Some Reasons Why I Hope This Only Stays a Fantasy

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Wife4Black77

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I have fantasized about the woman I love (first a graduate school girlfriend, and now with my wife) getting wildly fucked and pleasured by a well hung black guy, every day for the past 30+ years. Finding this site and these forums has been a source of great pleasure, useful information, and reassurance. But lately it has also made me second guess whether I actually should want to do this in real life. Part of me wonders if many of the posts that concern me are just cucks getting themselves off posting their cuck fantasy fever dreams, or if this lifestyle really results in what these guys are talking about. If the latter I don’t think this lifestyle would be healthy for me mentally. Let me explain.

This is my hope for this lifestyle if my wife were to live out my fantasy:

We play with a well hung black guy on a semi regular basis. It’s about amazing sex, icing on the cake, but the relationship between my wife and I doesn’t diminish because of the experience, if anything it gets stronger and more loving. We are closer, communicate better, and it even improves our sex life because the extra man ramps up the eroticism and excitement of our sex life. I still want to fuck her on a regular basis and am really looking forward to reclaim sex. I have no desire to do anything with the other man. No offense to those that do but guy on guy action grosses me out.

But if I take the many, many posts on here by cucks seriously I would never want to make my fantasy a reality:

Their wives start fucking guys behind their back. This to me is cheating, infidelity, and is a betrayal. I don’t find it hot, I find it hurtful and would crush me. I don’t get off on the thought of her lying and disrespecting myself and our marriage,

The husbands can no longer get hard because they feel totally inadequate and they can no longer fuck their wives. That to me would be a huge loss. I would never want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife.

They start becoming feminized. Dressing like women and doing sexual things with the other guy. Part of me believes that the cucks posting on this have this fantasy, of the experience turning them bi, and it’s them just getting off posting about it, but regardless of them posting what they hope happens or they do become feminized, I believe these folks always had those desires lurking beneath the surface and they are relieved they can finally be their true self without having shame surrounding it. I have far less concern about this actually happening to me.

The wives no longer want sex with their husbands because they can’t get pleasured by them anymore. Similar to the ED reason, I don’t want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife, I want this experience to add some spice and enhance it. Of course I don’t expect that I will be able to give her the same intensity of pleasure and orgasm as the better hung man we bring in to our relationship but I also don’t want to have our sex stop or be drudgery for her.

Are their cuck husbands in the lifestyle who have made this work and have avoided these issues and have the kind of relationship with their wives that I want with mine, or are the odds good I will experience much of what concerns me about making this a reality? My wife and I have a strong relationship, have 2 adult *******, love each other and have been married for over 20 years. I don’t have a shaky marriage I am looking to “fix.” Would appreciate real honest answers not guys who want to get themselves off by responding with their cuck fantasy fever dreams. Thanks.
 
Was really hoping more cucks would chime in especially if they have the type of relationship I am hoping to have with my wife related to this lifestyle. My counselor has 3 couples she counsels where the husband has the same fantasy so she was also interested in hearing feedback from cucks who have made this fantasy a reality with their wives. Two of those wives who’s husband wants this have mentioned in their sessions that they are worried they will like it too much and they will cross a line that will hurt their marriage. This forum is not just a good resource for me but it can be informative to my counselor who is looking for information to help offer practical advice as long as folks aren’t just regaling us with their cuckold fantasy fever dreams instead of a factual anecdotes from reality.
 
Wife4Black77 said:
I have fantasized about the woman I love (first a graduate school girlfriend, and now with my wife) getting wildly fucked and pleasured by a well hung black guy, every day for the past 30+ years. Finding this site and these forums has been a source of great pleasure, useful information, and reassurance. But lately it has also made me second guess whether I actually should want to do this in real life. Part of me wonders if many of the posts that concern me are just cucks getting themselves off posting their cuck fantasy fever dreams, or if this lifestyle really results in what these guys are talking about. If the latter I don’t think this lifestyle would be healthy for me mentally. Let me explain.

This is my hope for this lifestyle if my wife were to live out my fantasy:

We play with a well hung black guy on a semi regular basis. It’s about amazing sex, icing on the cake, but the relationship between my wife and I doesn’t diminish because of the experience, if anything it gets stronger and more loving. We are closer, communicate better, and it even improves our sex life because the extra man ramps up the eroticism and excitement of our sex life. I still want to fuck her on a regular basis and am really looking forward to reclaim sex. I have no desire to do anything with the other man. No offense to those that do but guy on guy action grosses me out.

