The “How I/We Got Started” Thread

[Wife4Black77]

To my mind the most interesting and often most erotic stories involve how folks got into the lifestyle. To go from a pretty vanilla existence, maybe have the thoughts but not act on them, then taking the plunge. Would be great if we could pull those together in one post. Can either go free form or if it helps maybe answer the following questions based on your role.

Role: HOT WIFE

# of Years active:

How did you get into the lifestyle (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):

Highs:

Lows:

What do you like most about the lifestyle:

Regrets:

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:



Role: BULL/BOYFRIEND/OTHER MAN

# of Years active:

Preferences (Single white women, solo with married white women, with white cuckold couples, dom, gang bangs, mature, big tits etc.):

How did you get into the lifestyle (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):

Highs:

Lows:

What do you like most about the lifestyle:

Regrets:

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:



Role: CUCKOLD

# of Years active:

Type (stag, fem/dom, straight cuck, other?):

How did you get into the lifestyle or develop this kink (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):

How long did it take you, or how many relationships did you go through before you became a true cuckold (as opposed to aspiring to be one):

Did the interest in being a cuckold start and end with interracial or did you start with just white guys or no preference at all and it changed?

Highs:

Lows:

What do you like most about the lifestyle:

Regrets:

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:

Any advice to cuckold hopefuls:




Role: CUCKOLD HOPEFUL

# of Years with this interest:

Type (stag, fem/dom, straight cuck, other?):

How did you get into the lifestyle or develop this kink (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):

Relationship status (married, committed relationship, single but searching for cuck queen, etc.)

If in a relationship currently have you told your partner about your fantasy? If not, why? Plan to tell her? If you told her, her reaction?

Likelihood your partner will fulfill your fantasy in real life?

Did the interest in being a cuckold start and end with interracial or did you start with just white guys or no preference at all and it changed?

Highs:

Lows:

Regrets:

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:

 

[Wife4Black77]

My responses:

Role: CUCKOLD HOPEFUL

# of Years with this interest: 30

Type (stag, fem/dom, straight cuck, other?): Straight cuck … no interest in having sex with other women, zero interest in contact or activities with men.

How did you get into the lifestyle or develop this kink (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):

Was very insecure and jealous starting with my earliest relationships through my college girlfriend. Started fantasizing about guys (white) coming on to my college girlfriend then fantasizing about them fucking her. We would have related sex talk, then I’d cum and have immediate regrets. Second GF in graduate school liked to watch porn so we rented one, usually 2, each Friday. Stumbled upon our first IR porno in a video booth at the bookstore. Made us both super horny. My GF would tell me routinely that a female friend at work only dated black guys and told her she should try it just once and she’d get hooked, their stamina, fit bodies, huge cocks, amazing sex. I tried to share my fantasy around this but fucked it up (didn’t even get to black guys, sharing etc) and pulled the rip cord. Broke up with her almost a year later (not about sex) and have regretted not telling her my fantasy every day since. She would have done it 100% guaranteed and she was so incredibly HOT!

Relationship status (married, committed relationship, single but searching for cuck queen, etc.):

Married 20+ years. First wife.

If in a relationship currently have you told your partner about your fantasy? If not, why? Plan to tell her? If you told her, her reaction?

Yes, I told her about my fantasy before we got married. After living with regret for the 6 years prior to us meeting (dated other women in between but didn’t love them so the fantasy was never a fit) there was NO WAY I wasn’t going to tell my wife and future life partner about what brought me insane pleasure.

Likelihood your partner will fulfill your fantasy in real life?

Hard to say. 50/50? Really depends on if a cool black guy comes on to her. She doesn’t think any man besides me (“you’re my husband you are obliged to find me sexy”) finds her sexually desirable. So me talking about her with a black guy is a theoretical exercise she never entertains and it makes it easy to just dismiss out of hand given her Catholic guilt etc. But if we were away from home and a good looking black guy expressed a natural attraction to her? Bare minimum she would politely decline his advances and fuck me senseless later.

Did the interest in being a cuckold start and end with interracial or did you start with just white guys or no preference at all and it changed?

Despite earlier pillow talk with my college girlfriend re: cuckold stuff generally, this fantasy only really took shape and gathered massive heat when my graduate school GF and I saw that IR porn. I was hooked from that point. Color contrast, taboo nature, penis envy, sperm competition, compersion….. love it.

Highs:

Telling my super inhibited, sexually inexperienced Catholic fiancé about my fantasy and her being relatively cool with it. Last September having a come to Jesus discussion with her that she needed to show up for me with respect to my fantasy (not necessarily making it a reality), and if she couldn’t we’d have to end our marriage. Our relationship and sex life is soooo much better for both of us now. A LOT of hot stories together in and out of the bedroom around my fantasy throughout our marriage.

Lows:

Was completely shut off to my fantasy post menopause and she wouldn’t do anything related to it for 2-3 years (only had sex on average 3-4 times a year for the 5 years prior to last September) which led to the ultimatum above. Also some fights where she attempted to gaslight me about my fantasy not turning her on. She admitted the reality later. It was pretty irritating because the most intense orgasms she has had were using the BBC toy with us role playing and having related sex talk, plus not being able to orgasm unless I whispered something related to my fantasy in her ear, and having the most intense sex dream of her life about getting fucked by a well hung black stable hand. Anyway, that dry period is over and our sex life has never been better.

Regrets:

Every day not telling my graduate school GF about my fantasy. Regret that we live in a very non diverse area and haven’t ventured out to do more things and meet more people especially things that would put us in regular contact with black men.

