From where I sit, I would not be in this lifestyle if it weren't for my husband. I would NEVER think of cheating on him regardless of how big a dick is. He cares about me like no other and we can communicate incredibly well. He wants me to experience pleasure with no jealousy or hidden agenda. It is swinging just with black men. The whole concept of breeding and humiliation is absurd to us. We have our family and can separate the sex part. When I make love to my husband, it is love and why the hell would I ever deny him or me of that. This possession bullshit is ridiculous and has no place in our household. We are hear for fun and when it is over, we go home together.