Redefining “Sex”

[Onlyfortheboss]

Not officially a cuck yet but my sex life with the wife is becoming more and more one sided. It’s almost exclusively turned into eating her pussy, just about every night. I recently confessed to her that it takes some pressure off of me to just lay her down and lick away at her instead of trying to fuck her. She was very shocked to hear it but obviously wasn’t gonna argue. The first few times confused her I think when I told her I was okay with not cumming afterwards. She even tried to blow me but in my submissive state of mind told her “you don’t have to do that if you don’t want to”. Which made her smile so we just cuddled. We’ve kinda never looked back and this has been our arrangement for almost a month. Am I entering cuckold territory? I’m hoping this can lead to her seeing me as a beta. I’m trying to be more submissive in other aspects too like cleaning her in the shower, buying her gifts, cooking, etc. I don’t know, not having sex and cumming makes me want to try and please her more. I think she is realizing it too but hasn’t commented yet.

 

[vtscubaguy]

Not officially a cuck yet but my sex life with the wife is becoming more and more one sided. It’s almost exclusively turned into eating her pussy, just about every night. I recently confessed to her that it takes some pressure off of me to just lay her down and lick away at her instead of trying to fuck her. She was very shocked to hear it but obviously wasn’t gonna argue. The first few times confused her I think when I told her I was okay with not cumming afterwards. She even tried to blow me but in my submissive state of mind told her “you don’t have to do that if you don’t want to”. Which made her smile so we just cuddled. We’ve kinda never looked back and this has been our arrangement for almost a month. Am I entering cuckold territory? I’m hoping this can lead to her seeing me as a beta. I’m trying to be more submissive in other aspects too like cleaning her in the shower, buying her gifts, cooking, etc. I don’t know, not having sex and cumming makes me want to try and please her more. I think she is realizing it too but hasn’t commented yet.

Keep serving her, keep being submissive, soon she will be so used to you serving her she will expect you to allow her to enjoy real cock.

 

[Cuthach]

I introduced chastity play to my wife over a decade ago when our youngest left home to make her way in the world. When ******* are in the picture you don't have the time for long intimate sex. You fit it in when you can and try to make it as enjoyable as possible. I am not a premature ejaculator but I do cum quickly when I am really excited. For about a year after our youngest left my wife and I struggled. We did not seem to connect emotionally or physically. I searched many porn sites looking for ideas to spice up our relationship. I found myself drawn to chastity play and wife sharing. I mainly like the combination of chastity play and cuckolding. When I bought my first cage and had my wife put it on me everything changed. We agreed that I would wear it for the whole weekend and she could not take it off unless we both agreed. I had an epiphany that weekend that changed my entire perception of how different sex is for women than it is for men. I began to understand that a woman can be satisfied with sex and not have an orgasm. She can get just as much pleasure from me touching her or cuddling her. My penis was not a key element in our sexual relationship. After the weekend was over my wife admitted that it was refreshing to enjoy herself without the pressure of making sure I orgasmed. She explained that for her the climax of our sex was me cumming. My cage has helped me to understand my wife's sexual and emotional needs. I can now tell by how her body moves when she is about to cum. I know by her breathing and the sounds she makes if she wants me to touch cuddle or caress her. I know when she needs a hug or a deep passionate kiss. I also realized that sex for me is much more rewarding even though I may not get to cum.

 

[Mypete]

Maybe it's just me,and I don't want to put down anyone else's kink,but there is no way anyone is ever putting a lock on my cock, or denying me sex. My wife is no longer interested in sex, so I am not having sex with her,but she says that she is not active with anyone else, due to her going the the change, and having had a hysterectomy. Should I find out that she is active with someone else, and just is no longer interested in having sex with me, then I don't need her anymore, and she can pack her stuff and go down the road! Even after three and a half decades of marriage! I enjoyed the sharing aspect,but I didn't take being cuckolded well at all, so when she went outside the marriage and cuckolded me with BBC,I didn't sit home and let her go out and have all the fun, I went out met a woman and cuckolded her ass right back! My wife was a jealous bitch, and didn't like me seeing other women, but she went outside the marriage first,so I made her deal with it! While her BBC adventures would last a few weeks to a few months,my relationships with other women lasted years. I made her pay for cuckolding me,and she really has no idea how much and how long I made her pay! Aside from that, I often wonder if you guys who are locked up in chastity, and go without pussy from your own wives or other women are going to wake up one day regretting all the pussy you missed out on or could have enjoyed. There is no way anyone is ever doing that to me. Right now I have been trying to be patient with my wife hoping in time she will want to be intimate with me again, but at some point I will have to look elsewhere to get some pussy. I am not going without. Again this is my situation, and I don't want to put down anyone else's kink, but I hope you know what you are doing, life's too short to go without, and by the time you realize it,it might be too late!

