My white wife does not know I want her to try bbc. Still I do not want to ask her. Trying to get thoughts about this. I have thought about having her seduced, but I know most black guys are not into trying on a wife that does not know. Should I ******* her to? To give more info. she will not watch porn.
Husband here wanting my wife to try bbc
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How do these thoughts come to people's minds?! "Should I ******* her to?" Just can't be a real question....ok, maybe you want to fantasize or role play this...fine...but honestly....how much respect do you have for your wife if you're saying "******* her" to do something you have neither talked about nor does she seem interested in....c'mon man.
jamesriske
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You need to go slow and carefully move her and your relationship in that direction. Even if it takes two years to build her to the point of fucking BBC in front of you and loving it, it's worth it.
She won't watch porn and you don't know how to bring up the subject? Here's how.
Be nice to her for a week or two, butter her up. Put her in a good mood, put a couple drinks in her. Fuck her every other night or so building up to it, make her feel happy and content. Then watch this movie: ******* Instincts, 1992
Make sure you get the 1992 version of ******* Instincts, the original one with David Carradine (the sequels suck). It's about a couple who discovers that the husband likes watching his wife have sex. He ends up putting cameras in her bedroom and watching from another room. It's not a porn movie but a mainstream movie, R rated. It totally brings up the subject and shows it in graphic detail. You can't help but talk about it. When the timing is right during the movie, tell her that it might turn you on. See how she reacts and responds to you. Don't be discouraged if she puts it off completely (my wife did at first). Just drop it, never push or pressure. Just know that the seed has been planted in her mind and she will start thinking about it.
(that movie is a fantastic way to bring up the subject for all your married guys out there)
What you do after that is up to you. Everyone is different. Wait a week or so and when she's giving you a blowjob start telling her that you're fantasizing about watching her with another man like in the movie. Talk dirty while you fuck her or while she's blowing you. Plant it in her head that you're turned on by it and see how she responds. Whisper it to her during sex, don't mention black guys yet.
Then, watch a movie that shows an interracial relationship. A good mainstream non porn movie would be The Mountain Between Us, 2017. A white woman and black man are stuck and stranded together in the snow, struggling for survival. They bond closer and closer and eventually end up having sex together in an abandoned cabin. This is a good mainstream movie to watch together to naturally bring up the subject of interracial sex. While watching say something like, "Wow, what a turn on." Don't even let her react or ask her about black men.
Wait a couple days and then while having sex, tell her that you're fantasizing about her having sex with a black man while you watch like in the movies that you saw.
Wait another few weeks and then ask her if she wants to try fooling around a bit and that you have a great idea. Tell her that you've been fantasizing about watching her with a black man but you don't want to risk your relationship. So you decided that you should both try something small, like just giving a black guy a hand job while you watch. She'll put something sexy on and you'll find a black guy to come over and get a massage and hand job while you watch, nothing more. If all goes well, you can talk about it after and see how you both feel. If you didn't like it, you can stop and it won't affect your relationship, it was just a handjob.
If you like it and she likes it, invite the guy back and let her blow him a little, then next time, they both do oral sex, then next time, they do intercourse, etc. Build up to it, take baby steps. Take your time, go slowly with her.
That's what worked for me. Took me a year to build us up to the point to where she craves sex with black men and I love to watch. It's worth all the time and effort, I thoroughly enjoy it and so does she.
I think it's a mistake to just blurt out that you want to be a cuckold and watch her fuck black guys. For me, going slow and making her think it was both our ideas worked the best.
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jamesriske
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You are welcome. I'm no expert but this is what worked for me.
My wife is a very attractive, conservative, slim blonde and she went from, "Ewww...I can't imagine..." to fucking dozens of different black guys and loving it. We're still going strong. I just took my time and carefully planted seeds and ideas in her head.
Take it slow and constantly reassure her that you will not get jealous or leave her or think differently about her. That's why the starting slow with hand jobs worked for us. When she gave him a hand job, she saw how well hung he was and how much she wanted his cock. It helped build up her desire and anticipation. Make her want it. Show her that it's ok and will not harm the relatonship. By the time we agreed on full intercourse she was dying for his black cock.
I'm not gonna bother reading the majority of this thread. WHY do white men ******* their women to do things that THEY want without ever having a discussion with their wives?! Do you all ever talk to each other? And most women DON'T watch porn. That's normal. Stop making it about just you and make it more about you as a couple.
I was with a couple about a year ago. The husband wanted the wife to fuck other guys while he watched. It was cool the first couple of times. The last time we were together, wife and I were alone. Everything was cool. Husband walked in. She changed. She wasn't as relaxed. He strarted "directing" by telling us which way to lay or move. She had this look on her face like she wasn't into it. That look has been burned in to my brain.
Talk to your woman. Do not set her up. She will resent you otherwise.
My 2 cents.
I was with a couple about a year ago. The husband wanted the wife to fuck other guys while he watched. It was cool the first couple of times. The last time we were together, wife and I were alone. Everything was cool. Husband walked in. She changed. She wasn't as relaxed. He strarted "directing" by telling us which way to lay or move. She had this look on her face like she wasn't into it. That look has been burned in to my brain.
