Got a tough one for you all

[LatinQoSCpl]

So I need some advice. I finally convinced my wife to try the hotwife thing out. It took like 3 yrs on AMD off discussion. We meet a guy online and did the kik thing for about 2 months before the meet up. Everything went well we video chat ect wife was very excited. Meet up at the hotel went great. The guy was actually a rival of my college and we both played ball so we had alot to talk about. Anyways this 2as going to be her first BBC so expectations where high. We go back to our room and the foreplay went well and about the first five minutes. After that the man couldn't perform at all. I ended up having just to ask him to leave. Anyways wife was supper upset which I figured would be normal. What should I do know? We are in the Chicago area and wanting to try again and type of advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

We’ve had some amazing times but we’ve also had some very similar experiences. This type of scenario is not for everyone and we understand that sometimes it’s not going to work out. Learn from it, reassure your wife that she is still sexy as ever and that it has nothing to do with her, that it’s more the dynamic of the situation.

 

[luvs2watchhishotwife]

What I do is if I’m going to watch my wife and a guy fuck, is I make sure he’s done it before as it can be nerve racking for them to be watched, especially the first time. A lot haven’t Done this with a husband watching them fuck the wife, so we meet for dinner/drinks before going back for action. During dinner at some point, I slip him a cialis.....never had a issue and the younger guys that have never tried it love it.

 

[MagicMikeATX]

It can happen.
I been doing this long enough I'm able to mentally block out everything but the sexy woman ?
A Hubby or a BF filmed for most of my videos

 

[skoocum]

My wife has been a hotwofe for.ober 4yrs now with a steady boyriend. Gotta find the right guy amd make sure he is.comfortable as well. Btw we are from.chicago as well. West burbs Plainfield

is your wife black only or does she fuck your friends, too?

 

[dumblonde]

So I need some advice. I finally convinced my wife to try the hotwife thing out. It took like 3 yrs on AMD off discussion. We meet a guy online and did the kik thing for about 2 months before the meet up. Everything went well we video chat ect wife was very excited. Meet up at the hotel went great. The guy was actually a rival of my college and we both played ball so we had alot to talk about. Anyways this 2as going to be her first BBC so expectations where high. We go back to our room and the foreplay went well and about the first five minutes. After that the man couldn't perform at all. I ended up having just to ask him to leave. Anyways wife was supper upset which I figured would be normal. What should I do know? We are in the Chicago area and wanting to try again and type of advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

what did yr wife say about it at the time or since?

 

[HammerHeadBBC]

um, dick sucking may work

 

[Curioushubby19]

So I need some advice. I finally convinced my wife to try the hotwife thing out. It took like 3 yrs on AMD off discussion. We meet a guy online and did the kik thing for about 2 months before the meet up. Everything went well we video chat ect wife was very excited. Meet up at the hotel went great. The guy was actually a rival of my college and we both played ball so we had alot to talk about. Anyways this 2as going to be her first BBC so expectations where high. We go back to our room and the foreplay went well and about the first five minutes. After that the man couldn't perform at all. I ended up having just to ask him to leave. Anyways wife was supper upset which I figured would be normal. What should I do know? We are in the Chicago area and wanting to try again and type of advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

Unfortunately not an uncommon problem, best to pick someone who has already fucked a wife in front of her husband and has vouches. The best guys are the ones who really get off on giving a wife a good fuck while the husband watches

 

[ShyGirl]

We've had it happen before. I always give them a second chance at a later date. It's a weird situation and even I'm nervous the first time we're meeting with a guy.

 

[slinky1]

On our online advert, which is on a couple of vanilla swingers sites, we always specify that the gent must enjoy/ understand the hotwife/ bull/ cuckold dynamic AND not only be able to perform in front of the cuck, actually that they love having the cuck present. Some men are just wired to get off on fucking a wife in front of the cuckold, so we try to find those first time around. We can usually tell by their first few responses to the advert. We have found that the experienced bulls know how take charge of the submissive cuck even in the initial messages.

 

[FW wife Benefit]

If it turns you one, you may let her play a bit alone. Some guys find really hot to have the husband watching them make their wives moan and come over and over riding their cocks, but most are turned off by the presence of some a sexually uninteresting witness. Also sometimes works if plays a bit on the dominant side and ties/cuffs you to a char, oor dominates you in some was while foreplaying. Can be a big turn on for all of you too.