 

[RangerCuck]

Maybe it's just me,and I don't want to put down anyone else's kink,but there is no way anyone is ever putting a lock on my cock, or denying me sex. My wife is no longer interested in sex, so I am not having sex with her,but she says that she is not active with anyone else, due to her going the the change, and having had a hysterectomy. Should I find out that she is active with someone else, and just is no longer interested in having sex with me, then I don't need her anymore, and she can pack her stuff and go down the road! Even after three and a half decades of marriage! I enjoyed the sharing aspect,but I didn't take being cuckolded well at all, so when she went outside the marriage and cuckolded me with BBC,I didn't sit home and let her go out and have all the fun, I went out met a woman and cuckolded her ass right back! My wife was a jealous bitch, and didn't like me seeing other women, but she went outside the marriage first,so I made her deal with it! While her BBC adventures would last a few weeks to a few months,my relationships with other women lasted years. I made her pay for cuckolding me,and she really has no idea how much and how long I made her pay! Aside from that, I often wonder if you guys who are locked up in chastity, and go without pussy from your own wives or other women are going to wake up one day regretting all the pussy you missed out on or could have enjoyed. There is no way anyone is ever doing that to me. Right now I have been trying to be patient with my wife hoping in time she will want to be intimate with me again, but at some point I will have to look elsewhere to get some pussy. I am not going without. Again this is my situation, and I don't want to put down anyone else's kink, but I hope you know what you are doing, life's too short to go without, and by the time you realize it,it might be too late!

Given all of this, why are you even in this particular forum, then?

 

[Cuthach]

Maybe it's just me,and I don't want to put down anyone else's kink,but there is no way anyone is ever putting a lock on my cock, or denying me sex. My wife is no longer interested in sex, so I am not having sex with her,but she says that she is not active with anyone else, due to her going the the change, and having had a hysterectomy. Should I find out that she is active with someone else, and just is no longer interested in having sex with me, then I don't need her anymore, and she can pack her stuff and go down the road! Even after three and a half decades of marriage! I enjoyed the sharing aspect,but I didn't take being cuckolded well at all, so when she went outside the marriage and cuckolded me with BBC,I didn't sit home and let her go out and have all the fun, I went out met a woman and cuckolded her ass right back! My wife was a jealous bitch, and didn't like me seeing other women, but she went outside the marriage first,so I made her deal with it! While her BBC adventures would last a few weeks to a few months,my relationships with other women lasted years. I made her pay for cuckolding me,and she really has no idea how much and how long I made her pay! Aside from that, I often wonder if you guys who are locked up in chastity, and go without pussy from your own wives or other women are going to wake up one day regretting all the pussy you missed out on or could have enjoyed. There is no way anyone is ever doing that to me. Right now I have been trying to be patient with my wife hoping in time she will want to be intimate with me again, but at some point I will have to look elsewhere to get some pussy. I am not going without. Again this is my situation, and I don't want to put down anyone else's kink, but I hope you know what you are doing, life's too short to go without, and by the time you realize it,it might be too late!

It's unfortunate your marriage has suffered in that way. Maybe if you took a different approach to sex. Instead of focusing on what's in it for you maybe you could focus on what you can give. Then perhaps your situation could get better. When people come to a place like this is because they are interested in many of the topics discussed here. Some may share their experiences here while others tell us about their fantasies. It doesn't matter If what is posted is true or not the bigger point is it allows people to express what they want and how they want it. If cheating is your thing then own it. If cuckolding is your thing then own that too. If you find it hard to understand a fetish maybe ask some questions. Try to engage the author so you may learn about why they are into that fetish. If you totally disagree it may be better not to post at all and move on to something that does interest you. Either way, a place like this should be an environment of exploration and discovery, and no one should be made to feel ashamed of their fetish or lifestyle they willingly choose.

