Are you doing this for you, or for her?

[lisasparrows]

wow Lo would love an event like that. I'd like to know more about it. I'll sign her up if it's somewhere we can get to.

I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't to feel like I'm being compared to the other ladies. (probably mostly younger)

But the appeal is that it would be in a safe environment. I can send you the exact link if you want it.

I read a story on Reddit about a guy who attended. He said there was a Canadian couple who came down for the event. The wife was really into this stuff. They traveled a distance to get there. The guy said that this couple chose bareback. I guess there isn't a rule against that, but it's up to the couple. He said that the husband made it clear that he was only going to watch. But after the second or third guy, hubby broke down and had to have a turn. I guess the nice gents didn't mind him cutting the line.

 

[Roach]

Sure send the link and I will look into it.

 

[lisasparrows]

The next party is this Friday. They only have them once per month.
I read the rules and maybe single women can do it. I don't know if they changed that or if I just got it wrong.
But the way the girls pick the guys is by giving them a certain color of wrist band. That makes a lot of sense.
But there was one thing that confused me when I just read about it just now. It said that the girls are assigned certain times. I'm not sure what that means. I thought it all happened at once. I once emailed them and asked what the criteria was for the women. The lady said there was no criteria. I asked if you had to be local, because I can see how they would get a lot of no shows. the lady said that it didn't matter. She said that if tell me you want to do it, she would guarantee me a spot. Wow! lol

This made no sense to me at first. But then I thought more about it. I'm sure if even all seven girls didn't show, all they would have to do is go on the speaker in the main club area and ask for volunteers. The girls wouldn't raise their hands, but their husbands might raise it for them.

Tell me what you think.


https://www.clubsapphire.net/product/girls-gone-wild-gb-2nd-fridays/

 

[Cuckloversissy]

I think from reading many posts from couples who started out as swingers or who decided to add a third person to their bed that in those cases it's about both of them. But in other cases it appears it's about him.

There are so many posts on this site that are from a man who says " my wife/gf deserves BBC. Please help me convince her." These are guys who got hooked on IR porn and now want to see it up close. They're convinced that only black men can please their women- not that they've ever bothered considering that their wife/gf might actually be happy the way things are.

I know people are going to flame me or tell me I don't know what I'm talking about and tell me to go away- you should read some of the private messages I get- I firmly believe if you need to convince her; if you need to work on her over a period of time to change her mind; if you're soliciting advice from others to help you get her in bed with a black man then it's about you and NOT her.

You can talk all you want that you just want to experience the pleasure that you're incapable of giving her but it's really all about you.

OK- flame away.

I've found the intelligent life OP was searching for.

 

[Tammy'sCuck]

Our cuckolding started out completely as my fantasy. At first, it wasn't about black men, just other men. The only man she had fucked, before me was a maintenance man at the fast food chain she worked at. One day, I came around the curve to where I could see the building and I saw his truck out back. I could just imagine seeing her back there making out with him. It made me terribly jealous, but really turned me on at the same time.
I started fantasizing, all the time, about seeing her with other guys. Usually, not him, because she could do much better. I can't remember if I started talking to her about it before or after we got married. She finally fucked a guy who came on to her really hard about 7 years after we were married. It was a long time before she was with another one after him. That was her first BBC and she found that she really has a thing for black guys. She also fucks plenty of white and Hispanic guys.
In the past several years, we've gone from cuckolding to swinging. She just feels like it's not fair for her to have all the fun when I'd love to be with other women too. She still works on issues of insecurity when I'm with other women, but she's working through it because she loves me.

 

[lisasparrows]

Our cuckolding started out completely as my fantasy. At first, it wasn't about black men, just other men. The only man she had fucked, before me was a maintenance man at the fast food chain she worked at. One day, I came around the curve to where I could see the building and I saw his truck out back. I could just imagine seeing her back there making out with him. It made me terribly jealous, but really turned me on at the same time.
I started fantasizing, all the time, about seeing her with other guys. Usually, not him, because she could do much better. I can't remember if I started talking to her about it before or after we got married. She finally fucked a guy who came on to her really hard about 7 years after we were married. It was a long time before she was with another one after him. That was her first BBC and she found that she really has a thing for black guys. She also fucks plenty of white and Hispanic guys.
In the past several years, we've gone from cuckolding to swinging. She just feels like it's not fair for her to have all the fun when I'd love to be with other women too. She still works on issues of insecurity when I'm with other women, but she's working through it because she loves me.

