hoburgh
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I'm curious if any married couples on here are in couples' counseling and have discussed this kink in front of their therapists? And if so, what was the response?
I've tried for years to get my wife to cuck me (ideally with a black lover), and she won't do it, though she'll humor me with role playing and such. Which: fine. I've come to a reluctant peace with her decision. She's perfect for me in so many other ways.
Anyhow, my interracial cuckolding request has come up in our marriage counseling sessions from time to time (or at least it used to before I came to aforesaid peace), and our therapist would respond by reassuring my wife that it's clearly just an innocent, harmless fantasy of mine... I don't actually WANT my wife to DO it. Eventually I had to reply, basically: lol yes I do. That caught her off-guard a bit. We even ended up forwarding her some online info about interracial cucking and FLRs and orgasm-denial... all the stuff that I'd spent years begging my wife for. I'm sure that was a fun read.
Our therapist, to her credit, never just came right out and called my request wrong or aberrant or shameful... or that I was a bad person for wanting what I wanted. She stayed pretty neutral about it (though her body language made it pretty clear that she personally believed cuckoldry to be a perilous road). Later on when I finally told my wife that I recognized and respected her decision not to cuck me and that I would stop pressuring her to take a lover (black or otherwise), I felt an unexpected bit of depression, which the therapist identified as mourning... she saw that I was mourning the loss of a future that I'd long hoped for (being a cuck to a black-owned wife) and that I had now come to understand was unattainable. And she was right about that! I *was* mourning that loss. Putting some words to the loss definitely helped me to process it.
Now, am I all the way over it? Has my kink gone away? Well, no. I'm still here on B2W, aren't I? But at least I'm done cudgeling my partner over it, which has helped our marriage, I believe. And we still have the role plays. Especially on or around my birthday. *******'s Day night is a big role play night too.
Anyway: any other couples find the courage to bring this up in front of a counselor?
I've tried for years to get my wife to cuck me (ideally with a black lover), and she won't do it, though she'll humor me with role playing and such. Which: fine. I've come to a reluctant peace with her decision. She's perfect for me in so many other ways.
Anyhow, my interracial cuckolding request has come up in our marriage counseling sessions from time to time (or at least it used to before I came to aforesaid peace), and our therapist would respond by reassuring my wife that it's clearly just an innocent, harmless fantasy of mine... I don't actually WANT my wife to DO it. Eventually I had to reply, basically: lol yes I do. That caught her off-guard a bit. We even ended up forwarding her some online info about interracial cucking and FLRs and orgasm-denial... all the stuff that I'd spent years begging my wife for. I'm sure that was a fun read.
Our therapist, to her credit, never just came right out and called my request wrong or aberrant or shameful... or that I was a bad person for wanting what I wanted. She stayed pretty neutral about it (though her body language made it pretty clear that she personally believed cuckoldry to be a perilous road). Later on when I finally told my wife that I recognized and respected her decision not to cuck me and that I would stop pressuring her to take a lover (black or otherwise), I felt an unexpected bit of depression, which the therapist identified as mourning... she saw that I was mourning the loss of a future that I'd long hoped for (being a cuck to a black-owned wife) and that I had now come to understand was unattainable. And she was right about that! I *was* mourning that loss. Putting some words to the loss definitely helped me to process it.
Now, am I all the way over it? Has my kink gone away? Well, no. I'm still here on B2W, aren't I? But at least I'm done cudgeling my partner over it, which has helped our marriage, I believe. And we still have the role plays. Especially on or around my birthday. *******'s Day night is a big role play night too.
Anyway: any other couples find the courage to bring this up in front of a counselor?