 

[Mypete]

My whole marriage was always about what was in it for her,until she decided to go outside the marriage and no longer include me. Believe me my wife was spoiled rotten! Sharing was supposed enhance our marriage, not separate us. As I clearly stated,I am not putting down anyone else's kink, but I am suggesting that before someone takes that leap,that they really think it through, that's all. What might do it for you won't do it for me! I cannot go your route in my current situation, because she says she no longer has any interest in it at all, so she says she doesn't want to be given any oral pleasure, she no longer has the interest. I found this hard to believe, because before she was so into it. It's like someone flipped a switch!

 

[Mypete]

Given all of this, why are you even in this particular forum, then?

I enjoy interracial sex,maybe because my wife chose not to include me when she engaged in that activity, I crave what I missed out on?

 

[Cuthach]

Not officially a cuck yet but my sex life with the wife is becoming more and more one sided. It’s almost exclusively turned into eating her pussy, just about every night. I recently confessed to her that it takes some pressure off of me to just lay her down and lick away at her instead of trying to fuck her. She was very shocked to hear it but obviously wasn’t gonna argue. The first few times confused her I think when I told her I was okay with not cumming afterwards. She even tried to blow me but in my submissive state of mind told her “you don’t have to do that if you don’t want to”. Which made her smile so we just cuddled. We’ve kinda never looked back and this has been our arrangement for almost a month. Am I entering cuckold territory? I’m hoping this can lead to her seeing me as a beta. I’m trying to be more submissive in other aspects too like cleaning her in the shower, buying her gifts, cooking, etc. I don’t know, not having sex and cumming makes me want to try and please her more. I think she is realizing it too but hasn’t commented yet.

Chastity play and denial is a far different ******* than cuckolding. Typically the two may play into each other, but each is not dependant on the other. A tease and denial situation is for a man to engage his lover in a way that does not involve his desires or needs. It is a way for him to give without receiving. It seems that a lot of women especially wives think that sex is concluded when the man cums. The idea that the man is in charge of what happens during sex is a concept women need to change. A penis is not required for a man and woman to have great intimate sex. More importantly, it's not required for the man to cum after he has pleased a woman. Think of all the times a wife has given a blowjob and not been paid back in kind. To be a cuck a marriage has to be rock solid. There can be no secrets, and being honest about how you feel and pay attention to how she feels. A cuck will experience a wide range of emotions that the wife may not know or understand unless there is communication. A cuck WILL have feelings of jealously, envy, regret. Especially the first time he sees his wife enjoying herself with another man. This is important to know and understand because most cuck's find this is a large part of what they are looking for in the relationship. Reconnecting with the wife after her time with her lover can strengthen bonds and make their relationship stronger.

 

[RangerCuck]

I enjoy interracial sex,maybe because my wife chose not to include me when she engaged in that activity, I crave what I missed out on?

No, I mean specifically the "Cuckold" forum within this entire page. I understand you enjoy the IR sex, but the entire board is dedicated to that. I'd like to know why you're in the 'Cuckold" forum of this page if you have no interest in being cuckolded.

 

[Cuthach]

I enjoy interracial sex,maybe because my wife chose not to include me when she engaged in that activity, I crave what I missed out on?

Did you ever ask her if you could watch or play a more active role in her helping her enjoy the men she has sex with. If you are still with her it seems that the cuck lifestyle may have been a fetish she could not accept in your own head. Cucks don't have to have their cock locked in a cage or be bi or subservient. I would have to say most cucks just enjoy watching.

 

[Mypete]

That's just it,she made me a cuckold, I didn't have a choice, so I returned the jesture. I didn't do it behind her back. She told me what she was going to do,and I didn't sit home and take it,it told her what I was going to do. No cheating at all.

 

[Mypete]

We were involved in sharing her for many years, I am guessing that when she decided to go outside the marriage, it was because the guy she was interested in wasn't into me being included?