But if I take the many, many posts on here by cucks seriously I would never want to make my fantasy a reality:

Their wives start fucking guys behind their back. This to me is cheating, infidelity, and is a betrayal. I don’t find it hot, I find it hurtful and would crush me. I don’t get off on the thought of her lying and disrespecting myself and our marriage,

The husbands can no longer get hard because they feel totally inadequate and they can no longer fuck their wives. That to me would be a huge loss. I would never want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife.

They start becoming feminized. Dressing like women and doing sexual things with the other guy. Part of me believes that the cucks posting on this have this fantasy, of the experience turning them bi, and it’s them just getting off posting about it, but regardless of them posting what they hope happens or they do become feminized, I believe these folks always had those desires lurking beneath the surface and they are relieved they can finally be their true self without having shame surrounding it. I have far less concern about this actually happening to me.

The wives no longer want sex with their husbands because they can’t get pleasured by them anymore. Similar to the ED reason, I don’t want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife, I want this experience to add some spice and enhance it. Of course I don’t expect that I will be able to give her the same intensity of pleasure and orgasm as the better hung man we bring in to our relationship but I also don’t want to have our sex stop or be drudgery for her.

Are their cuck husbands in the lifestyle who have made this work and have avoided these issues and have the kind of relationship with their wives that I want with mine, or are the odds good I will experience much of what concerns me about making this a reality? My wife and I have a strong relationship, have 2 adult *******, love each other and have been married for over 20 years. I don’t have a shaky marriage I am looking to “fix.” Would appreciate real honest answers not guys who want to get themselves off by responding with their cuck fantasy fever dreams. Thanks.
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Do what we do, never see the same guy more than once (maybe twice if he brings a friend or is really good) that way there is no chance of romantic entanglement. Worked for us for the last 18+ years.

Kimi XXX
 
Real couple here. The only side effect for me is that my girlfirend who loves blowjobs so much refuses to suck my white cock. And she lost interest into white men. Fortunately I still get to fuck her but she does this more for me. Last Saturday she was fucked by 3 bulls and up to today I am not allowed to fuck her because "she doesn't feel me". Otherwise we love eachother even more and I made her a proposal and she said yes.
 
Wife4Black77 said:
I have fantasized about the woman I love (first a graduate school girlfriend, and now with my wife) getting wildly fucked and pleasured by a well hung black guy, every day for the past 30+ years. Finding this site and these forums has been a source of great pleasure, useful information, and reassurance. But lately it has also made me second guess whether I actually should want to do this in real life. Part of me wonders if many of the posts that concern me are just cucks getting themselves off posting their cuck fantasy fever dreams, or if this lifestyle really results in what these guys are talking about. If the latter I don’t think this lifestyle would be healthy for me mentally. Let me explain.

This is my hope for this lifestyle if my wife were to live out my fantasy:

We play with a well hung black guy on a semi regular basis. It’s about amazing sex, icing on the cake, but the relationship between my wife and I doesn’t diminish because of the experience, if anything it gets stronger and more loving. We are closer, communicate better, and it even improves our sex life because the extra man ramps up the eroticism and excitement of our sex life. I still want to fuck her on a regular basis and am really looking forward to reclaim sex. I have no desire to do anything with the other man. No offense to those that do but guy on guy action grosses me out.

But if I take the many, many posts on here by cucks seriously I would never want to make my fantasy a reality:

Their wives start fucking guys behind their back. This to me is cheating, infidelity, and is a betrayal. I don’t find it hot, I find it hurtful and would crush me. I don’t get off on the thought of her lying and disrespecting myself and our marriage,

The husbands can no longer get hard because they feel totally inadequate and they can no longer fuck their wives. That to me would be a huge loss. I would never want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife.

They start becoming feminized. Dressing like women and doing sexual things with the other guy. Part of me believes that the cucks posting on this have this fantasy, of the experience turning them bi, and it’s them just getting off posting about it, but regardless of them posting what they hope happens or they do become feminized, I believe these folks always had those desires lurking beneath the surface and they are relieved they can finally be their true self without having shame surrounding it. I have far less concern about this actually happening to me.

The wives no longer want sex with their husbands because they can’t get pleasured by them anymore. Similar to the ED reason, I don’t want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife, I want this experience to add some spice and enhance it. Of course I don’t expect that I will be able to give her the same intensity of pleasure and orgasm as the better hung man we bring in to our relationship but I also don’t want to have our sex stop or be drudgery for her.

