First time shyness and other things...

[SluttySummer]

I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels some guilt about wanting to be with people besides their spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend, but I know it's something I want. My main concern besides not wanting to hurt my boyfriend is that I'm really shy. I can hardly talk around people I don't know even without it being a sexual situation and I'm afraid that'd really limit my opportunities with new people. Does anybody have some advice for a girl who's feeling apprehensive and a little bit guilty about her fantasies?

 

[NJWannaCuck]

Try to meet people from here so you can write eachother and become more comfortable. Its easier than a random person at a bar. As far as your bf, he will either love you even more for your choice of BBC or not be into it and say you are "cheating" even though this isn't considered cheating. Its natural to want the best

 

[SluttySummer]

That's my plan so far. I think I'll loosen up if I meet some people that are comfortable with the pace I want to take. I'm nowhere near ready to just dive into this lifestyle yet, but I know I want to work up to trying just about everything.

 

[strongstealth]

Be easy on yourself. If this is what you want, then give yourself permission.
It might be easier if you meet a girlfriend from here who can help you gain your confidence. In time, she might even help set up your first BBC encounter

 

[SluttySummer]

I think that'd be the best for me. I know I'd be more comfortable talking about it at length with a girl who's been through it. Especially one who isn't afraid to tell me the truth and encourage me!

 

[strongstealth]

I think that'd be the best for me. I know I'd be more comfortable talking about it at length with a girl who's been through it. Especially one who isn't afraid to tell me the truth and encourage me!

There are plenty of ladies here who see themselves as mentors. They would like nothing better than to help a BBC virgin get her confidence and eventually get a Black man inside her.

The main thing is: you are here. That is a bold step. Now take the next one.

Btw, you only think you are shy. You are talking to total strangers and doing fine now.
Just close your eyes and imagine how, soon, your pale body will have a dark skinned man on top of you making you feel like a new woman.

 

[NJWannaCuck]

Glad to see you have the right attitude going into this. No need to rush, and remember to have fun always. That's what this is all about after all. PLEASURE. I do think the otherperson is right if you get a friend who has experience. I'm sure you are going to have lots of luck

 

[SluttySummer]

There are plenty of ladies here who see themselves as mentors. They would like nothing better than to help a BBC virgin get her confidence and eventually get a Black man inside her.

The main thing is: you are here. That is a bold step. Now take the next one.

Btw, you only think you are shy. You are talking to total strangers and doing fine now.
Just close your eyes and imagine how, soon, your pale body will have a dark skinned man on top of you making you feel like a new woman.

I think the biggest step for me is going to be finding the right person. Do you know of anyone in particular who might be willing to help?

 

[NJWannaCuck]

I think the biggest step for me is going to be finding the right person. Do you know of anyone in particular who might be willing to help?

I'm always willing to help and have been into this for a year. I can talk about everything mild to wild. I don't know too many girls on this site though if that's what you prefer

 

[SluttySummer]

I'm always willing to help and have been into this for a year. I can talk about everything mild to wild. I don't know too many girls on this site though if that's what you prefer

I'm a little more comfortable with girls, tbh, but anyone who's willing to go at my pace and ease me into it is appreciated!

 

[SluttySummer]

Just show it to themView attachment 1252693

I wish I was that comfortable with myself!

 

[Theg00dfellaz]

Go into it without the expectations of it leading right to sex right away. I prefer building friendships first and being comfortable with the individual as an individual. Just relax and enjoy the ride we are all somewhat shy and apprehensive about new adventures because these adventures are new. As far sharing your fantasies with your current partner pillow talk and adult videos are always a good conversation starter. Especially when your vids you pick out have a common theme.

 

[SluttySummer]

If there's anybody who would want to talk to me about this in further detail, please send a private message! I've got lots of questions, some of which I'd like to keep private for a bit.

 

[Ikkedus]

My wife went thru this. Still does rly. In the beginning she needed to get tipsy to even remotely be ready lol. If you're interested in talking with her I could ask her... we sometimes both check this site. But never rly had much luck here so we're not on much here

 

[SluttySummer]

My wife went thru this. Still does rly. In the beginning she needed to get tipsy to even remotely be ready lol. If you're interested in talking with her I could ask her... we sometimes both check this site. But never rly had much luck here so we're not on much here

If she'd be interested, sure!

 

[Sunshine girl]

I've been here just over a year. I'm in a sexless marriage. It's not open, so I have several concerns. On this site there is a whole lot going on. I managed to meet a really great man, he lives quite a distance from me. After chatting and trading pics almost daily for a year, he was finally in my town on business. We connected and it was amazing.

I'm not shy. But I am careful. And I have to trust someone. I was able to get there through on line chatting with him. Some people here aren't in to that, everyone is different. But it worked for me and he was patient. Distance was an obstacle anyway. Will there be others? Time will tell. I'm not ruling it out but there is, for me, something to be said about a quality connection that satisfies me, for the most part.

Guilt? No. Life is too short to be celibate, so I can look myself in the mirror and sleep at night.

I am selective. I am discreet. And I am really happy now that I've allowed myself what makes me happy.

Message me if you think I can help.

 

[ATRUBLKGENT]

I've been here just over a year. I'm in a sexless marriage. It's not open, so I have several concerns. On this site there is a whole lot going on. I managed to meet a really great man, he lives quite a distance from me. After chatting and trading pics almost daily for a year, he was finally in my town on business. We connected and it was amazing.

I'm not shy. But I am careful. And I have to trust someone. I was able to get there through on line chatting with him. Some people here aren't in to that, everyone is different. But it worked for me and he was patient. Distance was an obstacle anyway. Will there be others? Time will tell. I'm not ruling it out but there is, for me, something to be said about a quality connection that satisfies me, for the most part.

Guilt? No. Life is too short to be celibate, so I can look myself in the mirror and sleep at night.

I am selective. I am discreet. And I am really happy now that I've allowed myself what makes me happy.

Message me if you think I can help.

You provided excellent advice. Finding sincere and real people is tough but once you do, it is an amazing and very rewarding experience.

BlkGent

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

(...) I'm in a sexless marriage. It's not open, so I have several concerns. (...)

There are some things one can do about a sexless marriage. The easiest would be to have sex with your partner.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

My wife went thru this. Still does rly. In the beginning she needed to get tipsy to even remotely be ready lol. If you're interested in talking with her I could ask her... we sometimes both check this site. But never rly had much luck here so we're not on much here

If she'd be interested, sure!

You have a 99% chance of talking to a man pretending to be a woman, just sayin`
*duckandaway*

 

[bigdickcuck]

Just show it to themView attachment 1252693

Way to hijack a thread.