If your wife (or girlfriend as the case may be) has no idea this is your fantasy, then you are really:
1) Hoping that they cheat on you, which is terrible for your relationship and not sustainable, and
2) Odds of success are reduced significantly
If you have shared your fantasy and they know how excited it makes you, an attractive well hung black man coming on to her can be a turn on (especially if she thinks it’s a natural attraction), you can maintain the relationship without the cloud of cheating and your odds should be much better.
I have thought about this very scenario many times. I have been completely transparent with my wife about my fantasy, and she definitely knows how much it turns me on. She doesn’t think other men find her attractive (she’s shy, doesn’t dress provocatively and she always wears her wedding ring so guys wouldn’t normally try hitting on her) so I feel if we were away from home, had a couple drinks, and black guy hit on her….. worst case scenario she would politely decline his advances and she would fuck me senseless when we got back to our hotel room. Best case scenario the black guy would pop her BBC cherry and would have her talking in tongues and losing her mind in ecstacy.
The challenge as I see it is:
1) Black guys want a sure thing. I know my wife well, and I think she is primed for this kind of seduction but I can’t make any guarantees. I can guarantee that if the guy hits on her but is cool and not rude she would never be a bitch (she’s a shy, good natured catholic raised woman) or be rude to him. She would be flattered, and probably surprised and turned on, maybe a tad embarrassed.
2) I would be worried that the guy would let it slip that I set up the situation especially if she isn’t receptive to his advances. Would Create a huge fight for my wife and i and she would never trust that any black guy in the future that hit on her was doing so of his own free will. Would majorly mess things up.
I have thought about making it worth the guys time, like renting a room for him during our stay so he isn’t out any money, and if it doesn’t work out at least he has a cool place to hang out. Maybe giving him money for a nice dinner too. No $ to fuck my wife, but just for his time and trouble if it didn’t work out. If he didn’t want to fuck my wife after they met (highly, highly doubtful) he’s under no obligation to try to make something happen.
The only way I would try to make this happen is if the guy was totally chill and knew exactly the dynamic going on.
As for you guys thinking about this… grow a pair and at least be honest with your woman about what your fantasy is about if you haven’t done so already. If you need tips on how to message it I am happy to help. I blew my original opportunity to share with a girlfriend I had many years ago (the only other woman besides my wife I have had the fantasy about) and she would have gone for it but I was too scared. After that opportunity passed I swore I would never do that again. My wife had very little sexual experience before me, very sheltered, raised Catholic, a fair number of hang ups and yet I was able to share this with her before we even got married. Don’t live life with regrets.