Getting GF interested in at least giving it a shot?

#4
I've been in the same boat, man. It really depends on the girl and how open she is to trying things with you. If you make her feel really comfortable, then you might have a shot. There are certain "steps" that people here have listed that might help you out. Ask around.
 
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#5
ive been there too, tell her you like the idea and watch that kinda porn together , if she sees how much it turns you on or how much you like it shell defntly give it a go ,. maybe not soon .. just be open and talk openly ... of what u like and why you like it ... goodluck..
and sorry for my bad english
 
#6
ive been there too, tell her you like the idea and watch that kinda porn together , if she sees how much it turns you on or how much you like it shell defntly give it a go ,. maybe not soon .. just be open and talk openly ... of what u like and why you like it ... goodluck..
and sorry for my bad english
That has crossed my mind before. Thanks a lot for the respons!
 
#7
The thing is that we have used some toys so she's not "super-conservative" or anything in bed. That's what's really messing with my head. If I knew she was very kinky or very closed to trying things it would make it much easier. But now it's somewhere in between. Then add that she surprised me when she wanted to have some toys in bed (nothing kinky really) because she didn't seem like that kind of girl before we got together. Or even a while into it for that matter.

Certain steps listed. Got a link maybe?
I don't have a link. Sorry bro. However, I know you're not into the cuck scene (neither am I) and that link is geared more towards that. However, one thing that you can do is start slowing watching different kinds of porn together. Especially what SHE wants to see. Watch a variety to get her comfortable. Then, slowly introduce IR porn. It can be black on whites, asian, or latinas. Gauge her reaction to it. Is she grossed out by it? Turned on? Or like whatever? That should give you an indication on how willing she might be in doing it with a black guy. Hope that helps.
 
#9
I don't have a link. Sorry bro. However, I know you're not into the cuck scene (neither am I) and that link is geared more towards that. However, one thing that you can do is start slowing watching different kinds of porn together. Especially what SHE wants to see. Watch a variety to get her comfortable. Then, slowly introduce IR porn. It can be black on whites, asian, or latinas. Gauge her reaction to it. Is she grossed out by it? Turned on? Or like whatever? That should give you an indication on how willing she might be in doing it with a black guy. Hope that helps.
Okay, no worries, thanks anyway!

That's a great idea. She has asked me before if I watch porn and I've said rarely. Maybe a good way to get started is to mention it and say that we might see new one or two together under pretense of "seeing what's out there".

Was pretty single-minded when I thought about using porn to get her interested because I only saw showing her IR-porn right away as an option for some reason.

I'll think about how I can set this up. Thanks!
 
#11
Okay, no worries, thanks anyway!

That's a great idea. She has asked me before if I watch porn and I've said rarely. Maybe a good way to get started is to mention it and say that we might see new one or two together under pretense of "seeing what's out there".

Was pretty single-minded when I thought about using porn to get her interested because I only saw showing her IR-porn right away as an option for some reason.

I'll think about how I can set this up. Thanks!
Sure, no problem. The temptation for us guys is to jump right into the hardcore IR stuff. Not all women respond to that very well. So, you have to go at it slowly. I should know. hehe Though, if your girl is totally cool at watching porn with you, that is a major step in the right direction. BTW, what kind does she like to watch?
 

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#12
I'm not big into porn, really, because I don't like how women are treated in a lot of it. But I did watch some of DFW Knight's stuff, and it was pretty easy for me to handle.
 
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Sure, no problem. The temptation for us guys is to jump right into the hardcore IR stuff. Not all women respond to that very well. So, you have to go at it slowly. I should know. hehe Though, if your girl is totally cool at watching porn with you, that is a major step in the right direction. BTW, what kind does she like to watch?
Would be 10 times easier if I could cut to the chase right away, yeah :) But that's not how it works with anything! Haha!

We've seen a kamasutra-video together which I liked because she's rather well-trained as an ex-gymnast. Also watched some soft-core porno that I found a bit boring to say the least. But she seemed to like it!
 
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I'm not big into porn, really, because I don't like how women are treated in a lot of it. But I did watch some of DFW Knight's stuff, and it was pretty easy for me to handle.
That has been one of my main concerns with porn, that she would think it was degrading. Now I know there's some quite extreme stuff out there, but it would be a real shame if she'd think all porn was degrading due to me not handling it well.
 
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Would be 10 times easier if I could cut to the chase right away, yeah :) But that's not how it works with anything! Haha!

We've seen a kamasutra-video together which I liked because she's rather well-trained as an ex-gymnast. Also watched some soft-core porno that I found a bit boring to say the least. But she seemed to like it!

Ex-gymnast huh? Nice. No wonder you want to see her stretched.;)

That Kama Sutra sounds great especially to set the mood. As for the softcore stuff, I don't go for that. Reminds me of the old days watching "porn" on Cinemax. lol Has she ever watch any time of hardcore porn? You should transition her into that.
 

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That has been one of my main concerns with porn, that she would think it was degrading. Now I know there's some quite extreme stuff out there, but it would be a real shame if she'd think all porn was degrading due to me not handling it well.
The stuff I saw was not extreme. I found nothing objectionable about how he treated his bedpartner.
 
#19
Ex-gymnast huh? Nice. No wonder you want to see her stretched.;)

That Kama Sutra sounds great especially to set the mood. As for the softcore stuff, I don't go for that. Reminds me of the old days watching "porn" on Cinemax. lol Has she ever watch any time of hardcore porn? You should transition her into that.
Haha :D She can do a thing or two, I can tell you that! Pretty sure she has some "secrets" up her sleeves too, haha :)

It's great to learn new positions etcetera. Yeah, soft core doesn't do much for me either. Could watch a random modern TV-series and get more out of it!

She probably has, but not together with me.
 
#20
I googled it and found his/their webpage, but it's not free. Not being cheap or anything, just maybe wanted to get a sneak-peak before I buy anything. You know any free clips out there?
There are LOTS of free IR clips out there man. Check out sites like xhamster.com, redtube.com, etc. Trust me, you just have to search. Those two I just listed have some pretty good free clips that you and her can watch together. All kinds of porn including IR.