To each her own some of us get off on the pain and humilation
PERSONALLY AS A MAN THE PAIN THING WAS A SENSE OF AN EXQUISITE INTENSITY WHEN DRIPPING HOT WAX ON MY PRICK FOR A FEW SECONDS AT A TIME SHEER BLISS,SUPPOSE ITS HOW WOMEN FEEL THE INTENSITY OF IT ALL. WHEN REACHING FOR THE UTMOST PLEASURE.
 
Why do men want to hurt women???? I have never been tied up but would have no objections with the right person as long as it was for both our pleasure and definitely not pain. I find it hard to believe that any woman would want to be sadistically hurt. I hope most men are not like this and I would dearly love to know what men get out of it???

I know this is a year old but I feel I have to pick it up.

When you explore BDSM (for real, not just porn) you find you're in a world with the widest range imaginable and even beyond. Everything means something to someone and most people have vastly different views. Doesn't mean they're wrong - just different.

From my own point of view, it's very simple - it's not about making her do things she doesn't want to do - it's about finding out what things she wants to be made to do!

It's not all like that.

The abusive (one-sided) relationships are just wrong at any price and on any level but there are others. I've known several women whose 'submission' and sexual preference was created by an abusive situation from long ago and one where they found the only escape was to learn to 'enjoy' it. I Find that incredibly sad but I can't change it.

I've known women who simply get off on being (physically) controlled. Some were very petite and loved the fact that I was literally twice their size and could throw them across the room and onto the bed. Others were 'big girls' (5'10" + and well-built) who wanted to feel petite by virtue of not being able to overcome either me or their restraints.

One very beautiful woman who I genuinely thought was just about to orgasm as we made love then whispered in my ear "I need you to hurt me"!!! At that point, I really wasn't prepared! Going way back, my one and only virgin one day sprawled naked on the floor in front of me and demanded that I "do something dominant"!! Again, totally not ready for that!!

Some women do enjoy pain and that in itself is a discovery which - if you're part of it - can be a truly magical thing. It's all about identifying and understanding what your partner wants or needs at any given time.

I knew a woman who was a genuine masochist. She needed physical pain in order to achieve orgasm. That's too far for me but fortunately she knew a couple of guys she could call on when needed and she'd basically end up in a fight with them. The 'magic' was that they understood and knew just how much to hurt her in order to magnify the monumental fucking they would subsequently give her - and is made her happy.

Dylan summed it up perfectly; "and don't criticise what ya can't understand...." but I do appreciate that this subject perhaps above all others can be incredibly hard to understand, especially if you're not (or haven't been) part of it.

If it's not for you, that's ok and if it IS for you, that's ok too!
 
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