Talk to your woman. Do not set her up. She will resent you otherwise.
My 2 cents.
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James, I have to give it to you. You are a husband I would enjoy partnering with to share your wife! You're spot on. Time and tenor are everything. Know your wife, respect her anxieties as well as her latent desires. Open communication is everything and candor and trust are key. The only few tweaks I may suggest:
1. Depending on the wife, after doing the movie socialization, ask her if she'd like to chat with a guy (after you vet). No pressure, no expectations, but
a chance to establish rapport. Chatting allows her to get comfortable with the gent, if he's civil and not overly sexual. Then she can see herself
being in his company.
2. An alternative to a hand job, get a black dildo, name it something and call it her new best friend. During sex allow her to ask for it, and talk dirty.
She'll love it...actually take ownership of liking something bigger and more taboo.
I appreciate Indy wife's perspective, he's thinking more about the destination than the journey. Be patient. Focus on the journey and the destination will be euphoric.
1. Depending on the wife, after doing the movie socialization, ask her if she'd like to chat with a guy (after you vet). No pressure, no expectations, but
a chance to establish rapport. Chatting allows her to get comfortable with the gent, if he's civil and not overly sexual. Then she can see herself
being in his company.
2. An alternative to a hand job, get a black dildo, name it something and call it her new best friend. During sex allow her to ask for it, and talk dirty.
She'll love it...actually take ownership of liking something bigger and more taboo.
I appreciate Indy wife's perspective, he's thinking more about the destination than the journey. Be patient. Focus on the journey and the destination will be euphoric.
If you are truly wanting this then the only option is to talk to her. Nothing else is acceptable. In this lifestyle honesty trust safety and CONSENT are key. I can assure you that no one who truly loves this lifestyle will condone forsing or seducing your wife and your relationship will forever be different. Not in a good way either.
re: Husband here wanting my wife to try bbc
What I do read from your post is that you and your wife have established poor communications. Not only do you have no confidence in your communication with her, you desire to deceive her by having her subconsciously cheat on you by seduction. This is NOT the way to go about it, Wife Indy. Once seduced, she could easily fall into the routine of cheating on you on a regular basis ... this is not what you want, surely!
If she's never been with another man since being with you, asking her to make such a giant leap to satisfy your sexual fantasies is quite a request. Does she have any sexual fantasies that she's shared with you? If not, there's a starting point, which allows you to share your own sexual fantasies with her.
Maybe you can take a few minutes and tell the forum just what the two of you do for sex ... is it routine and boring? Do you play with sex toys or watch specific types of porn to get her horny? Have you ever "shared" her with ANY man?
Lots of "blank history" needs to be filled in if the forum is to really help you with sincere responses.
Mac
It really helps when a poster provides the forum some form of "history" and background so suggestions can establish a starting point. I haven't read this in any of your postings.
What I do read from your post is that you and your wife have established poor communications. Not only do you have no confidence in your communication with her, you desire to deceive her by having her subconsciously cheat on you by seduction. This is NOT the way to go about it, Wife Indy. Once seduced, she could easily fall into the routine of cheating on you on a regular basis ... this is not what you want, surely!
If she's never been with another man since being with you, asking her to make such a giant leap to satisfy your sexual fantasies is quite a request. Does she have any sexual fantasies that she's shared with you? If not, there's a starting point, which allows you to share your own sexual fantasies with her.
Maybe you can take a few minutes and tell the forum just what the two of you do for sex ... is it routine and boring? Do you play with sex toys or watch specific types of porn to get her horny? Have you ever "shared" her with ANY man?
Lots of "blank history" needs to be filled in if the forum is to really help you with sincere responses.
Mac
Doomed to fail You can't want this for your wife. You want this for you. If you truly trust your wife, tell her your thoughts, see where she stands.
Take her to some clubs and see how she reacts. Your wife is not going to be 'magically seduced' Just letting you know that now.
Take her to some clubs and see how she reacts. Your wife is not going to be 'magically seduced' Just letting you know that now.
theQuiksta
Male
As always you speaking the truth and calling out the pure lack of thinking of others..
theQuiksta
Male
No media?
Listed as a male?
You want her to do but don't want to ask her?
Wild idea of forsing your wife?
yeah, why you here?
theQuiksta
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YoitsMike
Male
I just assume it's some perverted white dude who watches too much porn. This is only acceptable if your girl shares the same ideas as you do. If not, it's almost like coercion
jamesriske
Male
by the way, I should also mention that if I had to talk my wife into it or manipulate her into fucking black guys I would not enjoy watching her. It would ruin the game if I thought she was only doing it for me.
Let me put it this way: I think fucking black guys is a common fantasy among white women, we just have to pave the way for them and show them that we enjoy watching and will not stop loving or respecting them if they do it.
My wife has reassured me many times that she enjoys it too and is not just doing it for me.
Let me put it this way: I think fucking black guys is a common fantasy among white women, we just have to pave the way for them and show them that we enjoy watching and will not stop loving or respecting them if they do it.
My wife has reassured me many times that she enjoys it too and is not just doing it for me.
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