So, I started a thread last week called "A Stag Contributing Back To The Forum,” where I received some wonderful feedback that I was really grateful for.
There has been a giant awakening between my wife and I during this past week and she wants to post her own version of what we are beginning simultaneous to my posts. So she suggested we both start a new thread (hers is in the HotWife Forum) with a similar title so people might enjoy the “he said/she said” version of whatever it is that awaits both of us and what's about to happen.
So here we go!
It seems that I stumbled upon something neither one of us was completely aware of. Before I got married two years ago, I had been an enthusiastic member of this site for at least a decade prior. I was embarrassed about this and never shared it with anybody else. Having read hundreds of posts in different threads on the site gave me a pretty good understanding of the dynamics of this lifestyle. The parameters, the dynamics, the turn on, the excitement, the jealousy, and the experience for both the husband and the wife, as well as the lovers/Bulls. I not only understood it all, but I felt it deeply as well.
I incorrectly assumed that my wife understood all of this as well during the past year or so that she has been joining me as a participant in this site. I was wrong. She did not understand fully some of the important elementals. She was mostly doing this as a service to me because she knew it excited me and she gets off on my excitement and joy.
I borrowed some of the content of other’s posts to incorporate into my dirty talk. In all fairness, I told her some of what I was describing was what I read from others. For the first time she became aware of the inverse power differential that is part of this kink. I did my best to narrate the excitement of a woman who discovers her own lust and deep desires that become unleashed by participating in this lifestyle. I described the selfishness and empowerment a HotWife enjoys by being able to pick who she has sex with, when she has sex, how she has sex, how often she has sex, and with how many people she has sex with. I described the delicious mixture of fear/jealous/excitement that the cuckolds/stags experience. I described a common theme when the moment comes when the wife is no longer doing this for her husband, but is doing it for herself.
Holy cow, that just became a major epoch for her. Since we were having sex while I was in the flow with my dirty talk about all of this, I had the indescribable thrill of being inside of her as her body organically reacted to this new paradigm. What a place to be. What a thing to feel. It was mind blowing for both of us. I literally got to see, feel, smell, and taste her awakening. This might have been more mind blowing than anything I have ever read on here in the hundreds of posts that I enjoyed. Something fundamentally shifted and awoken in her. It was exciting, joyous, unbelievably stimulating, and tangibly frightening all at the same time for me.
She ended up pointing out something to me I honestly did not fully put together on my own even though I thought I fully understood this lifestyle. We both participate on occasion in the kink community where I am the Dom and she is the submissive. I honestly did not know I had that in me at first only did it because this excited her. However, it awakened something in me I honestly didn't know was a part of my human sexuality. It was actually very healing for me.
She pointed out that this was the same phenomenon of power exchange. Except in this lifestyle, the female enjoys all the benefit of exercising the power, and the male surrenders to it, and experiences some of the dynamics of powerlessness. Even though I consider myself to be more of a stag than a cuck, it's a gaseous delineation that is far from clean. I see now that there is obviously a part of me that gets to experience being on the other side of this power differential. Again, it was highly stimulating and tangibly anxious.
After one of the hottest sex scenes we've ever shared, she explained to me that she has never been on this side of the equation as a woman. Part of this is because she comes from a very fundamentalist religious family. Part of it is because she is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Part of it was because her ******* was a narcissist and she was taught to be a perfectionist that serves others. And part of it is from 10,000 years of civilization.
She explained to me that this new understanding of what a HotWife is would be an entirely different experience and expression of her sexuality that she's never had. Wow, I love the idea of this. She then celebrated me for being a rare man that would be so willing to give her this power in freedom. Wow, I like that too! I realize it sounds grandiose, but I do consider myself to be a feminist, or at least as much of a feminist as a man can be. A year and a half ago I gave her a book called The Ethical Slut. I didn't know if she be interested in it. But she highlighted every page, and it changed her life.
I remember reading different erotic postings on here of where a woman does this mostly just to please her man, but then discovers herself in the process. I am literally witnessing this now. It brings up a myriad of conflicting thoughts and feelings in me. This is some seriously high octane stuff.
We have had three experiences with three different men during the last year and a half. They were all a pretty good experience. However, this was a few events over extended period of time and not a regular occurrence. I believe that is about to change in a major way. This ******* is literally setting sail on what appears to be a long term around the world full time voyage.
