HOW TO STOP WATCHING CUCKOLD PORN?

agreename

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I'm new to this site, so sorry if my question is off topic. My post may be very long, but I would reallyappreciate it if you take the time to read it. I will try to write story about what is destroying my life. Namely, it is cuckold fantasies and watch much cuckold porn videos.

A few words about me​

I`m a so much shy guy. I can communicate with girls, I do not story any problems in principle. I had several relationships with much girls. I met with them for drinks, to have fun in the club and so on. But it did not end well because I am too shy to just have sex story with girls. After all the failed stories, I would come home and watch much site with cuckold porn.

I have been watching porn since I was 13. Now I`m 21. When I was 15 or 16 years old, I had story that I wanted my girlfriend had sex by several men. Later, this story developed into a cuckold porn fantasy.

I began to think that other men are more attractive to my girlfriend than me. I even watch much men in my life and imagined story how well they have sex with my girlfriend. I would watch much video of cuckold pornand then imagined the events real that took place on my girlfriend.

I did not attach much importance to these stories, since I was still much young. But then a much terrible story happened to me. My first sex was real awful! I was so nervous that I lost my erection and sex went really bad. I was 17 years old. Nothing worked out with that girl. And I was left alone again with my watchmuch video cuckold porn. I was just broken.

What story with video now​

I turned into a guy who was humiliated after the first bad story in sex. I did not try to have sex with any other girl in real afterwards.

I can not even think about a normal real relationship and marriage. I only have a model of behavior in my head like in cuckold video. I can not meet a girl and offer her like video as in cuckold porn and real cuckoldlifestyle.

I know that people have much sex fantasies, such as foot fetish, voyeurism or the smell of women's panties, like in Japan, for example. But I find them so much harmless compared to cuckolds. The story of a realcuckold just kills me.

I feel powerless, humiliated and stupid. All these feelings real lead me to hate myself and feel worthless as a man. How can I think about a real girl with such story? If all I can think that she is being fucked by someone else. To relax, I watch much cuckold porn.

I come home in the evening and turn on site with much cuckold porn videos. I sit alone in my car in some parking lot and watch cuckold porn videos.

My friends don't know about my story. They see that I have problems with girls and that is it. They alsowatch site with porn videos, but none of them watch much cuckold story like me. I never save video site so no one can know what I`m real watch. I can not share my preferences with anyone. Therefore, I am writing my story here.

Help me please. What can I do? Stop watch cuckold video? How can I become a «normal» person who does not think about much weird things that real hurt me? I am afraid to share this information and my storywith someone. Watching cuckold video ruins my sex life and life in general.
 
Dear @agreename,

you ask "How can I become a «normal» person (...)?" but the truth is you already are.

See, according to your post you have had only 1 (in words: one) sexual experience with a woman so far. And that didn't go very well. Now that is exactly what happens to everybody sometimes. No matter they call themselves a "bull", see themselves as "alpha" or just the normal guy-next-door. Anybody who says differently is either a liar or hasn't had sex more than a handful of times in their lives.

Feeling pressure to perform is very common especially on the first time sex. Many men (and women!) admit to it when talking about their firsts. The good thing is we are enabled to work on our skills in every part of life, including our sexuality. From what I read here, you don't actually have a problem to perform but much rather there seems to be a psychical block that prevents you from relaxing and just enjoying the moment when you are getting intimate with a woman.

On the other hand you say that you have a good way with women in a casual context like a bar or club. Going on a date or just meeting friends can be a welcome distraction from your frustrations. Perhaps try more to surround yourself with positive people in real life than hiding in your apartment and always going back to the fantasy world of porn. Because that is what it is. Porn was created as an entertainment for adults. It does not reflect the real world nor real sex or relationships. Perhaps one problem may be that you started watching porn at a very young age where you were probably not mentally mature enough to be enabled to separate fantasy sex of the porn world and sex in the real world. Which are completely different things actually. Do not project what you see on screen into your life!

The next time you are with a woman understand that nobody expects of you to be a sex god. Especially a man your young age does not have to have a history of dozens of sexual experiences or partners - and the woman you are with most probably has not either. Sometimes speaking truth can be freeing. Just tell her that you are not experienced sexually. Having that word out can take a lot of pressure and be a real relief. Many if not most women will understand and try to make you feel comfortable and the experience enjoyable for both of you.

Finally, if you try your best to overcome your insecurities but with no real results, know that there are professionals who you can turn to for help. It is not a sign of weakness but of strength when you go to seek help in times you really need it.

Regards and good luck man!
 
I have to admit I’ve cut way down on watching porn and have almost quit entirely. I’ve been very fortunate to have a generous wife. We role play a good bit and she talks really nasty to me and gives me hand jobs. We would have sex, but family dynamics don’t allow for a lot of noise at night. Our nightly talks and sexcapades have been hotter than most porn I’ve watched and it’s really helped.
 
I have to admit I’ve cut way down on watching porn and have almost quit entirely. I’ve been very fortunate to have a generous wife. We role play a good bit and she talks really nasty to me and gives me hand jobs. We would have sex, but family dynamics don’t allow for a lot of noise at night. Our nightly talks and sexcapades have been hotter than most porn I’ve watched and it’s really helped.
Porn distorts reality. One can start thinking cuckolding and blk guy fucking us is "normal" and the majority. It's not.

Newbecpl22 makes an important point here.............he would rather be with his wife than watch something on the screen.

The test for us (the wives)..........turn on some IR porn for your husband. Place one of his hands on your boob and the other on the screen. Ask him which one he wants..................
 
