Need advice.

[SvilleScCouple]

I've tried for probably about 18 months at this point to plant the seeds of interest in my wife's mind. Dildos progressively got larger and thicker to see how she reacted. Colors went from white and crayon style colors to black and with the larger ones a realistic brown. Positive reactions to all of the above. Getting her to talk dirty about BBC, success. She's opposed to porn as a whole, so haven't been able to make interracial viewing a thing. I brought the idea of her finding a black man to have sex with her either while I watch or I could not be there at all if she wanted. she has stated that it was a hard no. The want on my end didn't cease and periodically I would mention it, to the point she has mentioned it jokingly. Not that she would do it, but bringing up the fantasy as a joke. Since she has stated a hard no to the hot wife lifestyle for close to six months now, so you as an experienced community think there is any hope? If so any advice is welcome.

 

[AsianLovesBig]

Well not every woman has an interest to fuck a man just for the sake of doing it! And the fact that you are the real one wanting her to do that, what is that telling her? In my view it has to be her desire and trying to get her to do it to satisfy your desire makes no sense, probably makes her feel that you have lost respect for her, and maybe even wondering why it is okay to let another guy fuck her to please your Fantasy, but probably not okay to do it for her desire not yours! Remember, she is your wife, u don't own her like you do your car, and if she did what you want her to, you better be ready to accept her after that fucking whatever guy she wants! These are things you need to realize and accept, there are no double standards here.
So, first off, stop totally letting her know what you want her to do. Imagine her wanting you to suck off a guy and swallow his cum, to satisfy a desire she had. Would you? Unless you are bi, no you wouldn't! Well it might be the same way for her, no desire in black guys, ask her instead then how about a white guy? See what she says.
U probably by now have her confused, upset, worried what the fuck is going on in my husband's head, fear of the future of the marriage, etc etc. I say, if you love her then stop being selfish and make her feel happy again and forget this idea, if she later decides ok she will tell you. But, if u don't live her and this idea is without her feelings one mind, let her go, do her a favor, so she can feel wanted and secure again!
Good luck, wish you the best.

 

[AsianLovesBig]

Oh and also, why is this such a big deal for you, what are your reasons??

 

[KeikoandSarge]

Do nothing but bury her with love, you’ve made your feelings known. So has she. Let’s some time pass and continue to enjoy your alone time together periodically reminding her of how hot the Fantasy makes you, especially while your going down on her or using a dildo. Best of luck, either way...Enjoy what you have.

 

[Aly—]

Do nothing but bury her with love, you’ve made your feelings known. So has she. Let’s some time pass and continue to enjoy your alone time together periodically reminding her of how hot the Fantasy makes you, especially while your going down on her or using a dildo. Best of luck, either way...Enjoy what you have.

Almost good advice but I think it’s time to completely drop it. Do not periodically remind her, she’s made it clear she isn’t interested and you need to respect that. Think of a situation or interest your wife has that you have zero interest in. Now imagine how disrespected and annoyed you would feel if she constantly brought it up. She will remember every single time that you passively bring it up and I promise you it will not change her mind. In fact it will create an issue that will eventually boil over.

 

[GAVnGIN]

Difficult. Id say approach from a different angle. Ask her to try having you in chastity for a while. See if she can get into the Fem dom role. Enjoy this for a while and her interests in other men may come forth.

 

[AsianLovesBig]

Difficult. Id say approach from a different angle. Ask her to try having you in chastity for a while. See if she can get into the Fem dom role. Enjoy this for a while and her interests in other men may come forth.

The advice you give here in my view shows your disrespect for women and is easy for you to say, she's not your wife!

 

[Alfin8tor]

My question is why are you listed as a couple

 

[MacNfries]

Since she has stated a hard no to the hot wife lifestyle for close to six months now, so you as an experienced community think there is any hope?

Well, Sville, you've received some serious suggestions ... of which the most important piece of most of them is to "drop the topic for a while". Here in the South we have this saying that goes ... "never try to teach a pig to sing. You just waste your time and annoy the pig". I'd say that about wraps up your current situation.
If she's not interested in some "swinging fun" ... like MFM 3-somes or swapping, I doubt she's going to go for interracial sex. It would help the feedback and answers you receive IF you'd "tell us about yourselves ... are you a young or older couple, any at-home children, how long married, ever involved anyone into your sex fun at home, shared sexual fantasies with each other, masturbated in front of each other, ever cheated on HER, etc etc etc." This will give forum members more to work with in structuring suggestions.
This interracial cucking is YOUR desire and you need to approach from HER desires. Who knows, she may want to have some fun with some other ladies, or bondage. Females tend to take a more cautious & thought out approach to stuff like this ... we guys respond based upon our erections, it seems...lol.

