So I’ve read over the comments and here’s my review.
Everyone has an opinion, be careful it’s not their wife, family or life that’s at stake.
Women are often more conservative in our fantasies, men nudge us and we evolve. Sexually I was so different in my 20-30s I’m possibly now a dirty old lady. BUT, I don’t act on most of my fantasies. Why not? Because being in a monogamous relationship is much more of a long term fulfilling life for me.
Now role play. Just take it slow and use it to fuel her fire.
My ex hadn’t explored sexually in the world, the way I had and wanted to try role playing. It was fun when he said one night as he was doing me doggie style, “You are so hot... umm your pussy is so wet and tight... umm just imagine that you’ve got a big black dick in your mouth.” Bam I came all over him.
The key is to move on from something if she doesn’t react and try other things. Also don’t obsess on any one fantasy it can’t always just be about your fantasies, she’ll start developing them, she probably isn’t going to share them either, but her pussy will let you know you’ve hit on something.
Also, I recommend the 1970s book, “My Secret Garden,” by Nancy Friday. This book made me understand my dark fantasies aren’t strange but just normal. We usually like to think we’re not weird. We also don’t want to do things we’ll regret because you often can’t fix a broken marriage.
Finally, I was married to the love of my life who always wanted me to do kinky *******. He has premature ejaculation issues (he was young this was normal), I had an affair (living and working far away), from which he never recovered. But... he set a lot of this ******* up by always wanting me to do kinky *******. The last time we had sex he said, “I’m not sure I can sexually satisfy you, so you can have other men.”
In fantasy everyone comes out unscathed, in real life there’s egos and so much more. Today my fantasies usually are given to strangers I’ll never meet who can’t affect my life. Easy! Orgasms, porn, stories shared, go off into them when “I” chose because it’s my life at stake here, others could really care less if they hurt me, because, well, people are self centered and often fools.
Tread lightly!