Encouraging my bf?
- Thread starter MissJenna
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No, you are the one that is not understanding it all. There is nothing wrong with being a cuckold or living the lifestyle, as long as BOTH agree that that is the way they want to live. When cheating she had NO idea he wanted to be a cuckold. It could well be that he did not want het fucking other guys, or maybe he was not ready yet. That could have really hurt his feelings.
You are debating if it was already knows he was a cuckold, but that was not the case. If he was then she did not needed to cheat.
Please get the time line and information at that period of time right. Do not relate things with all the info you have now.
This is getting boring now Marco. Im sensing you've perhaps been cheated on and struggled to get over it.
He wasnt a cuckold. She cheated because she was not sexually fulfilled and She made him a cuckold. This is the best way to become a cuckold. The lady making her decision to take another lover was necessary. Because she wasn't getting what she needed. You may not like that but its not for you to decide how he or myself or other cuckold males feel about her. Twenty or more years ago i may have been still stressing over all the times i was cheated on. Now, thankfully older and wiser, i understand and feel no hard feelings toward any of my exes.
ChristyandJake
Couple
If in Christy had waited for "Both to agree..Never got into lifestyle at all.
No..it was cheating and accepting process for me..one I'm still adjusting to..
You make me laugh. In a way I was cheated on, yes. Struggling to get over it, no way, far from that. She thought I wanted to be a cuckold, so she fucked another guy. Next she knows she is is on the street. She shouted and cried to get us back together, but I refused. So struggling, no. That was years ago by the way.
Like you said, she was not happy sexually, that is no problem, still she could have talked about it. With not doing that she showed she had not that much confidence in her relation.
Yes it is getting boring, because you just cannot see that, because you think with a cuck-mind, and for cucks this is the ideal way, but as you also mentioned, at that point she did not know he wanted to be a cuck.
You only reflect it on your situation, you just cannot see the possibility that maybe he did not want her to fuck other guys.
Good for you. She got lucky that you accepted it. Well sort off accepted it because you are still adjusting. Will she also accept you fucking other woman? I know, you Do not want to do that, but what if you wanted to? Then the question why didn't she talked about it? Was she afraid that you would leave her? Was she not confident enough with your relationship?
But he did. And her reason is justifiable because sex was not fulfilling. A lady should not have to ask her man to try harder. And if he has a small penis she and he both know theres nothing he can do. The result was inevitable
And therefor she could have said " Baby, we need to talk". It is that simple. Then she could explain that he is not fulfilling her, that she needs bigger cock. She could explain that she in no way want to leave him, but just want to have sex with other man, just for the sex. That way he can decide if he can live with that. It is that simple.
Beautyandheat
Couple
FFS. I am kind of appalled at how much judginess there is on this thread. Not to mention the discussion of “morals” which is hillarious in the context of a thread on this site. (I usually find those loudest about morals are the ones most in need of a long look at their own, or their lack thereof)
Society is filled with people who would judge every last one of us because they think everyone should be exactly like them or their image of “how things should be” in their narrow minded view
I’ve been married twice and I can safely say no two relationships are ever alike and if you aren’t in the relationship yourself you just don’t know (and if you are, often you don’t). Everyone has different needs and desires and let’s stop pretending we know what’s best for others.
I hope Jenna and her boyfriend find something that works for them and they have many happy years! Let’s leave it at that.
Society is filled with people who would judge every last one of us because they think everyone should be exactly like them or their image of “how things should be” in their narrow minded view
I’ve been married twice and I can safely say no two relationships are ever alike and if you aren’t in the relationship yourself you just don’t know (and if you are, often you don’t). Everyone has different needs and desires and let’s stop pretending we know what’s best for others.
I hope Jenna and her boyfriend find something that works for them and they have many happy years! Let’s leave it at that.
Wow, you managed not only to miss one point but a few in a row. First of all I would like you to explain what you mean by "a site like this". In the context the of the discussion, which was cheating, you would suggest that this site is for cheaters. Well, I think, and I think a lot with me, do not think this site was set up for cheaters.
I like to think this site was set up for people who like interracial sex and this part for people who like the cuckold lifestyle.
Cuckold lifestyle is something completely different than cheating. So it is totally hillarius how you missed that one.
Then you call it narrow minded because I like to think that people should respect each other. Let us change the context a little, but hope the same thoughts. You suggest it is okay for her to get what she wants without consideration of her boyfriends feelings. If that is the case then you would have no objection when I rob you of your money, you would be narrow minded to think that it should be forbidden, it is okay to take or do what I want.
Then the part where you suggest you do not know what the other person wants. Let me tell you that that is called communication.
A lot of husbands tell their wife's they want to be cucks. What follows is a lot of communication between the husband and the wife, a lot of explaining, questions asked, boundaries set. So basically you are telling you were not communicating and not confident enough in your relation to tell your wife your fantasy.
Rcp
Male
Then just do him a favor and break it off with him if you are going to disrespect him like that.
Beautyandheat
Couple
Well, here is the point you are missing while you were busily inventing things I didn’t say
This site is about doing things that would be absolutely beyond the pale for other (judgmental people) but that works for those involved
So, yeah, you’re at a site that would be judged harshly by others for not conforming to their expectations, judging other for not conforming to yours
Put another way: You find cheating terrible and the worst thing ever. Others don’t. I don’t think I’d be that worked up about it if it were just sex. Maybe Jenna’s guy just doesn’t care that much. Be as judgmental as you want about his attitude but I’d say that’s fairly hypocritical.
I think his point was it’s a shitty thing to do to a person regardless on how they feel about it. If we take his example of him robbing you and if you didn’t care that much would it stop being a shitty thing to do? It just boils down to it being a betrayal of trust. Take your cuckold glasses off and look at it from that stand point. Picture someone you care about deeply, doesn’t even have to be someone you are intimate with it could even be a close friend or family member. Someone that you trust with your life. Now picture them betraying you. Wouldn’t that hurt?
First of all, you Do not know my situation. For.er bull, married with *******. Wife encouraged me to become a bull. So do I have a 'normal life? Nope, I fit right in here.
So there goes your statement about judging and conforming.
Did she know upfront that he would not.male a problem.of it? No, she did not. So she risked hurting his feeling, or losing the relationship she had. But that is all to difficult for you to understand I guess.
BBCAddictCpl
Male
I can't believe i'm jumping in here, yet here I go:
I think the point Beautyandheat and others are trying to get you to see is this: did you tell your parents you were a bull? did you tell your friends? coworkers? because that's what they are referring to by being judged by "the outside". if you didn't, well then that's all beautyandheat was referring to by a "site like this"; a site you don't tell anyone outside of your relationship you're on (AFF, fetlife, etc ). surely you can see the irony in telling someone that they misbehaved sexually on a site that, for most people, would be seen as misbehaving in it's very nature (the idea that you would purposefully have sex outside your marriage).
if you did share the fact that you were a bull and on a message board for this fetish, what would you have done if one of them had said that because they didn't think it was right, you shouldn't do it? if you would have stopped at a strangers request, good for you; but not everyone would. if you would have told some stranger to fuck off and you'll do as you please, well now you're honing in on the opposite viewpoint of yours.
It sounds like you want to put cheating up on a pedestal and claim it as a fundamental sin that somehow supersedes the nature of a discussion on a fetish website. That is a premise that does not have to be granted by anyone else. All the other side is saying is that they don't agree with your premise and for them the cheating can be fetishized just like everything else.
Of course, that's just my opinion; I could be wrong.