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:

I’d love to go to a bar with her and pretend we are strangers (without our wedding rings) and see black guys come on to her and dance with her. I’d like to show her the video of the guy who saw one of her old pictures and stroked his BBC while looking at it. This will happen after we meet with the sex therapist. I’d really like her to communicate with black men on line anonymously until/unless she feels comfortable enough to not be anonymous. The ultimate bucket list item, it would be amazing to watch her get her sexy petite self fucked so well, and cum so hard on a BBC then have reclaim sex with her.

 

[hollys_cuck]

Role: CUCKOLD HOPEFUL

# of Years with this interest: about 16

Type (stag, fem/dom, straight cuck, other?): interracial cuckolding

How did you get into the lifestyle or develop this kink (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):
my very first love, Leslie was 18 i was 20, had been together about a year. she started a new job and met this big black guy, and was cheating on me for another 3 months before she dumped me for him. i had no idea, didnt even suspect it. she even took me into her work and introduced me to him (and other coworkers)
it hurt but it was also a turn on. i couldnt stop jerking off thinking about her blowing this huge black dude whos like 15-20 years older. and him stretching her pussy out every day/night.

Relationship status (married, committed relationship, single but searching for cuck queen, etc.)
in a relationship

If in a relationship currently have you told your partner about your fantasy? If not, why? Plan to tell her? If you told her, her reaction?
not yet, but I want to. shes been with black guys before but idk how she would react to me being involved.

Likelihood your partner will fulfill your fantasy in real life? id say 50/50

Did the interest in being a cuckold start and end with interracial or did you start with just white guys or no preference at all and it changed?
its only been interracial cuckolding, i cant get off fo anything else.

Highs:

Lows:

Regrets:

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:

 

[Wife4Black77]

Role: CUCKOLD HOPEFUL

# of Years with this interest: about 16

Type (stag, fem/dom, straight cuck, other?): interracial cuckolding

How did you get into the lifestyle or develop this kink (event, person, circumstance, long held interests etc.):
my very first love, Leslie was 18 i was 20, had been together about a year. she started a new job and met this big black guy, and was cheating on me for another 3 months before she dumped me for him. i had no idea, didnt even suspect it. she even took me into her work and introduced me to him (and other coworkers)
it hurt but it was also a turn on. i couldnt stop jerking off thinking about her blowing this huge black dude whos like 15-20 years older. and him stretching her pussy out every day/night.

Relationship status (married, committed relationship, single but searching for cuck queen, etc.)
in a relationship

If in a relationship currently have you told your partner about your fantasy? If not, why? Plan to tell her? If you told her, her reaction?
not yet, but I want to. shes been with black guys before but idk how she would react to me being involved.

Likelihood your partner will fulfill your fantasy in real life? id say 50/50

Did the interest in being a cuckold start and end with interracial or did you start with just white guys or no preference at all and it changed?
its only been interracial cuckolding, i cant get off fo anything else.

Highs:

Lows:

Regrets:

Remaining bucket list items if applicable:

Appreciate the response. That’s rough to lose your first love like that. Infidelity is *******. I think many guys get into the cuckold lifestyle because of a partner’s cheating or if there is unfounded jealousy surrounding the fear of and in order to protect against your partner cheating. I also believe a lot of this is part of the biological drive related to sperm competition. In your situation the amplification from the various factors couldn’t be greater. Emotional investment in “first love,” a much physically larger male, presumably a much bigger cock to make your GF lose her mind on, a black man and the associated taboo from our messed up history, the mythology/stereotype surrounding black men being more dominant, advanced sexual prowess, larger cock (all stereotypes but you can, if you look, find willing partners for your women who check all those boxes), an older man… that confers greater maturity, experience, perhaps toughness. You hit the mom lode of sexualized anxiety.

Your current GF, did you start going out with her before you found out she dated black guys previously, or because she did? You need to come to terms with how you feel about her, what she means to you, and only then can you figure out the right communication strategy to share your fantasy. If you really love her as a person and want to be with her for the long haul the messaging is easier and probably easier for her to get on board with. If you are with her because you know she dated black guys before and it turns you on and you think you have a better shot at becoming an IR cuckold, the messaging is totally different. Most serious, normal women want to be loved, respected and valued for who they are as a person. Very, very few want to be used as a prop for a man’s sexual exploration, or to just help him live out his kink. Not sure if you have shared with your current GF what happened to your first love but if not I wouldn’t bring it up. May make her feel like you are sexually obsessed with this dynamic because of that episode and she is again just being used as a prop. Not a show stopper if you have but your messaging is going to have to be next level good. But let’s say your current relationship is casual dating, nothing wrong with that, and you can just introduce this as some hot fantasy that turns you on. Can bring it up, at least most guys do, by asking about her experiences with her prior lovers. She’ll catch on quick when you get rock hard when she describes anything sexual with them.

Best of luck. Happy to give whatever advice you may want if you think it will be helpful.

 

[hollys_cuck]

wow. thats some
of the best advice I've ever gotten. and spot on with the analysis as well.

 

[hollys_cuck]

in response to the breakdown of my first heartbreak, i remember feeling outclassed in every sense. and humiliated because everybody knew about it and i felt like they were all laughing at me. it made me sick to think about her going behind my back to have sex with this big black man for months. and he shook my hand and acted like we were buddies when we met. it gives me the weirdest boner.

in regards to my current gf its casual but I could see myself marrying her. i knew she was into black guys when we started dating but shes also fun to be around so i guess its a little of both. she doesnt know about the first gf. shes talked some about her past bfs. im gunna ask some questions and see where it gets me

 

[alexandaria]

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