Ask A Hotwife

[allinone]

For me I like dirty talk like being called a slut and such.


Thank you for enjoying the thread and I am glad to see people asking questions and other women in the lifestyle giving great answers and sharing their side.

For my husband and I it was actually an easy transition as we both had failed at traditional relationships in the past due to our sex drives. So we went into our relationship and marriage knowing what we both wanted and accepting of that. We sat down and talked about the details and what all would need to be done and how things were to be handled so it wasn't just chaos.

In your situation it is going to be tricky if it ever happens and I would like you mention not push. You two are young and it sounds like you have a solid relationship built. Quite honestly she might be perfectly happy with where she is sex and relationship wise. Cuckolding or being a hotwife is not for everyone and it has to be her decision. I am not meaning to scold you but there is an issue out there that men want to see their wives or girlfriends do this and then they push and it can do far more damage than anything good coming from it. Find the line between encouragement and being pushing. I also preach the word threesome. Start there and see if she is open to the idea of a threesome with someone. Chances are if she turns that down she is not wanting to go through with the other stuff and it will give both of you a fair chance to see and feel what it is like to have another person in your sex life. I find it is a lot easier to get done with a threesome that didn't work and recover from that then a failed attempt at cuckolding or getting your partner to cheat.

I really like this response/opinion. Maybe, just maybe the start of a new thread is necessary. That would be the topic of "threesome". It has no connotation of hotwife and eliminates the humiliation factor. My opinion is that a threesome would peak the interest of a majority here. I, for one, am turned on by having sex with my wife and having another man join us. My selfish motive would be that the third be a BBC. It has nothing to do with bisexuality and more about my wife enjoying two men at the same time and letting herself go. If I happen to finish first, I would gladly step aside and let her experience her BBC on her own. Does this make sense to anyone else? I would love to hear your responses

 

[hard4u]

I'm with you girl. 6 ft to ride this ride.

You are a very nice looking ride.

 

[Stlcouple0701]

What are your thoughts on the first hotwife experience being with a past lover?

Bit of background - we've been dating for over 2 years and fantasised about her fucking other guys for nearly the whole time. I told her about my fantasy early on and she's gotten more and more into it and is great at role playing and telling me stories about her past. We've just never taken the next step.

She is hesitant to do it with a stranger and feels she'd be more comfortable and get more into it with someone she's been with and enjoyed sex with.

We've got two guys in mind. Both live in different countries and are people she had short relationships with while working abroad.

We've chatted to one of the guys and he's really keen, here's a link to some of the conversation -

https://imgur.com/a/Hopab

For me the idea is really hot, only query would be sparking old feelings. Have any of you guys done this before?

Nice avatar pic, mine looks just like that from behind

 

[solosucio]

My husband isn't a cuck so I can't answer that.
As a Hotwife I play alone.
Sex without a 3rd sitting and watching is so much better. The BBC I'm with performs much better when they aren't worried about my husband sitting there.

Yeah, but what if you're doing a group?

 

[Misterhusband]

I really like this response/opinion. Maybe, just maybe the start of a new thread is necessary. That would be the topic of "threesome". It has no connotation of hotwife and eliminates the humiliation factor. My opinion is that a threesome would peak the interest of a majority here. I, for one, am turned on by having sex with my wife and having another man join us. My selfish motive would be that the third be a BBC. It has nothing to do with bisexuality and more about my wife enjoying two men at the same time and letting herself go. If I happen to finish first, I would gladly step aside and let her experience her BBC on her own. Does this make sense to anyone else? I would love to hear your responses

I am the same way. I just want my wife to experience total pleasure. We have done 2 mmf nights, and both were before we married over 10 years ago. Since then, i have failed at convincing her to do it again. I even offered hotwifing, bbc, cuck or mmf. She wont seem to do any. I dont understand.

 

[HotwifeofOhio]

Yeah, but what if you're doing a group?

Nobody is sitting around lurking. If I am with two men, they are playing.

 

[allinone]

I am the same way. I just want my wife to experience total pleasure. We have done 2 mmf nights, and both were before we married over 10 years ago. Since then, i have failed at convincing her to do it again. I even offered hotwifing, bbc, cuck or mmf. She wont seem to do any. I dont understand.

Not sure what to say. Did she have a good time? Is she going through menopause? I know that is a forward question but it may have something to do about it? *******?

 

[solosucio]

Nobody is sitting around lurking. If I am with two men, they are playing.

Haha - "lurking" is pretty good. There is something natural about entertaining a group, but not much natural about watching.

