UPDATE
It's been a little while since my last post, and I hate to say but things haven't gone much of anywhere. Her interest in the matter is still very high, but when I try to press forward, she seems to have a lot of apprehension or anxiety. Kinda like she has cold feet. It's frustrating getting to this point and hitting a snag.
On numerous occasions, I have tried to find a guy that's right for her and two times have urged her to talk to him with the prospect of them seeing if they have chemistry and moving along. As I mentioned, I think the most important thing for this all is finding a guy that she's comfortable with. And it's been a lot more difficult than I first envisioned. I've done my fair share of vetting, with her blessing, and have gotten to the point of contact, where they have texted her.
Unfortunately, after much talk and genuine interest from the first guy, he flaked out and proved to be either a fake or a flake. It's a problem I've seem to run into more than I ever expected I would..but I guess that's what you get when you deal on the internet. But the second guy was local and was interested and fit her mold (professional, seemed respectful, tall, muscular and a smooth talker). I set them up to have conversation via text, and got updates (mostly from his end) on the progress. After a few days of flirting, though, she was unresponsive and seemed disinterested in him. I asked her why, cuz it seemed they had chemistry, and she said something along the lines of how she's just "not sure" not about him, but specifically about "it." That took me by surprise, and in the days that followed, I found out more about her reluctance.
She expressed to me that while she's interested in the idea, when it gets to the point where it seems like it's going to happen, she got stage fright and was nervous about how it all will play out. She specifically brought up about how she's "not sure" how me being there would play out with this all, saying that she thought it might be more strange than she first thought it would be. I completely understand that aspect and tried to assure her that it would be fine. Without telling her directly, I've contemplated possibly not being in the room with them the first time, to ease any tension. I'm not sure if this is the way to go, so any help would be appreciated.
Anyway, she still uses her dildo and seems to be active in the thought of the cuckold lifestyle. While the interest is most definitely still there, anxiety has tended to ******* much of it when push comes to shove. I'm not quite sure how to get over this hurdle. But, it could be worse.