Is hotwife lifestyle lead to cuckolding

[Canemint2020]

So for the last few years I've been trying to convince my wife to be a hotwife. I've always been turned on my the thought of seeing her with others. At first I thought I wanted to be in the cuckold lifestyle, but the degrading of the husband never say right to me. I would not want to have that done to me and if she allowed me to have another woman I would not do that to her. So then I learned about hotwife life style and it seemed like it was the way to go as it was a wife having sex with someone else and the husband reclaiming her, but more and more I'm see people who are into hotwifeing degrading there partner and sometimes denying them the right to reclaim. Now for example if what I'm saying isn't clear I see many post or comments from wives that how the husband can never to what the bull does etc. I am by no means a "beta" and if the eventually result of the hotwife lifestyle is being cuckold that is not something I want. I'm average length but above average girth and my wife and I have great sex, and I wouldn't want to endanger our relationship.

My main question is does the hotwife lifestyle eventually lead to cuckolding?

 

[Tinytim2020]

I can’t speak personally but I’d say if that wife of yours gets a few bbc orgasms under her belt the frequency you get to fuck her will drastically be reduced lol she built for BBC

 

[Canemint2020]

I can’t speak personally but I’d say if that wife of yours gets a few bbc orgasms under her belt the frequency you get to fuck her will drastically be reduced lol she built for BBC

Thanks for the reply. Her ex boyfriend is black. I'm not saying that means he was hung but she's always avoided answering the question about his size. You are correct she is built for BCC over the years we have had several dildos one large one is molded after the pornstar Shane diesel and with a little lube (very little) she able to take it real easy.

 

[Tinytim2020]

Thanks for the reply. Her ex boyfriend is black. I'm not saying that means he was hung but she's always avoided answering the question about his size. You are correct she is built for BCC over the years we have had several dildos one large one is molded after the pornstar Shane diesel and with a little lube (very little) she able to take it real easy.

My ex was also into black men. She was reluctant for years to open up about him then we did some yayo and she was all for it lol laughed when I said he couldn’t have been THAT much bigger..said he was the best at foreplay and fucking her. She has now taking control sexually and guide my hands, mouth etc to do her the same ways he used to!! So sexy knowing she is molding me after him. Although my cock will NEVER compare to his. She’s never said what his actual size was. Says she doesn’t “remember that well”

 

[Canemint2020]

My ex was also into black men. She was reluctant for years to open up about him then we did some yayo and she was all for it lol laughed when I said he couldn’t have been THAT much bigger..said he was the best at foreplay and fucking her. She has now taking control sexually and guide my hands, mouth etc to do her the same ways he used to!! So sexy knowing she is molding me after him. Although my cock will NEVER compare to his. She’s never said what his actual size was. Says she doesn’t “remember that well”

My wife says she can't remember also. She has said I am thicker then he was so very strange how memory works. She's only been with the one black guy and she was in highschool. She always told me that I fuck better than him, and I've counter back that it was cause they were teens and didn't know what they were doing and offered her to connect back with him so she can see what he's learned. My wife does like a dark dick my own is to shades away from black.

 

[Tinytim2020]

My wife says she can't remember also. She has said I am thicker then he was so very strange how memory works. She's only been with the one black guy and she was in highschool. She always told me that I fuck better than him, and I've counter back that it was cause they were teens and didn't know what they were doing and offered her to connect back with him so she can see what he's learned. My wife does like a dark dick my own is to shades away from black.

Well I’m white and two toned (not nice to look at) and I’m 6” long. Kinda thick lol

 

[Dblinsey]

There were a lot of great, really in-depth responses here. None of them are wrong, primarily because it revolves around individual perception and attitude.

A 'Hotwife' can be married to a 'Cuckold' or to a 'Stag' depending on approach.

The way I understand it, a 'Hotwife' has lovers and the husband does not. Working off of that definition, we're faced with the husband's perception and attitude.

If he allows himself to become submissive, not having sex with his wife, and serving both the Bull (regardless of race) and his wife, thrives on degradation and humiliation, then from our perspective, that's a 'Cuckold.'

But, if the husband and wife both derive pleasure from her activities, he either condones the activity letting her pursue it on her own, or watches as she has fun, but still has sex with her and in every other way, have a loving, traditional relationship, then he's referred to as a 'Stag.'

A 'Stag' and 'Hotwife' (sometimes called a 'Vixen' in this sort of situation) do not enjoy any form of degradation or humiliation. they are in this together, both enjoying her activities. When she is done with the Bull, sex with hubby is more intense and enjoyable for the both of them as they relive her adventures.

While none of these approaches are 'wrong,' they are different, hence the distinction. Thus it's up to you, the husband, to decide which approach you find most stimulating. Speaking only for ourselves, my husband is very much a Stag and I'm very much his Vixen.

Hope this helps!

 

[petco]

There were a lot of great, really in-depth responses here. None of them are wrong, primarily because it revolves around individual perception and attitude.

A 'Hotwife' can be married to a 'Cuckold' or to a 'Stag' depending on approach.

The way I understand it, a 'Hotwife' has lovers and the husband does not. Working off of that definition, we're faced with the husband's perception and attitude.

If he allows himself to become submissive, not having sex with his wife, and serving both the Bull (regardless of race) and his wife, thrives on degradation and humiliation, then from our perspective, that's a 'Cuckold.'

But, if the husband and wife both derive pleasure from her activities, he either condones the activity letting her pursue it on her own, or watches as she has fun, but still has sex with her and in every other way, have a loving, traditional relationship, then he's referred to as a 'Stag.'

A 'Stag' and 'Hotwife' (sometimes called a 'Vixen' in this sort of situation) do not enjoy any form of degradation or humiliation. they are in this together, both enjoying her activities. When she is done with the Bull, sex with hubby is more intense and enjoyable for the both of them as they relive her adventures.

