*lol* Now that is a surprise... not, hehe!
In a truly colorblind America where everyone has the same potential of being a potential partner for marriage "white Americans" would "still mostly marry other whites." But so would all others! That`s simply because "white Americans" belong to the biggest group (~73%) of Americans, and thus yield the highest number of potential partners.
Unsurprisingly, "the biggest" number of "intermarriages" "appears to be within minority groups", because the biggest number of potential partners is outside each their groups. (Otherwise they wouldn`t be minorities, would they?)
But people are not equally distributed over the country. There are many communities within neighborhoods traditionally predominated by one group - whatever group this may be - depending on the locality. In such cases the biggest number of potential partners for marriage lies within the predominating group, causing "most Americans" within such communities to "marry someone of the same race", also affecting the overall statistic.
Interesting indeed. The relative number of "intermarriages" in 2008 being twice as high as compared to 1980 can be interpreted as a change in society. Even more so as there was found "little difference in actual intermarriage rates by age", which shows the change takes place truly on a societal level and not just generation-wise.
It seems a country is opening up and going to leave behind its taboos - some at least.
True. So back to the topic...When presented with bad data, thanks for the headsup, look for better data
But really all of this is sort of besides the point. (...)
We don`t "allow" or "disallow" the significant other anything, but talk about our likes, dislikes and desires instead.
i need my share of sexual satisfaction, in which i don`t need a variety of women. She too needs to experience satisfactory sex and doesn`t need more than one man. However, as a sexual being she is not averse to the thought of playing out of the box and has an adventurous mind, too. Just like me. A (slight) difference is our sex drives, where hers seems to be insignificantly higher.
But the real difference is that i am a "less jealous" type of a person than she and can handle her adventures with other men better than she would handle mine with other women. In fact she can even be "quite posessive" with her partner (= me
) and frankly says, she wouldn`t want me play around, which i willingly accept.So, an arrangement that works for us well is me being on the satisfactory, strictly monogamous end of our playful, adventurous relationship, while she is on the satisfactory "monogamous with benefits" end of it. While i gladly approve of her sexual liberty (= any way she chooses!), she takes the liberty of enjoying her sexuality with me and sometimes other men in my presence. (We only play together - her choice!)
For us it is a "couple thing" even if it sometimes involves another person, and she refers to it as "our sex" (meaning hers and mine, and not hers and his!) even if it actually is their sex and i appear to be "just" watching.
But this doesn`t mean we "use" another guy as our "sex toy". We always make sure he first understands that we have a serious loving relationship that we are willing to keep, and that he feels comfortable with that and enabled to enjoy our arrangement for his sexual benefits, too. It`s a win-win-win and best if each of us enjoys the experience.