 

[Ndaddy3]

So I need some advice. I finally convinced my wife to try the hotwife thing out. It took like 3 yrs on AMD off discussion. We meet a guy online and did the kik thing for about 2 months before the meet up. Everything went well we video chat ect wife was very excited. Meet up at the hotel went great. The guy was actually a rival of my college and we both played ball so we had alot to talk about. Anyways this 2as going to be her first BBC so expectations where high. We go back to our room and the foreplay went well and about the first five minutes. After that the man couldn't perform at all. I ended up having just to ask him to leave. Anyways wife was supper upset which I figured would be normal. What should I do know? We are in the Chicago area and wanting to try again and type of advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

Yeah the watching is a problem. I dont allow it the first few times. Intamacy between wife and bull is important. Physical chemistry 2. Its not at all about putting on a show for the cuck. There is no rule that says he ever gets to watch. Im def not there to impress him or make him happy. Making her happy is the reason im there. Could not care less about him. So just like any man and woman having sex for the first time it can be awkward. You need to learn each others bodies and learn to work together sexually. He can get lost.

 

[flsubboy4u]

So I need some advice. I finally convinced my wife to try the hotwife thing out. It took like 3 yrs on AMD off discussion. We meet a guy online and did the kik thing for about 2 months before the meet up. Everything went well we video chat ect wife was very excited. Meet up at the hotel went great. The guy was actually a rival of my college and we both played ball so we had alot to talk about. Anyways this 2as going to be her first BBC so expectations where high. We go back to our room and the foreplay went well and about the first five minutes. After that the man couldn't perform at all. I ended up having just to ask him to leave. Anyways wife was supper upset which I figured would be normal. What should I do know? We are in the Chicago area and wanting to try again and type of advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

Sometimes "high expectations" when expressed as such can cause performance anxiety for any male.

 

[OnTheTown2]

You can also arrange to have 2 or 3 guys...someone is bound to be hard at any given point and your wife can be blowing whoever is not.

 

[HardBlackCandy]

He was probably inexperienced playing with couples/hubby/bf present. Lot of inexperienced guys think there's nothing to it until they finally do it... Afraid of being seen by the hubby/bf...
Next time find someone with proven experience.

Exactly, and I'm not ashamed to say that this happened to me in the early days. It's just like a lot of guys think they can do porn, but then when you say lights, camera, action! All of a sudden it isn't so easy is it? Well yeah, it can be embarrassing, but I'm long over it. With the right kind of white chick who looks like what I lust for and who behaves like I want her to in the bedroom . . . I'll stay hard and "nut" in her all night long . . . hubby/boyfriend watching or not. Like has been said . . . experience counts!!! I think that sometimes the woman gets her feelings hurt (he didn't find me to be attractive), and even sometimes the husband/boyfriend can get a little offended (he doesn't think my wife is hot), but often times there's more to it than that. So just try again! There are too many black men available to fuck attached white women not to be able to have some success! Sometimes the husband or boyfriend has to step back out of the picture some too. At least at first, and particularly with somebody who is inexperienced. I remember one time I was with a couple and the husband was acting like he was shooting a professional porn shot. EFF that, and never again! Chill . . . RELAX . . . and let it flow!

 

[Juice3871]

Five minutes of foreplay? Really? Sounds like you guys were rushing him, then getting upset over nothing like an inexperienced couple would do! Chill out, you invited him to perform so why can't he relax? he was not ready yet. if he has the package she wants, You should invite him back if he's local. He is human, and this will happen with men many times in life from being over excited, age, lack of food or proper rest before fucking. All of the above play a role. I invited a young brother over once to be with my lady and we thought he was bigger but he was not the first time because he was too excited and could not reach full erection. The second time you came to visit he was excited and over 10". I think the three of you can help each other relax. It could have also been his first time with another person watching, again invite him back and allow things to flow. Also an excited husband can cause problems as well so just chill and watch if you can see he's real nervious.

 

[OhioBlackBull]

It's like everyone forgets what that first time is like for ALL parties involved. I've had couples end a first Time meeting for a myriad of reasons, just like I'm sure guys have not gotten hard for couples for a myriad of reasons. ******* happens. If everything was there connection wise, I say give it another shot with the guy, especially if there seemed to be some chemistry between you all, because that's just as hard to find as a big dick.
Unfortunately, those who identify as Bulls (good and bad) are just people and performance anxiety can hit anyone.