Fantasy VS Reality, Positive VS Negative

[Blkdreams88]

Hello everyone. It's almost 3 AM and of course I'm in a hotel room out of town for work with my head thinking of random and usually sexual things. I rarely post anything here but I feel like this is a deep and good conversation. Let me start off by saying that IR porn changed the way I have viewed sex, the meaning of pleasure and has essentially showed ke that having a massive cock is the only way to give real pleasure to your partner. Is this true? Of course not. Watching IR porn, especially homemade stuff, has always been my favorite. The rather enlarged dark colored shaft spreading and invading a white pussy is a beautiful sight. The women have the most desireable reactions and it's just super hot to me. I used to think that lesbian porn was the best. Not after a lot of BBC stuff. I have always claimed to be a heterosexual man and enough of IR porn had me sucking 4 or 5 black guys off and letting one fuck my ass over the last 10 years. Now of course I fantasize about my wife taking anywhere between one and several BBCs while I help by sucking them with her and licking her clit and their balls while she takes them from the back. Even cleaning the cum afterwards sounds hot. My wife knows of these fantasies and has often used then to make my harder or to get me off once I have given her what she needs. She only seems to mention BBC when she is trying to get me off. I have used it on her and it sometimes makes her orgasms seem more intense but she never really initiates it. We did come close to having her hook up with a former coworker whobwas a large black man. He was messaging her and giving her lots of positive attention with compliments and even sent nudes and a video of him jacking off and cumming. She masturbated while watching that. I was so excited yet also terrified. We have two daughters. I can arrange for my parents to take the girls for a night and we could always make it happen. We all flaked out last time and I don't know if it's a good idea to try it or not. I fucked my wife with a marine back when I was enlisted. Another white guy like me who was a little larger. We all enjoyed ourselves but I did feel some jealousy after. I guess I laid the backdrop for this story to fill any possible voids of information should questions arise. I want to hear opinions and real life advice if possible on how a couple or person knows if their marriage can handle a third wheel or more occasionally. How can a man be so certain that he won't be completely cut off for sex or that his wife won't love him anymore? I love and cherish my wife. Half of this fetish for me is that I want to please her to my fullest capability even if it means adding a BBC to the mix. I believe black men have the most sexual prowess and usually larger than average cocks. So of course I want her to feel as satisfied as possible. Do I press onward with the fantasy? Do I drop it and wait to see if she brings it up? I don't have reason to believe that she would ever leave me but is it worth risking jealousy and regret? Sorry for rambling but it's 3:26 am now .

 

[newbecpl22]

I think you probably need to talk more to her and see how receptive she is to the idea. It seems like she is if you guys came close to it already. What do they call it? Post nut clarity. I think you also have to talk about it in and out of the bedroom and while you are not aroused too, for both of you. We listen to a lot of podcasts on the subject. I think initially my wife thought I wanted other women, but soon began to understand I wanted something different and she began to join in and become receptive to the idea. How do you know you won’t end up cut off or she won’t love you anymore? Communicate and talk it out. Make sure you’re both comfortable. The reality is she probably has the same fears and may not express them to you about it all. Will he see me differently? As for knowing if you’ll have jealousy or regret. It’s hard to say and in truth I’m there with you. I understand it’s almost inevitable that you’ll have some jealousy, as I understand again it’s also why the reclaim sex and aftercare is so important after the bull is gone. Best wishes, you do not walk this path alone.

 

[Blkdreams88]

I think you probably need to talk more to her and see how receptive she is to the idea. It seems like she is if you guys came close to it already. What do they call it? Post nut clarity. I think you also have to talk about it in and out of the bedroom and while you are not aroused too, for both of you. We listen to a lot of podcasts on the subject. I think initially my wife thought I wanted other women, but soon began to understand I wanted something different and she began to join in and become receptive to the idea. How do you know you won’t end up cut off or she won’t love you anymore? Communicate and talk it out. Make sure you’re both comfortable. The reality is she probably has the same fears and may not express them to you about it all. Will he see me differently? As for knowing if you’ll have jealousy or regret. It’s hard to say and in truth I’m there with you. I understand it’s almost inevitable that you’ll have some jealousy, as I understand again it’s also why the reclaim sex and aftercare is so important after the bull is gone. Best wishes, you do not walk this path alone.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I agree that we need to talk more. In some cases it's scary to talk to her about it but I can do it. Doing it while not aroused is the hardest especially since that arouses me greatly. I will discuss it with her one night and see where the conversation leads. I feel like I express my sexual side more easily but I hope I can get her to talk it out. We did do a threesome with a white guy once and it was fun. Just looking to have another fun filled time to please her and break up the usual routine.