I don't see any problem in watch cuckold porn video. I think you do not accept yourself and your sex story. If you like cuckold porn video, just admit that you are a cuckold and live with it. There is nothing real shameful in this. You will meet a girl who will also like cuckolding and you will have a great relationship.

If you are watch porn site, then try a few simple things like turn off Wi-Fi at home and use mobile data. If you are using expensive mobile data for video streaming, you will much reduce your site usage.

Be confident. It`s like that you need to control yourself in everything. To do this, take time for your body. Go in for sports, gymnastics or yoga. If you like to much more time to yourself and your health, then the free time for watch porn video on site will be greatly reduced. Exercise is great for repaying hatred and anger.

If you like dating, watch girl on this site who already prefer the cockhold lifestyle. Try to chat with them. Stop hating story of yourself!
 
My husband over years was a porn-junkie, too: Wifesharing- and cuckold-porns! His hard disk was full of them and the most stuff with woman moaning in the missionary and getting pumped by a guy while her heels dangling in the air. I can tell you it was not easy for me to follow that *******. Our sex was poor. Family time? No chance! He had to work...yes, watching porn while I took care of our children.

Once a night I jerked him and asked: You wanne se me fucked by another man? He came after seconds and the door was opend. I pinned him! We talked over months. Yes, my husband is a voyeur and his wish is/was watching me with other guys. After that opening and his coming out our sex life grewed up day by day. More and more I liked the thought getting a hotwife for my husband. I teased him and our sex-sessions were horny and hot. A few years later we visited a club the first time. Nothing happened this night but our desire grows to "do it" and we did it after a few visits - I spreat my legs for a stranger while my husband watched with big eyes. Pure desire and *******! I love(d) that feeling. Thereafter back at home we fucked like hell. No gradient - full eye level, no mercy, just rough fucking. A new "bull" grew up in my husband! I never expected that but I love it!

My message: Stand by your opinion! There is nothing bad about it! It is your sexuality. Find a woman sharing your thoughts but give her time. Watching porn? Pft! Do not worry! Enjoy! Once you found "your" wife in reality the pornclips will be shreddered very fast. I know it! My husbands "collection" was erased very fast after his coming out and I told him he will lick my heels while a another man drills me...
 
Your problem is not that you watch site cuckold porn. Cuckold and porn real are nothing out of the ordinary. You're all right, actually. There is nothing wrong with your tastes. You don't have to be ashamed of yourself.
As much as i would like to agree with your statement i have to say that there are differences. Watching porn - no matter what category - is not the problem per se. But...

...it very much depends on the situation/circumstances. It can be healthy but also ill-formed. If it creates problems with your personal environment / the people around you or your behavior it could be a matter of either hypersexuality (which is a medical condition) or an invokation or enforcement of psychical disorders like depression or social misbehavior like sexism and/or racism.

Even though porn is a legitimate ("normal") source of adult entertainment you cannot say in general that the effects of watching porn are healthy in each and every case. just sayin'
 
I'm new to this site, so sorry if my question is off topic. My post may be very long, but I would reallyappreciate it if you take the time to read it. I will try to write story about what is destroying my life. Namely, it is cuckold fantasies and watch much cuckold porn videos.

A few words about me​

I`m a so much shy guy. I can communicate with girls, I do not story any problems in principle. I had several relationships with much girls. I met with them for drinks, to have fun in the club and so on. But it did not end well because I am too shy to just have sex story with girls. After all the failed stories, I would come home and watch much site with cuckold porn.

I have been watching porn since I was 13. Now I`m 21. When I was 15 or 16 years old, I had story that I wanted my girlfriend had sex by several men. Later, this story developed into a cuckold porn fantasy.

I began to think that other men are more attractive to my girlfriend than me. I even watch much men in my life and imagined story how well they have sex with my girlfriend. I would watch much video of cuckold pornand then imagined the events real that took place on my girlfriend.

I did not attach much importance to these stories, since I was still much young. But then a much terrible story happened to me. My first sex was real awful! I was so nervous that I lost my erection and sex went really bad. I was 17 years old. Nothing worked out with that girl. And I was left alone again with my watchmuch video cuckold porn. I was just broken.

What story with video now​

I turned into a guy who was humiliated after the first bad story in sex. I did not try to have sex with any other girl in real afterwards.

I can not even think about a normal real relationship and marriage. I only have a model of behavior in my head like in cuckold video. I can not meet a girl and offer her like video as in cuckold porn and real cuckoldlifestyle.

I know that people have much sex fantasies, such as foot fetish, voyeurism or the smell of women's panties, like in Japan, for example. But I find them so much harmless compared to cuckolds. The story of a realcuckold just kills me.

I feel powerless, humiliated and stupid. All these feelings real lead me to hate myself and feel worthless as a man. How can I think about a real girl with such story? If all I can think that she is being fucked by someone else. To relax, I watch much cuckold porn.

I come home in the evening and turn on site with much cuckold porn videos. I sit alone in my car in some parking lot and watch cuckold porn videos.

My friends don't know about my story. They see that I have problems with girls and that is it. They alsowatch site with porn videos, but none of them watch much cuckold story like me. I never save video site so no one can know what I`m real watch. I can not share my preferences with anyone. Therefore, I am writing my story here.

Help me please. What can I do? Stop watch cuckold video? How can I become a «normal» person who does not think about much weird things that real hurt me? I am afraid to share this information and my storywith someone. Watching cuckold video ruins my sex life and life in general.
Well, by finding a dom woman who is not into black guys and doing a lot of sports.
 
My wife and I always felt that actually engaging in interracial sex (breaking her martial vows and breaking taboos by having sex with Black men with me watching and enjoying her adulterous behavior) was a lot more pleasurable than watching other couples do it in a porn movie.
 
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