Now that I'm learning more about this, I'm seeing so many guys are really into this. Now I think that guys are more open to MFM, than the wives are of FMF. It's really nice that you guys are trying to strike balance. I also read that threesomes tend to work out better than wife swapping. That makes sense to me just because of the math. When you're choosing a person to be a third, you only have to find one person that you both like. If it's a couple, then you have to find two people that you both like. I've thought about offering my hubby a fmf just so I can try a mfm. It certainly seems like the fair thing to do. But if it turned out he liked mfm better, that wouldn't break my heart.

 

[oliver509]

If we did this and my wife hated it, it wouldn't be exciting for me. My excitement would be from her liking it, and my being excited and jealous at the same time. So it would be for both of us.

 

[david2000]

It took me long time to convince my wife to try it. Finally she say she will do me a favor for me. Now she love it.

 

[lisasparrows]

If we did this and my wife hated it, it wouldn't be exciting for me. My excitement would be from her liking it, and my being excited and jealous at the same time. So it would be for both of us.

If my husband offered this to me just for my benefit, I'd slam on the breaks. If he made it more about me helping him with a fantasy, I'd do it in a New York minute. If he asked me afterwards how I liked it, I wouldn't go overboard with my answer. I would probably just say, "It was kind of nice. It was sure better than that time I had my cavity filled by the dentist."

 

[rock]

H'mmm my husband set me up on a date with a 28 yr. old black stud for my 50th birthday. I didn't have a clue that he was doing this but it was the biggest, best present he ever gave me. It proved to me that it was ok for me to have sex with any black guy I wanted. He wanted me to have the best sex I could have because he knew he hadn't been satisfying me for a long time. It was his way of making it up to me. Turned out he enjoyed it as much as I did in his own way.

P

 

[Roach]

I must be getting old, fmf just seems like to much work. Mfm will get you a break now and then.

 

[lisasparrows]

H'mmm my husband set me up on a date with a 28 yr. old black stud for my 50th birthday. I didn't have a clue that he was doing this but it was the biggest, best present he ever gave me. It proved to me that it was ok for me to have sex with any black guy I wanted. He wanted me to have the best sex I could have because he knew he hadn't been satisfying me for a long time. It was his way of making it up to me. Turned out he enjoyed it as much as I did in his own way.

P

I would really love if my hubby got that for my birthday present. I'd rather it not be my birthday, though, because it's too damn far away. Maybe it would be a good Fathers Day gift. Oh wait, tomorrow's hump day. That would be purrrfect.

For years, women have told their husbands that the gift they would really like is chocolate. Most husbands never catch the hint. I'm glad your husband didn't get you that kind that comes in a box. He got you the BIG kind that goes in YOUR box.

(If folks reading this haven't seen rock's media page, you might want to do so. If I were wearing socks right now, they'd be knocked off!)

 

[lisasparrows]

I must be getting old, fmf just seems like to much work. Mfm will get you a break now and then.

I think the fmf fantasy is just an ego thing. I do understand that, and who doesn't want an inflated ego? But in real life, women are much more suited for multiple partners. A women could easily "take care of" a harem of men. But the man is more interested in just having so many options.

 

[Roach]

I did fmf a couple times in my younger days and it's fun but alot of work and a bit stressfull trying to satisfy both girls. I guess if you don't care about the girls happiness it would be easy.

 

[lisasparrows]

I did fmf a couple times in my younger days and it's fun but alot of work and a bit stressfull trying to satisfy both girls. I guess if you don't care about the girls happiness it would be easy.

If a wife was TRULY bisexual, then a fmf might be the perfect thing for her and hubby. But I can see cases where the wife would tell hubby that the extra girl is in his "no fly" zone. (pun intended) Maybe that would work for the husband. All three parties are going to be happy. And if the hubby was a cuck, then they could work another guy in there. (Yes, intended again) Just make the rules clear from the beginning. This might not sound fair, but I think whatever combination you come up with, to make it all a success, the wife needs to be the greedy focal point. Those "extras" are just that. I think that it should be about the couple having fun together. During playtime they can grab some whipped cream, a vibrator, the mailman, and all jump in bed.

