There's a reason why she's reluctant, but because you are consumed with your fantasy, you either can't or refuse to see it.
If a woman is going to have sex with another man outside of her marriage, it's going to be on her terms. If you persist in this where she has expressed reluctance you're asking for trouble. If it's meant to be, let her come to it naturally, if not, then ob la di, ob la da, life goes on.
Well, personally, i'm a bit confused with the direction this thread is going. dll74, your profile gender says you are female, but the conversation to this entire thread appears to have been directed at a male "wanting someone to try his reluctant wife" .
So, I'm thinking that you, dll, are the female, you are referring to yourself as the reluctant wife, and you are asking/inviting if anyone in Oklahoma would like to try you. Is my assumption correct? How am I doing? Mac