when I read in the media size doesn't matter this is total bullshit based on my experience (the media are dominated by white men....), of course size is not all but for me it's the basis to be able to orgasm from intercourse (I'm not talking about oral with a skilled men, like my hubby "now" since he is in chastity, which can also be nice), but since I have my black lover I have experienced how huge the difference to hubbies penis is, if my pussy will be stretched by his huge penis (huge in length and girth) I always have sensational orgasms (several) and I think this is because my clit and my g-spot will be stimulated simultaneously, in addition to the size the stamina is important (my black lover never ejaculates before I had at least one orgasm - totally different to hubby), the erection angle is also important (if it is steep my g-spot will much better stimulated), every women is different but for me also the strength and the amount of the cum shooting is a huge turn on (hubbies dribbling in contrast is a turn off), my lover never is "finished" after his first ejaculation but can do it twice and sometimes even three times, another very important factor for me is the erection hardness, I recently read an article about "The erection hardness score and its relationship to successful sexual intercourse", there a four scale score for the erection hardness is mentioned: level 1: larger but not hard, level 2: hard but not hard enough for penetration, level 3: not completely hard but just hard enough for penetration, level 4: completely hard and fully rigid. During sex the penis of my black lover is almost always in the level 4 status, hubby in the past was very rare in level 4 most time "just" in level 3 or in between level 2 and 3, now - due to his long term chastity - he reaches only level two anymore. When he is unlocked, he is able to masturbate but not to penetrate, recently I had a ladies night with my best friend who introduced me to the lifestyle, she brought a sex rubber doll with her and we asked hubby if we would like to be unlocked for an additional release outside his regular schedule, he said yes and we asked him to pump up the rubber doll and fuck her in front of us for our amusement, he tried several times but was unable to penetrate the doll, so he missed his chance and we did not allowed him to masturbate, but nevertheless we were amused a lot "LOL"