 

[Tammy'sCuck]

I few years ago, I was dropping Tammy off at a hotel to fuck a black guy from out of town. I said "You don't have to do this, just for me." She laughed so loud she almost hurt herself. She might have started out doing it partly for me, but now it's mostly for her own pleasure.
I meant to mention before, we've been married 34 years.

 

[lisasparrows]

I did fmf a couple times in my younger days and it's fun but alot of work and a bit stressfull trying to satisfy both girls. I guess if you don't care about the girls happiness it would be easy.

To me, the physical aspect of this definitely sounds exciting. Four hands on you, two tongues, a couple of those...
But from a mental standpoint, a man who would do this for his wife's pleasure, is a complete rock star.
I know that cuckolds enjoy a certain amount of humiliation. But sometimes I get the impression that some people think the wives don't care about their cuck. This is just from some things I've read. If a lady tried to take one of my bulls away, I might forgive her. If she tried to steal my cuck, she'd soon be pushing up those proverbial daises!

I sometimes wonder if people understand that part. Bulls are a dime a dozen. A good, loving wonderful cuck would probably go for more like a million bucks!

 

[cuckhold69]

Please don't throw out pics of airbrushed 18 year old girls receiving 12 inch cocks.
I really want to see if there is intelligent life on this site.
And if it's just for you, it would be nice to know.
I really would love more sex, but my marriage will always come first.

Things started for us as a typical roleplay fantasy. My gf is super conservative and i never thought in a million years that shed actually make jump. I think it was her attraction to black men and the trust in the stregnth of our relationship that really gave her what she needed for the final push. She would still say its more for me because shes so conservative but she definately does some for herself too. She has fun and good sex. She likes feeling attractive to the men she picks and enjoys it when someone fills in the gaps that i cant always do for her. Its not about the inadequacy of myself but more being submissive to her dominant personality. Shes the boss and the boss wants good sex with an attractive black man. Im more a voyeur the a true cuck. To me its about the turn on of seeing the contrast and knowinf shes having a good time. Sometimes there are small things done specifically for each other. She sends me before and after texts. Those are more for me. She wants me on the couch so she can have him in bed i do that for her.

 

[lisasparrows]

I few years ago, I was dropping Tammy off at a hotel to fuck a black guy from out of town. I said "You don't have to do this, just for me." She laughed so loud she almost hurt herself. She might have started out doing it partly for me, but now it's mostly for her own pleasure.
I meant to mention before, we've been married 34 years.

I think that in the initial stages of getting to this point, it's kind of a cat and mouse game. Everyone is walking on eggs shells. But even during the process, both the husband and wife know that she's probably going to like it. But I think that once you get past the awkward stage, the wife can let go and speak freely. It sure sounds like that you're in that place. I'm sure your wife is loving this, but her knowing that you love it, sure makes it much better.

 

[lisasparrows]

Things started for us as a typical roleplay fantasy. My gf is super conservative and i never thought in a million years that shed actually make jump. I think it was her attraction to black men and the trust in the stregnth of our relationship that really gave her what she needed for the final push. She would still say its more for me because shes so conservative but she definately does some for herself too. She has fun and good sex. She likes feeling attractive to the men she picks and enjoys it when someone fills in the gaps that i cant always do for her. Its not about the inadequacy of myself but more being submissive to her dominant personality. Shes the boss and the boss wants good sex with an attractive black man. Im more a voyeur the a true cuck. To me its about the turn on of seeing the contrast and knowinf shes having a good time. Sometimes there are small things done specifically for each other. She sends me before and after texts. Those are more for me. She wants me on the couch so she can have him in bed i do that for her.

I have a theory, and it's just my own theory. I think EVERY man is a cuckold at heart. I wish there was a more friendly term to use, but I don't know of one. What do you call the husband of a hotwife? However, I have heard the term, "Stag," used before. But I think there's a very fine line that separates the two terms. Maybe my theory sounds crazy, but I think I'm right. There are guys who would never act on this or even mention it, but does that mean they don't think about it?

I've heard of guys who were the most jealous guys on the planet, that got into this lifestyle, and it was their idea. So how does this transition even occur? At one point he wants to punch any guy who even looks at his wife, and now he likes seeing another man's cock in her mouth.

Women are the same way. If a wife tells her husband that she hates the idea of being with other men, does that mean it's true? Cuckolding/hotwifing, is about breaking all the rules. You're supposed to stay in your own lane and color between the lines. I want to rob a bank, but from I've been told, it's highly frowned upon.