Thank you for the links, I have listened to the keys and anklets podcast some...
Our communication is VERY good, the main problem she has is that she is unable to draw a line between love and sex... I've talked to several people who tell me that's not really uncommon.
One thing I should mention is that we're both 46, married for 25 years, together for 29 years, we were hs sweethearts, and we're absolute best friends! Another hurdle is the fact that we're both very strong Christians...
I know this takes a lot of time and patience on my part, but it seems so impossible at this point, but we're trying new things, exchanging fantasies, and so far are having a blast!