should be doing at this point is encouraging or setting up situations where she is out alone.
I believe I can demonstrate the rest by recounting the rest of Amir’s case:
AMIR'S CASE STUDY
In Amir’s case he would drop Mina off at the mall for hours at a time, which was in a mixed part of the city. Plenty of aggressive young black men around. Amir would make a point to arrive an hour before he was to pick her up and try shadow her. Mina was getting plenty of attention and he noticed she often talked to one clerk in particular. It seems a particular tall, muscular brother noticed the big ass attached to that gorgeous woman. It was a small jewelry store and he was the only employee there, it was off in a slow part of the mall but visible from the second floor walking area. He caught Mina there on a few separate occasions. Now, what follows here is clearly not normal but keep in mind Amir is very wealthy. He hired a private eye to film her through the mall and give him the footage. No joke. I have no idea how you film somebody without noticing but he did a great job. I thought this was a completely crazy idea if he could just shadow her, but the footage was absolutely awesome. I got to watch it and tell him my thoughts.
Most of it was garbage obviously, but before she visited our mystery man she took a detour into a service hallway and pulled out a pocket mirror and applied a little bit of makeup. After which she adjusted her dress several times clearly to accentuate her ass. I finally realize, she’s going to see our mystery man, and that’s exactly what she did. She took out her phone and casually walks in the store and turns around to look at the shelves so the our man can get a clear look at her ass. Text book low key female peacock behavior. Within a minute our guy comes out from behind the counter and they start talking. She tries on something kind of bracelet thing for a moment they continue to talk. Finally they turn side to side from the camera perspective and this poor guy is clearly clearly getting an erection inside his pants, he keeps pushing it down with his arm but god damn it was super obvious. At this point she is openly darting her gaze down at his crotch area, which I think makes him pitch even harder. They keep talking for literally 25 minutes, and at this point is why Amir sent me the footage, as it appears they exchange phone numbers. She clearly has her cell phone out and is checking a message at the same time his phone is out and he is typing on it. Amir said he wasn’t sure if this was “anything”. I made it clear to him, for sure they exchanged numbers. On top of that she was giving hard glances at his crotch and I noticed her tongue unconsciously sweeping licking her perfectly manicured lips several time while staring directly into his eyes. Intense stuff right there.
Amir, understandably excited, angry and scared at the same time asked for next steps. I reminded him she has not cheated yet, but lets not give her the opportunity to do that without your blessing. You must maintain control. Girls take numbers all the time without cheating, I reminded him of that.
At this point Amir was instructed to introduced some Marc Dorcel studios Cuckold porn, I highly recommend the Marc Dorcel “Luxure” series. There are a variety of different titles in that series with differing degrees of cuckolding material and wife training. Its very important you explicitly mention the topic of how sexy it is, and again explicitly state how hot or sexy it is to image your wife doing that for you. Mina definitely took notice and asked for details about his fantasy. Amir mentioned he wanted to see her with a big strong guy.
After a few more fuck sessions the topic was brought up again after some addition cuckold porn was introduced. She was very excited about the idea at this point, so Amir after consulting with me, commanded her to find a guy that excited her. He made it clear this was a one time thing, and she had to follow his rules, he had to be there to watch. Amir said they had the best sex ever the night they set up a plan. Mina said she didn’t know anybody but would look for him (clearly a lie, no big deal at this point).
Mina didn’t bring it up for a few days, I told Amir to reinforce it was ok. So he basically instructed her to find someone. Again, women need reinforcement. Magically two days later Mina said she “found a guy online” and was ready anytime.
At this point given the experiences I’ve had I told Amir not to jump in without vetting. Vetting a potential bull is very important as this is mostly for your sake in the end. How was the guy like? Penis size, comfortable with you around ,etc ,etc. Amir told Mina before they meet to get him on a text message thread and he would pose as her and get some information. Mina got a conversation going without hesitation. I insisted Amir get a dick pick, even if he was tall and muscular he might have an undersized penis. Also insisted they schedule a rapid HIV/STD panel as well. The conversation went well, he was a bit hesitant about being watched but said it was ok, and he indeed had a rather large dick. Probably around 7 inches very thick and veiny. A touch smaller than her black dildo at the worst.
Everything was worked out and they were to meet on that Friday evening, and it was Wednesday now. Amir texted me with great excitement. After more than a whole year’s work it was finally happening.
The day of, Amir said Mina was giddy like a little girl almost. After serving his breakfast she sucked his dick twice one hour apart. Amir instructed her to get ready for the rest of the day. She meticulously did her makeup for over an hour and lotion-ed and oiled her entire body until she was soft all over. Amir mentioned she had bright red satin lingerie that made her look absolutely stunning. This was one lucky guy.
I got a text when he arrived from Amir and said he would let me know how it went. At this point I felt really connected and involved personally for Amir and hoped for the best. I waited for what seemed like forever, and almost 3 hours later to the minute I got a text saying “best night of my life!, I really owe you one.”. 20 minutes after that I got a call from from him as he promised the details. The first thing he said was “that guy really fucked good!, it was amazing”. I got the details later and it was indeed amazing. Shortly after I met Mina for a short time and that too was amazing.
So there you have it. By creating an organic experience from start to finish you can really save yourself a lot of embarrassment and self doubt on the subject. Again, if anyone needs personal guidance or encouragement I do offer it as a service. Sometimes people just need somebody to talk to that understands the thrill of it. I walk the walk too, as Anja, my wife has a few regular partners. Our next journey is going to the “dark side” so to speak as Amir did here.