Are their cuck husbands in the lifestyle who have made this work and have avoided these issues and have the kind of relationship with their wives that I want with mine, or are the odds good I will experience much of what concerns me about making this a reality? My wife and I have a strong relationship, have 2 adult *******, love each other and have been married for over 20 years. I don’t have a shaky marriage I am looking to “fix.” Would appreciate real honest answers not guys who want to get themselves off by responding with their cuck fantasy fever dreams. Thanks.
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I am in the same exact boat as you and couldn't have described it any better. Want it but don't want to screw up anything.
 
Abbybadwife said:
I seriously doubt a professional counselor is asking one of their clients to educate them on this topic by gathering "data" from a porn site. :rolleyes:
Talk about a fever dream fantasy, that's this entire thread! :LOL:
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Doubt all you want but I don’t lie. You think there’s a lot of published research about this lifestyle to draw on? I had brought up the question of why so many cucks are in amateur porn watching their wives get fucked and their cocks are soft. She said, “that might be a good question for the forum you visit.” It was, and I shared what people said. She was curious what responses I had gotten on this question too but I told her there were very few responses. Again, believe what you want. I don’t give a F if you don’t believe me but I find it funny how clearly fantastical posts are taken at face value but one like this that is pretty common sense it labeled fantasy. To each their own. If I’m going to have a fever dream it’s going to be a lot more erotically charged than a curious counselor wanting to understand a group of folks better.
 
YCoupleRo said:
Real couple here. The only side effect for me is that my girlfirend who loves blowjobs so much refuses to suck my white cock. And she lost interest into white men. Fortunately I still get to fuck her but she does this more for me. Last Saturday she was fucked by 3 bulls and up to today I am not allowed to fuck her because "she doesn't feel me". Otherwise we love eachother even more and I made her a proposal and she said yes.
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Congrats on the engagement (are we talking a formal marriage proposal or a cuck proposal? Either way congrats). I am concerned my wife won’t feel me anymore. When we started to ramp up our sex life again she was super tight, but my tendency to introduce BBC toys into our play has changed the equation. I think she is worried about it and by extension (no pun intended) I am as well.
 
Hot Kimi said:
Do what we do, never see the same guy more than once (maybe twice if he brings a friend or is really good) that way there is no chance of romantic entanglement. Worked for us for the last 18+ years.

Kimi XXX
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Makes sense but seems like a big hassle to be constantly finding new guys to play with, I assume (hope?) you are using protection because it sounds a bit like Russian Roulette.
 
Wifepurv said:
usual reality isn’t as much fun. Better kept as a fantasy
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That’s the worry but I’m so obsessed if a black guy was coming on to my wife I would be totally hoping it happened in real life. But it’s also why I have been very cautious about trying to make this happen with chance encounters that I might help orchestrate. The bigger concern there is if my wife politely turns the guy down (she’s a very kind, unassuming wife, who would be flattered by the interest at worst) and he spills the beans that I set up the meet. At that point I could say this would never happen as she would always assume for eternity that any black guy showing interest was a set up. I’m never going to pitch to any guy that my wife is a sure thing and he’s definitely getting laid. It’s a coin toss. The deal is that she will never come right out and say what she wants, never has. So it’s about creating opportunities and letting her decide. It will always be her decision but since we live in a super white area I’ll be old and buried before a black guy would hit on my wife in real life.
 
Wife4Black77 said:
I have fantasized about the woman I love (first a graduate school girlfriend, and now with my wife) getting wildly fucked and pleasured by a well hung black guy, every day for the past 30+ years. Finding this site and these forums has been a source of great pleasure, useful information, and reassurance. But lately it has also made me second guess whether I actually should want to do this in real life. Part of me wonders if many of the posts that concern me are just cucks getting themselves off posting their cuck fantasy fever dreams, or if this lifestyle really results in what these guys are talking about. If the latter I don’t think this lifestyle would be healthy for me mentally. Let me explain.

This is my hope for this lifestyle if my wife were to live out my fantasy:

We play with a well hung black guy on a semi regular basis. It’s about amazing sex, icing on the cake, but the relationship between my wife and I doesn’t diminish because of the experience, if anything it gets stronger and more loving. We are closer, communicate better, and it even improves our sex life because the extra man ramps up the eroticism and excitement of our sex life. I still want to fuck her on a regular basis and am really looking forward to reclaim sex. I have no desire to do anything with the other man. No offense to those that do but guy on guy action grosses me out.

But if I take the many, many posts on here by cucks seriously I would never want to make my fantasy a reality:

Their wives start fucking guys behind their back. This to me is cheating, infidelity, and is a betrayal. I don’t find it hot, I find it hurtful and would crush me. I don’t get off on the thought of her lying and disrespecting myself and our marriage,

The husbands can no longer get hard because they feel totally inadequate and they can no longer fuck their wives. That to me would be a huge loss. I would never want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife.