 

[GAVnGIN]

The advice you give here in my view shows your disrespect for women and is easy for you to say, she's not your wife!

You couldnt be further from the truth here. He asked advice and the advice i gave offers his wife all the power she could wish for. Theres no disprespect at all and im sorry you feel that way

 

[Sandman13]

I've tried for probably about 18 months at this point to plant the seeds of interest in my wife's mind. Dildos progressively got larger and thicker to see how she reacted. Colors went from white and crayon style colors to black and with the larger ones a realistic brown. Positive reactions to all of the above. Getting her to talk dirty about BBC, success. She's opposed to porn as a whole, so haven't been able to make interracial viewing a thing. I brought the idea of her finding a black man to have sex with her either while I watch or I could not be there at all if she wanted. she has stated that it was a hard no. The want on my end didn't cease and periodically I would mention it, to the point she has mentioned it jokingly. Not that she would do it, but bringing up the fantasy as a joke. Since she has stated a hard no to the hot wife lifestyle for close to six months now, so you as an experienced community think there is any hope? If so any advice is welcome.

Same situation here

 

[Anna Secrets]

You are not going to convince her, she needs to make the way to her fantasy by herself !

 

[Sandman13]

So how to get that fantasy in her head?

 

[Anna Secrets]

I’m the woman ? lol

 

[IrishBoyNY]

Honestly was in same delluim, told my wife all about my likes and fantasies. Only porn we watch is interracial and play with Black Cock dildo, but wife not into it and only plays along cause she knows it totally turns me on. I've just left it and keep it as my fantasy. If your wife isnt into the lifestyle or fantasy at all, leave it be. At the end of the day, it's all about her satisfaction and wants, not yours. As tough as that sounds. Who knows what the future holds, but like others have said, if you keep pushing it she might just never do it and be 100% against. Knowing she plays along because she knows it excites you should be enough right now. That's just my two cents. Best of luck

 

[Aisha]

Honestly was in same delluim, told my wife all about my likes and fantasies. Only porn we watch is interracial and play with Black Cock dildo, but wife not into it and only plays along cause she knows it totally turns me on. I've just left it and keep it as my fantasy. If your wife isnt into the lifestyle or fantasy at all, leave it be. At the end of the day, it's all about her satisfaction and wants, not yours. As tough as that sounds. Who knows what the future holds, but like others have said, if you keep pushing it she might just never do it and be 100% against. Knowing she plays along because she knows it excites you should be enough right now. That's just my two cents. Best of luck

Agree, I'm the same, black dildos and interracial porn, I am turned on by the thought of doing it for real but have said I don't want to (for fear of dmaamging our relationship), he respects that even if he does try to convince me now and again

 

[Curiouscpl14]

From a woman’s stand point just try easing the best you can. If you push it just makes us more and more anxiety filled. Ease into conversation and fantasy ideas with her maybe letting her know how okay you are with it and how much it turns you on. Hubs and I attempted once to add a bbc to the mix I think it was before we were 100% ready and we haven’t tried one in a few years now but I think I’m almost there but it’s been hard. He’s been waiting patiently for me to get to where I’m ready and even knowing he’s more than happy to see it again still gives me anxiety. I love to please him and I love learning new things with hubs so I’m absolutely gonna try again just gotta get up my nerve ??

 

[Fresh19]

Hi new here

 

[Wideboy61]

We are new as well

 

[jamesriske]

Start out slow. Have her agree to just giving a black guy a massage and hand job at first while you watch quietly.

If you don't like it, no harm done. It was just a hand job.

But if you both liked it, do more the next time. Have her suck it a little, lick it, etc.

That's how my wife and I did it. We just took baby steps and took it show. Took us 6 months to work up to her full on fucking black guys while I watch.

we both love it now.

But take my advice, just do a massage at first.

Or if that is too much for you, just have a black guy over for a ******* and have her sit next to him.

YOu don't have to go all out at first, take it slow.