 

[newbecpl22]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I agree that we need to talk more. In some cases it's scary to talk to her about it but I can do it. Doing it while not aroused is the hardest especially since that arouses me greatly. I will discuss it with her one night and see where the conversation leads. I feel like I express my sexual side more easily but I hope I can get her to talk it out. We did do a threesome with a white guy once and it was fun. Just looking to have another fun filled time to please her and break up the usual routine.

I agree, it was a huge leap of faith to talk to her about it. Wow and my wife completely misunderstood what I wanted initially, so that was something to be overcome too. I know what you mean about getting aroused over the idea and I’m with you. I am the same way. I guess what I meant is try to have the conversation maybe not in the bedroom setting where you guys can maybe talk without that being such a driving factor. Try to maybe take the fantasy out of it if that makes sense. Honestly if you two can get to the level of communication where you can talk like that, open, honest and sometimes raw, it will be a big change in your relationship for the good even if you never make this a reality. My wife and I are communicating much better lately and it’s been a big benefit and change for the better for us

 

[Cucurios101]

I agree, it was a huge leap of faith to talk to her about it. Wow and my wife completely misunderstood what I wanted initially, so that was something to be overcome too. I know what you mean about getting aroused over the idea and I’m with you. I am the same way. I guess what I meant is try to have the conversation maybe not in the bedroom setting where you guys can maybe talk without that being such a driving factor. Try to maybe take the fantasy out of it if that makes sense. Honestly if you two can get to the level of communication where you can talk like that, open, honest and sometimes raw, it will be a big change in your relationship for the good even if you never make this a reality. My wife and I are communicating much better lately and it’s been a big benefit and change for the better for us

i shared my hotwife fantasy with her already!

 

[harrybogel]

Hello everyone. It's almost 3 AM and of course I'm in a hotel room out of town for work with my head thinking of random and usually sexual things. I rarely post anything here but I feel like this is a deep and good conversation. Let me start off by saying that IR porn changed the way I have viewed sex, the meaning of pleasure and has essentially showed ke that having a massive cock is the only way to give real pleasure to your partner. Is this true? Of course not. Watching IR porn, especially homemade stuff, has always been my favorite. The rather enlarged dark colored shaft spreading and invading a white pussy is a beautiful sight. The women have the most desireable reactions and it's just super hot to me. I used to think that lesbian porn was the best. Not after a lot of BBC stuff. I have always claimed to be a heterosexual man and enough of IR porn had me sucking 4 or 5 black guys off and letting one fuck my ass over the last 10 years. Now of course I fantasize about my wife taking anywhere between one and several BBCs while I help by sucking them with her and licking her clit and their balls while she takes them from the back. Even cleaning the cum afterwards sounds hot. My wife knows of these fantasies and has often used then to make my harder or to get me off once I have given her what she needs. She only seems to mention BBC when she is trying to get me off. I have used it on her and it sometimes makes her orgasms seem more intense but she never really initiates it. We did come close to having her hook up with a former coworker whobwas a large black man. He was messaging her and giving her lots of positive attention with compliments and even sent nudes and a video of him jacking off and cumming. She masturbated while watching that. I was so excited yet also terrified. We have two daughters. I can arrange for my parents to take the girls for a night and we could always make it happen. We all flaked out last time and I don't know if it's a good idea to try it or not. I fucked my wife with a marine back when I was enlisted. Another white guy like me who was a little larger. We all enjoyed ourselves but I did feel some jealousy after. I guess I laid the backdrop for this story to fill any possible voids of information should questions arise. I want to hear opinions and real life advice if possible on how a couple or person knows if their marriage can handle a third wheel or more occasionally. How can a man be so certain that he won't be completely cut off for sex or that his wife won't love him anymore? I love and cherish my wife. Half of this fetish for me is that I want to please her to my fullest capability even if it means adding a BBC to the mix. I believe black men have the most sexual prowess and usually larger than average cocks. So of course I want her to feel as satisfied as possible. Do I press onward with the fantasy? Do I drop it and wait to see if she brings it up? I don't have reason to believe that she would ever leave me but is it worth risking jealousy and regret? Sorry for rambling but it's 3:26 am now .

Have you ever considered that it the PORN and the addiction to it ( probably all of us) that is driving this behavior? I personally cannot have an orgasm at all without porn fantasy. Without porn fantasy I would not be able cum with my wife.