Willsrvu, I understand you feeling that it is a matter of choice and I would agree that most of the time, it is. In fact, it starts out that way most of the time. there are people in this world who understand mind control techniques. they can influence a partner's mind without them even realizing it. Over time, they "suggest" things using repetition and catch phrases. They slowly reduce their partner's ego until they become more compliant. They introduce pictures, vids and reading material that they find exciting and eventually that excitement filters over into their partner because we all tend to be turned on by what our partners gets turned on by. This is exactly what happened to me when I was younger. At 23, my partner introduced me to Domination and submission. I read about it a lot and found it exciting. Due to her coaxing however, I began to participate in this lifestyle exclusively with her. I became her sex slave willingly. Was it really my choice? In retrospect, it was not my choice. I became addicted to her and thus to what turned her on. This became my obsession as was her intention from the start. .....
Is that illegal? I do not think so. I went along willingly at every stage of my submissive development. ....
I have given them sexual power others only pretended to give or asked for to fulfill their fantasies. My fantasies and sexual reality revolve around truly pleasing the female in every way without judging her. Whatever she wishes and as far as she wishes to take it is find with me with one exception. I will not be made unimportant out of the bedroom as many of these fantasizing cuckolds on this site say they are. .....
But, I will say it is not always a conscious choice and it is not always illegal when no overt ******* can be identified due to gradual, induced change in paradigm and resulting change in personality over time.
I disagree with you .... and so do you.
If you reread what you posted, you will find that you are in disagreement with yourself. You try to assert that you were a victim, yet you say you became so willingly and even submitted to others to allow them to believe that they were in control. You also say that you will submit to her desires EXCEPT for one thing, which means you are totally conscious of what is happening and are agreeing to all but the one exception.
No different than basic *******, you will not do anything that you don't truly want to do. (For the hypnotists, please disregard, I know there are ways, but we aren't talking subversive ******* here, just generalities and I DID say basic.)
The sort of mind games you are describing will only work when the person is actually desirous of what is being offered to them, and offered is exactly what it was. You
chose to accept that chance to live out your deepest, darkest fantasies. No need to deny it nor to be ashamed of it. It is what it is. Fuck! Revel in it! You had the guts to do what most people spend their lives regretting: that they didn't take a chance and truly LIVE!
Instead of trying to push the responsibility of on someone else, take credit for doing what most don't have the fortitude. Besides, you had every opportunity to refuse, but you chose to pursue your desires. They didn't ******* you or "brain wash" you into doing anything you didn't truly want to experience.
You did it. You enjoyed some of it and some you didn't, so repeat the stuff you enjoyed and don't bother with the rest. No big deal, it's all good.
So you sucked a dick. If you enjoyed it, for WHATEVER reason, cool. if not, don't do it again.
It is always a conscious choice, one may choose poorly because they are afraid of the consequences, but it is always a conscious choice and one can not blame others because they didn't offer better or more preferable choices.
No one forces us to play the game.