I get that this isn’t a swinger site but there are plenty of swingers here. Essentially this lifestyle wouldn’t exist without swingers. Most couples have a rule that they won’t take one for the team. Meaning that if they are playing with couples that all must be attracted to proceed.
Here is the problem, it can be very difficult to find four people where everyone clicks. It’s more difficult for my husband to take one for the team, he needs to be able to perform. Meaning that he must be able to get an erection. So can he really take one for the team? I suppose he could go down on the other wife. In my opinion what I find is that more often than not the wife is a cute little thing and they hubby is someone I’m not attracted to. So I tell them we aren’t compatible.
I started feeling bad because my husband is the one paying for my willingness or lack there of.
It’s not like I need an erection to have fun. So I started “ taking one for the team”. I can’t say I regret it. I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how eager some of the guys have been to please me.
My question is, as a couple, what are your thoughts on this rule? It’s a common rule. Is it an unbreakable rule for you? What are we missing out on? I know ours broadened our play.
Here is the problem, it can be very difficult to find four people where everyone clicks. It’s more difficult for my husband to take one for the team, he needs to be able to perform. Meaning that he must be able to get an erection. So can he really take one for the team? I suppose he could go down on the other wife. In my opinion what I find is that more often than not the wife is a cute little thing and they hubby is someone I’m not attracted to. So I tell them we aren’t compatible.
I started feeling bad because my husband is the one paying for my willingness or lack there of.
It’s not like I need an erection to have fun. So I started “ taking one for the team”. I can’t say I regret it. I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how eager some of the guys have been to please me.
My question is, as a couple, what are your thoughts on this rule? It’s a common rule. Is it an unbreakable rule for you? What are we missing out on? I know ours broadened our play.