We started by talking to guys on adult friend finder and then exchanging numbers or kik and setting up a meet and greet. We usually like to meet the guy first to see if we get along before we jump into bed with him, but every situation is different.
A meet is definitely the way to go after communication and pictures (face) to make sure there is even an attraction. Also want to be careful. Gut reaction and a little experience means a lot. Don't ignore it.