While none of these approaches are 'wrong,' they are different, hence the distinction. Thus it's up to you, the husband, to decide which approach you find most stimulating. Speaking only for ourselves, my husband is very much a Stag and I'm very much his Vixen.

Hope this helps!

well said .
but it is also a question of how to define : humiliation .
i would call myself a stag _ but i love to lick her ( feet_pussy_ asshole).
so to lick her is not submissive for me _ it is what i like _ no matter before or afterwards .

 

[tomtomjim]

if your wife fucks other men you are a cuckold, if you know she does you are cuckold plus, if she does and you accept you are double plus. Once you are a willing cuck the skys the limit and you can look forward to her calling the shots and making you clean the shots or having the shots go directly in your mouth. All this talk about hotwife or whatever is just pretend and meant to dress up the facts

 

[cuckboat]

So for the last few years I've been trying to convince my wife to be a hotwife. I've always been turned on my the thought of seeing her with others. At first I thought I wanted to be in the cuckold lifestyle, but the degrading of the husband never say right to me. I would not want to have that done to me and if she allowed me to have another woman I would not do that to her. So then I learned about hotwife life style and it seemed like it was the way to go as it was a wife having sex with someone else and the husband reclaiming her, but more and more I'm see people who are into hotwifeing degrading there partner and sometimes denying them the right to reclaim. Now for example if what I'm saying isn't clear I see many post or comments from wives that how the husband can never to what the bull does etc. I am by no means a "beta" and if the eventually result of the hotwife lifestyle is being cuckold that is not something I want. I'm average length but above average girth and my wife and I have great sex, and I wouldn't want to endanger our relationship.

My main question is does the hotwife lifestyle eventually lead to cuckolding?

I believe what you sound like you want is vixen/stag. Where the woman, vixen, has sex with others and the man, stag, may or may not know of the actual meetings but supports it whether he is there or not. The woman gets the dick and the hubby is not degraded. There is a diffrence between vixen/stag and hotwife /cuck

 

[dancuck]

For us it was. It gave Sarah the confidence that guys found her attractive and sexy. But as I raised the idea, it also allowed her to deal with my enjoyment if her flirting and being with other men and that it would not affect our relationship, but found it brought us closer together.

 

[Dblinsey]

well said .
but it is also a question of how to define : humiliation .
i would call myself a stag _ but i love to lick her ( feet_pussy_ asshole).
so to lick her is not submissive for me _ it is what i like _ no matter before or afterwards .

Like I said, it's a matter of perception. What you described isn't humiliation to us.

Humiliation is when the Bull and/or wife insult the husband by calling him worthless and the like. Also denying him sex for an extended period of time, stuff like that. Just doing something like what you described is simply mutual pleasure, not humiliation.

 

[petco]

Like I said, it's a matter of perception. What you described isn't humiliation to us.

Humiliation is when the Bull and/or wife insult the husband by calling him worthless and the like. Also denying him sex for an extended period of time, stuff like that. Just doing something like what you described is simply mutual pleasure, not humiliation.

indeed _ you got my point .

 

[tomtomjim]

yes any man who has a wife who fucks other men is a cuckold and it is just a matter of degree. some men fool themselves and say they have a hotwife but they are just cucks and will be used as the wife sees fit

 

[AllenEthanM]

I believe what you sound like you want is vixen/stag. Where the woman, vixen, has sex with others and the man, stag, may or may not know of the actual meetings but supports it whether he is there or not. The woman gets the dick and the hubby is not degraded. There is a diffrence between vixen/stag and hotwife /cuck

And the stag enjoys sex with other women as well.

 

[abnranger67]

At the end of the day, no matter what terminology is used, YOU have to live with it. No matter where you go, YOU ALWAYS go with you. That being said, if you ignore the titles and just enjoy and endure the lifestyle you choose, you will be fine. Just OWN it.

 

[HonButter]

So for the last few years I've been trying to convince my wife to be a hotwife. I've always been turned on my the thought of seeing her with others. At first I thought I wanted to be in the cuckold lifestyle, but the degrading of the husband never say right to me. I would not want to have that done to me and if she allowed me to have another woman I would not do that to her. So then I learned about hotwife life style and it seemed like it was the way to go as it was a wife having sex with someone else and the husband reclaiming her, but more and more I'm see people who are into hotwifeing degrading there partner and sometimes denying them the right to reclaim. Now for example if what I'm saying isn't clear I see many post or comments from wives that how the husband can never to what the bull does etc. I am by no means a "beta" and if the eventually result of the hotwife lifestyle is being cuckold that is not something I want. I'm average length but above average girth and my wife and I have great sex, and I wouldn't want to endanger our relationship.

My main question is does the hotwife lifestyle eventually lead to cuckolding?

You are thinking too far into it and trying to fit a label. Guess what, it’s your life so design a sexual lifestyle that is the one you two want. It doesn’t have to fit one particular label. If you don’t like the degrading then don’t do it. If you just want your wife to have fun and still have fun with you then go for it and enjoy it. Play how you want to play and that is all you have to worry about.

 

[econojam]

if your wife fucks other men you are a cuckold, if you know she does you are cuckold plus, if she does and you accept you are double plus. Once you are a willing cuck the skys the limit and you can look forward to her calling the shots and making you clean the shots or having the shots go directly in your mouth. All this talk about hotwife or whatever is just pretend and meant to dress up the facts

Nah.

 

[Dblinsey]

Nah.

Excellent response.

 

[tomtomjim]

Nah.

definition of a cuckold is a man who has a wife who fucks other men regardless if he knows or not and regardless if he fucks other women. Now you may wish to create your own definition but argue with Webster not me