So my wife has known for years that I love the idea of her taking her first bbc and she enjoys the thought of it but she gets shy and nervous when the subject of meeting in person comes up. She had been messaging a possible bull for a while and BOY did she open up and was talking dirtier than she ever has with me but in the end she felt like he wasn't putting in much effort and she gave up on meeting men online all together. One nice thing about her is that in person (especially after a few drinks) she is very friendly and flirty with other men that approach her. I believe if she were to meet someone in person that she hit it off with, it would vastly increase the possibility of her making a connection and wanting to take him home. Unfortunately meeting black men in our area isn't easy as there is not a huge black community and we are not super outgoing beyond going out to eat once a weekend. Any tips or ideas on how I can increase her chances of meeting and being hit on by men?