MasculineWannabeCuck
Male
Hi there! Looking for some advice when moving forward with this lifestyle. I have made some great strides as of late that I honestly did not think were possible, and it’s all because I finally nutted up and became communicative with my wife.
Long story short, we are married (33m/28f) and have for awhile now have had issues in the bedroom. I struggled from porn induced erectile dysfunction for awhile and did not come clean about my porn addiction for some time. She took my ED personal and thought it was a reflection of her. She’s typically the more reserved type and this kind of destroyed her sexual energy. That, and I am not the greatest sexually to begin with. She has said in the past she likes big dicks and I am about middle to below the pack in that category. Our sex life had been very infrequent until just several weeks ago, we finally had an open and honest convo about sex (long time coming, I know).
Deep down inside, I want to see her with a Black man, and she hasn’t been shy about telling me she’s never been with one. During our convo, she expressed her needs and how I am not giving her what she needs. This led to me playfully and sarcastically offering a “hall pass” and doubling down by saying I would not be offended if she needed another man’s cock for the job since I sometimes struggle to give her that. She kind of chalked it off as a joke, but I did not see or hear a loud “no“ in her reaction. This eventually led to me encouraging her and letting her know what what gets ME off the most is seeing her pleased and knowing she’s getting the pleasure SHE needs and desires. We have one vibrating sex toy (a c-ring that goes on my dick during sex and stimulates her clit). She loves it, but hasn’t used it on herself a ton for fear of embarrassment or something (she’s not the slut type and is more reserved). Anyway, since our convo, she’s been very open about using it and has used it more than a few times in the last week on her own. This led to me signing off on getting ANOTHER sex toy…I was hoping for a Black dildo, but I didn’t press hard enough and gave her the empowerment to choose on her own. Anyway, she chose a vibrator that just arrived!!
We are both very excited to see where this vibrator leads us next, but I wanted to see if any experienced people here have any advice on how to press forward with welcoming a Black man into the bedroom without being too demanding. She doesn’t respond well to that, I’ve learned, and I am trying to be patient while also taking meaningful steps forward. Any advice??
I have a lot more details and can get more specific if desired, but tried to keep it as high level as possible for here for now.
Long story short, we are married (33m/28f) and have for awhile now have had issues in the bedroom. I struggled from porn induced erectile dysfunction for awhile and did not come clean about my porn addiction for some time. She took my ED personal and thought it was a reflection of her. She’s typically the more reserved type and this kind of destroyed her sexual energy. That, and I am not the greatest sexually to begin with. She has said in the past she likes big dicks and I am about middle to below the pack in that category. Our sex life had been very infrequent until just several weeks ago, we finally had an open and honest convo about sex (long time coming, I know).
Deep down inside, I want to see her with a Black man, and she hasn’t been shy about telling me she’s never been with one. During our convo, she expressed her needs and how I am not giving her what she needs. This led to me playfully and sarcastically offering a “hall pass” and doubling down by saying I would not be offended if she needed another man’s cock for the job since I sometimes struggle to give her that. She kind of chalked it off as a joke, but I did not see or hear a loud “no“ in her reaction. This eventually led to me encouraging her and letting her know what what gets ME off the most is seeing her pleased and knowing she’s getting the pleasure SHE needs and desires. We have one vibrating sex toy (a c-ring that goes on my dick during sex and stimulates her clit). She loves it, but hasn’t used it on herself a ton for fear of embarrassment or something (she’s not the slut type and is more reserved). Anyway, since our convo, she’s been very open about using it and has used it more than a few times in the last week on her own. This led to me signing off on getting ANOTHER sex toy…I was hoping for a Black dildo, but I didn’t press hard enough and gave her the empowerment to choose on her own. Anyway, she chose a vibrator that just arrived!!
We are both very excited to see where this vibrator leads us next, but I wanted to see if any experienced people here have any advice on how to press forward with welcoming a Black man into the bedroom without being too demanding. She doesn’t respond well to that, I’ve learned, and I am trying to be patient while also taking meaningful steps forward. Any advice??
I have a lot more details and can get more specific if desired, but tried to keep it as high level as possible for here for now.
she LOVES it and it’s a lot more sizable than me.
she absolutely LOVES it and so far its led to some super kinky times and her telling me her desires. 
