Observation/Conclusion

So my husband and I share this account. We both talk on here sometimes together and sometimes separately as well. A little about us first: We are a happily married couple, who enjoy this lifestyle but don't share in the humiliation aspect of it. I do enjoy the fact he supports my lust for BBC. Something I enjoyed in college and now have the opportunity again while married to him. Obviously, not the typical cuckold situation.

I have made an observation and come to this conclusion (and I know this will be an unpopular statement but it is my own personal opinion):

So during our conversation with various BBC men in this lifestyle, some on this site and some off the site as well, it appears their are two kinds of men:
A: The BBCs who go about this with the attitude that they are OWED something by white husbands and should be allowed to fuck their wives.
B: The BBCs who go about this with the attitude that they are grateful to be involved and be the lover of the white wife who enjoys satisfying her lust for BBC.

Nothing turns me, well us off more than someone who is obnoxious and arrogant about this and thinks they are owed this. Not sure why there needs to be this mentality. I mean, I understand some people, and by people I mean couples who enjoy that type of relationship, more power to you.

I do this because I enjoy it and hubby does as well and it adds to our already great relationship. But I don't think that allowing myself to be something that is "OWED" to another person doesn't sit well with me. Like I said, I know there are other trains of thought for other couples and that is fine.

I really do love the taboo that it entails, the fact that all the men I meet have bigger cocks then my husband and the fact the in my opinion, BBCs almost certainly excude a raw, ******* type of fucking that I also enjoy.

Some guys can get downright ugly about this being owed attitude when you talk to them. I just feel it needn't be that way and the old adage that "you get more bees with honey then you do with *******".
Just the logic of thinking that you are owed this is severely unattractive to wanting to meet someone in my opinion.

Thoughts?
I agree with you, but this site has many men and women who love the dominance, cuckold, obedience, submissive, owned, owed, mentality of their sexual preferences of which although I don’t agree. I do like to read and look at the way they perceive this. It find it fascinating to me how people react so differently towards sex in any way you look at it. To each his own is the epitome of this kind of sexual preferences.
 
I agree with you, but this site has many men and women who love the dominance, cuckold, obedience, submissive, owned, owed, mentality of their sexual preferences of which although I don’t agree. I do like to read and look at the way they perceive this. It find it fascinating to me how people react so differently towards sex in any way you look at it. To each his own is the epitome of this kind of sexual preferences.

I while back I thought we had found a new friend from this site. It would have been our first from this site. Then he started talking about what we owned him for being black. Heck I am more African than he is. My family lost farms in South Africa that had been carved from the bush by generations with no black help as there were no blacks in the area. At the time parts of South Africa were like the North American prairies big open with few people there.

Then the boar war happened and eighteen male members of the family were pressed into military service by the British. With in a week all we’re dead. My grandmother who was three at the time was an orphan with in a month and sent to family in Scotland. Her three brothers were sent to a farm in Australia. Other family members survived only to have their farms taken by black governments in the sixties and seventies only to watch them given to government friends who knew nothing about farming. The farms were gone with in a few years.

As far as I am concerned I owe no one any thing unless you want to start paying native North Americans for their land
 
On the other side of my family we are a two time boat people group. First to the Royal Colony of Virginia in what is not the United States. We pick the wrong side in the war of independence and were sent to the nearest British colony which was Canada. Funny thing the US government said they would pay for the land. Our farm is part of what is now called Arlington National Cemitary. It been over two hundred years we are not holding our breath.
 
While that could certainly be true for some as I said, why does it seem some BBCs insist on being aggressive about it in that fashion? If it does not interest me, then let it go. It seems more that this is the way of certain BBC men and they think we should all be that way they want us to be. I don't play that game. Nothing about me or my demeanor says I owe anyone anything or want to be owned.

Just my personal opinion...
Agreed that’s why we have the “ignore” button ;)
 
So my husband and I share this account. We both talk on here sometimes together and sometimes separately as well. A little about us first: We are a happily married couple, who enjoy this lifestyle but don't share in the humiliation aspect of it. I do enjoy the fact he supports my lust for BBC. Something I enjoyed in college and now have the opportunity again while married to him. Obviously, not the typical cuckold situation.