They start becoming feminized. Dressing like women and doing sexual things with the other guy. Part of me believes that the cucks posting on this have this fantasy, of the experience turning them bi, and it’s them just getting off posting about it, but regardless of them posting what they hope happens or they do become feminized, I believe these folks always had those desires lurking beneath the surface and they are relieved they can finally be their true self without having shame surrounding it. I have far less concern about this actually happening to me.

The wives no longer want sex with their husbands because they can’t get pleasured by them anymore. Similar to the ED reason, I don’t want to lose my sexual relationship with my wife, I want this experience to add some spice and enhance it. Of course I don’t expect that I will be able to give her the same intensity of pleasure and orgasm as the better hung man we bring in to our relationship but I also don’t want to have our sex stop or be drudgery for her.

Are their cuck husbands in the lifestyle who have made this work and have avoided these issues and have the kind of relationship with their wives that I want with mine, or are the odds good I will experience much of what concerns me about making this a reality? My wife and I have a strong relationship, have 2 adult *******, love each other and have been married for over 20 years. I don’t have a shaky marriage I am looking to “fix.” Would appreciate real honest answers not guys who want to get themselves off by responding with their cuck fantasy fever dreams. Thanks.
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Not me. I desperately want this to happen and my wife fuck any bull she pleases.
 
We are relatively new to all of this too and I understand your apprehension. It really comes down to communication between you and your mate and well, really your playmate as well. My wife and I listen to a lot of podcasts and discuss what we like and don’t like. She knows I don’t want to be sissified, I’m not bisexual, we both understand and know what each other want out of all this and it’s discussed with our potential playmate. We both make it clear there and so far the two guys we’ve been with have been very easy to get along with and as my wife says They understood the assignment. I think much of what you read on here and other sites is just wanking material. I think one of the first things that needs to be understood is not everyone’s Cuckold relationship looks the same. There are couples that love everything I don’t and bulls too for that matter. Again it needs to be understood and discussed before anybody gets naked. It’s okay to be apprehensive and take care and take your time with it. It’s not a race that’s for sure. You’ll find that you’ll take a couple steps forward and a couple back. Don’t try to compare your path with someone else’s, make it your own and if it means that it stays a fantasy, then that’s cool too. Enjoy
 
Wifepurv said:
usual reality isn’t as much fun. Better kept as a fantasy
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I take it that's from your point of view, our experience was different, and we have only met I other couple where that wasn't the case, For the Hubby it did not live up to his fantasy but for the woman it far exceeded them as she went into it not thinking she would enjoy it at all. The Hubby still went along with it because he didn't hate it and saw how much his wife enjoyed it. :)
 
Wife4Black77 said:
Congrats on the engagement (are we talking a formal marriage proposal or a cuck proposal? Either way congrats). I am concerned my wife won’t feel me anymore. When we started to ramp up our sex life again she was super tight, but my tendency to introduce BBC toys into our play has changed the equation. I think she is worried about it and by extension (no pun intended) I am as well.
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Marriage proposal.
However, my fiancee is really into it, since she brought up all this play and lifestyle, so it evolves quite quick, last Saturday she had her first gangbang. To be honest, sometimes I think it is wrong but, on the other hand, we both enjoy it so much.
 
Wife4Black77 said:
Makes sense but seems like a big hassle to be constantly finding new guys to play with, I assume (hope?) you are using protection because it sounds a bit like Russian Roulette.
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Yes it's a little more hassle than a regular guy but a lot less hassle than a romance or a regular guy that wants more, we don't play every week and certainly don't play half as often as we did at the beginning. Also our life is free to live as we like, we don't have to consider a third person in our plans, in most cases we have come across, the "Bull" starts to dictate when and where etc which disrupts family life. We know one couple who haven't been away on holiday together since Covid as the "Bull" wants her every weekend at his.

KimiXXX
 
We have made it work for 5+ years now in a similar fashion to what you describe. I (the cuck) am not feminized, I don't touch her playmates (and have no interest in doing so), and my wife and I still have a great sexual relationship. This lifestyle can absolutely work...but it does require lots and lots of open communications. Every couple will have stumbles in this type of relationship...it is how you communicate during those stumbles that allows for things to succeed. Always talk about things...and then talk again, you can never over communicate in this lifestyle. It has worked for us and I don't ever foresee a day when we go back to a vanilla life!
 
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