 

[MarriedWhite]

I really like this response/opinion. Maybe, just maybe the start of a new thread is necessary. That would be the topic of "threesome". It has no connotation of hotwife and eliminates the humiliation factor. My opinion is that a threesome would peak the interest of a majority here. I, for one, am turned on by having sex with my wife and having another man join us. My selfish motive would be that the third be a BBC. It has nothing to do with bisexuality and more about my wife enjoying two men at the same time and letting herself go. If I happen to finish first, I would gladly step aside and let her experience her BBC on her own. Does this make sense to anyone else? I would love to hear your responses

What a wonderfully written piece! My husband and I agree that you could have been looking over our shoulders and into our life together as you wrote this. We have been involved in threesomes for several years but neither humiliation, degradation nor anything even hinting at that kind of behavior has been a part of our games. We love each other and do this for the pleasure it brings.

Many here will disagree with us, but that’s okay. We are not a collection of clones so there will always be differences of opinion on just about any topic one might choose, and this one is no different.

 

[allinone]

What a wonderfully written piece! My husband and I agree that you could have been looking over our shoulders and into our life together as you wrote this. We have been involved in threesomes for several years but neither humiliation, degradation nor anything even hinting at that kind of behavior has been a part of our games. We love each other and do this for the pleasure it brings.

Many here will disagree with us, but that’s okay. We are not a collection of clones so there will always be differences of opinion on just about any topic one might choose, and this one is no different.

We seem to have a lot in common. I believe you guys quoted another piece that we wrote.

 

[firedogg81]

Great topic some great information as I continue to try moving my wife into the lifestyle it's always good to read about how others got there and how they've gone on successfully in the lifestyle and in their marriage

 

[6ft7bbc]

Over 6 ft please

6ft7 here

 

[BlackElephant]

do hotwives develop more love for bulls than for beta male whiteboi cucky?

 

[hwkate]

This thread popped up and sparked and interest.. Kate's Husband here, I just wanna state an opinion.. and exactly that, its my opinion.
Hotwifing can be great thing to enhance an existing "great" relationship.
One thing I wanna comment on is, the term "cuckolding"
again, everyone has their opinion, mine is.. I was told by an elder, back in the early 90s, that if I fucked my bosses wife, I would be "cuckolding" him.
first time I had ever heard that word. so, the humiliation, and degradation, and all that *******, to me is just some form of added freaky, sissy boy ******* that somebody desires, and has twisted the term to his liking. if you look up the word "cuckold" in the dictionary.. it says cuckold is, a man whos wife is unfaithful.
Now, that still leaves a loop hole, lol. If I encouraged my wife to "go ahead" and enjoy herself.. "put it on him", that doesn't exactly make her unfaithful. so, there are plenty of ways to look at it I guess.
In my opinion.. the bottom line in whether or not your relationship will survive after the fact.. boils down to RESPECT. I respect my wife, I respect that she shouldn't be kept from having a good time when the moment rises, basically because she has the same amount of RESPECT for me. If I told her... Honey, I don't like that guy, I think hes trouble. she would adhere to my instinct.
My wife and I are together in this deal, and our relationship, and family is number one.
She doesn't play very often, its more of a timing thing. if she is in "that" kinda mood, and likes a guy, and everything clicks... hes getting laid. we don't necessarily go looking for it. at least not very often..haha..
Guys hit on Kate all the time.. does she play along with every one of them? absolutely not. Yes, she likes Black guys.. but no different than white guys, there has to be an attraction! shes NOT gonna be attracted to him just because hes black! We have found out that things are tremendously more enjoyable when natural attraction is the reason for the connection. not just because somebody needs some action.
I think if you "as a husband" can maintain the reasons your wife married you in the first place, and don't give her any reason to think you have turned into someone else, your marriage will only get better. Your communication opens up, you don't have to "be careful" what you say to each other so much.. you can actually be yourself with each other if that ICE has been broken.
Sex is a natural desire with all of us. just keep your common sense, RESPECT your better half, and enjoy the things you can share with each other.
I have rambled a bit.. I'll just leave it at that. comments welcomed. its a good thread.

 

[LOVERHUSBAND]

So looking around and talking with some people questions come up for all of us in regards to being a hotwife or getting into the cuckolding lifestyle or just trying interracial sex for the first time. The problem is that most people turn to porn for answers or get an answer from some horny person sitting behind a computer living vicariously through what they read and watch online. I want to start a thread where people can go, both men and women, and ask a real question and get a real answer in regards to some of these things. So please below ask the questions you might not know where to ask and I can try and answer them or I am sure there are plenty of people on here who can help you with an answer. If I don't know maybe I can ask someone I know in the lifestyle as we'll call it and maybe they will know. If it is something too personal feel free to PM me and we'll see what we can come up with. I encourage people to ask questions and I encourage other members to help these people find answers to these questions.

How does a hotwife thinks about her sexuality? Is it a manifestation of autonomy?

 

[Hotbicmhguy]

I wonder how a woman's brain changes after experiencing BBC? I have been reading about how mind blowing vaginal orgasms are and wonder how your thoughts and feelings change.

 

[lucnitely]

Any tips on finding a woman to date who is more likely to want to explore the lifestyle? Short of a full on ad, I mean, appropriate questions that may offer more insight into her potential willingness?