I have made an observation and come to this conclusion (and I know this will be an unpopular statement but it is my own personal opinion):

So during our conversation with various BBC men in this lifestyle, some on this site and some off the site as well, it appears their are two kinds of men:
A: The BBCs who go about this with the attitude that they are OWED something by white husbands and should be allowed to fuck their wives.
B: The BBCs who go about this with the attitude that they are grateful to be involved and be the lover of the white wife who enjoys satisfying her lust for BBC.

Nothing turns me, well us off more than someone who is obnoxious and arrogant about this and thinks they are owed this. Not sure why there needs to be this mentality. I mean, I understand some people, and by people I mean couples who enjoy that type of relationship, more power to you.

I do this because I enjoy it and hubby does as well and it adds to our already great relationship. But I don't think that allowing myself to be something that is "OWED" to another person doesn't sit well with me. Like I said, I know there are other trains of thought for other couples and that is fine.

I really do love the taboo that it entails, the fact that all the men I meet have bigger cocks then my husband and the fact the in my opinion, BBCs almost certainly excude a raw, ******* type of fucking that I also enjoy.

Some guys can get downright ugly about this being owed attitude when you talk to them. I just feel it needn't be that way and the old adage that "you get more bees with honey then you do with *******".
Just the logic of thinking that you are owed this is severely unattractive to wanting to meet someone in my opinion.

Thoughts?
I was wondering if I was Crazy............thank U Mightily for saying such. I can respect the wishes of those who prefer the domination aspect, however I’m just not that much of an asshole when supplied with willing pussy. On some player-type *******, it is actually counter-intuitive to disrespect a man who Willingly shares his wife. That guy deserves a beer, a ******* or a smoke AT LEAST Kudos 2 the White MEN (not bois) & WOMEN for going wayyyy further than ole “ Honest Abe” in truly improving race “Relations “.
 
While that could certainly be true for some as I said, why does it seem some BBCs insist on being aggressive about it in that fashion? If it does not interest me, then let it go. It seems more that this is the way of certain BBC men and they think we should all be that way they want us to be. I don't play that game. Nothing about me or my demeanor says I owe anyone anything or want to be owned.

Just my personal opinion...
I believe porn and most white husbands make it that way, but I aim to please so if the woman are looking for dominance that I will be if she wants me to be gentle and loving ( my favorite part ) that what I'm gonna be... I prefer the to be gentle and loving if you know what I mean...
 
Agree wholeheartedly with your OP. Have many theories on why this is a, seemingly, prevalant attitude on this, and other, websites. The one that seems to have the most validity is some have a difficulty in separating fact from fantasy. While in one's fantasy the woman involved is submissive and spineless allowing herself to be used in any, and all, ways found to be degrading while the husband, also submissive and weak, is devoid of any manhood at all, the opposite is true. The fact, that the woman in question has a voice and may like to cede the "leadership" role in the bedroom to the man, as she may do for her husband also, but don't confuse this with being submissive and spineless and the husband, again in real life vice fantasy, knows that with a word any activity between the wife and the BM involved will come to a screeching halt becomes a wall that the BM's fantasy of being "owed" crashes into and burns.

There are fakes here, as there are on any site, and the attitude you write of may appear to be prevalant because those with that opinion are most active on the forums. Like you, if someone comes on with that attitude, they are, politely, shown the door. We don't give it a second thought because such an attitude is not only foul in the lifestyle, it is also foul in life in general. Better to find out someone harbors such opinions early vice late. YMMV.
 
We are just getting started looking into this. We have had several conversations with prospects that act like this. Guess what you get passed on by. We are no way ready . And let them know that when we are talking . Also let them know I’m not a chuck and she doesn’t like being dominated.That’s when it usually starts. Soon as she gets a wiff of them talking down to me they are done. It’s been a real hindrance trying to make this a possibility
 
YESSS. Preach. In my personal opinion a bull is JUST as lucky my hubs chooses to share me. NOT just that we should be bowing to him for his dick. This isn’t just about a dick it’s also about being close and growing together and experiencing things together for us so yes I agree. I am MUCH more likely to answer and be willing to play with a respectable, polite, bbc with a good vibe that makes me feel like he will be patient until I’m comfortable to make it worth his while and put a good sexy show on for hubs because without him this isn’t possible ?. ??
 
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