Earlier today she posted on her own a shout out for local BBC's in the SoCal area. I'm not sure how to describe my feelings about this. It's everything I read about on here on the forum but for real. I'm proud of her. I'm excited for her. I'm excited and stimulated. I'm uncomfortable and anxious. I'm having trouble sleeping. This lifestyle ******* seems to be a mixture of both an opiate and a stimulant at the same time. I'm so dissociative, and feeling a sense of pleasure, while I'm over anxious with an energy that is not within my control, but it's directly related to her control. I am definitely not the dominant in this dynamic.
I have to admit that I want this. I have to admit that I'm scared of this. I have to admit that I'm happy about this. I'm happy to admit that I am not the creator of what comes next. The only thing I can say is I'm grateful to have a place I can share some of this experience with others that understand and even appreciate it all.
My ability to make adjustments to my own work schedule now allows me to block out availability for my wife's decision to have dates every Wednesday night with a BBC. What the hell is this? I guess I'm about to find out.
I'm gonna post a few of the pictures we took from last week's escapade. I apologize if any of this was long-winded, but I don't know anyone in person I can safely talk about all this with other than the folks here on this forum. Thanks again for all the feedback, wisdom, and support from the earlier part of this thread.
There has been a giant awakening between my wife and I during this past week and she wants to post her own version of what we are beginning simultaneous to my posts. So she suggested we both start a new thread (hers is in the HotWife Forum) with a similar title so people might enjoy the “he said/she said” version of whatever it is that awaits both of us and what's about to happen.
So here we go!
It seems that I stumbled upon something neither one of us was completely aware of. Before I got married two years ago, I had been an enthusiastic member of this site for at least a decade prior. I was embarrassed about this and never shared it with anybody else. Having read hundreds of posts in different threads on the site gave me a pretty good understanding of the dynamics of this lifestyle. The parameters, the dynamics, the turn on, the excitement, the jealousy, and the experience for both the husband and the wife, as well as the lovers/Bulls. I not only understood it all, but I felt it deeply as well.
I incorrectly assumed that my wife understood all of this as well during the past year or so that she has been joining me as a participant in this site. I was wrong. She did not understand fully some of the important elementals. She was mostly doing this as a service to me because she knew it excited me and she gets off on my excitement and joy.
I borrowed some of the content of other’s posts to incorporate into my dirty talk. In all fairness, I told her some of what I was describing was what I read from others. For the first time she became aware of the inverse power differential that is part of this kink. I did my best to narrate the excitement of a woman who discovers her own lust and deep desires that become unleashed by participating in this lifestyle. I described the selfishness and empowerment a HotWife enjoys by being able to pick who she has sex with, when she has sex, how she has sex, how often she has sex, and with how many people she has sex with. I described the delicious mixture of fear/jealous/excitement that the cuckolds/stags experience. I described a common theme when the moment comes when the wife is no longer doing this for her husband, but is doing it for herself.
Holy cow, that just became a major epoch for her. Since we were having sex while I was in the flow with my dirty talk about all of this, I had the indescribable thrill of being inside of her as her body organically reacted to this new paradigm. What a place to be. What a thing to feel. It was mind blowing for both of us. I literally got to see, feel, smell, and taste her awakening. This might have been more mind blowing than anything I have ever read on here in the hundreds of posts that I enjoyed. Something fundamentally shifted and awoken in her. It was exciting, joyous, unbelievably stimulating, and tangibly frightening all at the same time for me.
She ended up pointing out something to me I honestly did not fully put together on my own even though I thought I fully understood this lifestyle. We both participate on occasion in the kink community where I am the Dom and she is the submissive. I honestly did not know I had that in me at first only did it because this excited her. However, it awakened something in me I honestly didn't know was a part of my human sexuality. It was actually very healing for me.
She pointed out that this was the same phenomenon of power exchange. Except in this lifestyle, the female enjoys all the benefit of exercising the power, and the male surrenders to it, and experiences some of the dynamics of powerlessness. Even though I consider myself to be more of a stag than a cuck, it's a gaseous delineation that is far from clean. I see now that there is obviously a part of me that gets to experience being on the other side of this power differential. Again, it was highly stimulating and tangibly anxious.
After one of the hottest sex scenes we've ever shared, she explained to me that she has never been on this side of the equation as a woman. Part of this is because she comes from a very fundamentalist religious family. Part of it is because she is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Part of it was because her ******* was a narcissist and she was taught to be a perfectionist that serves others. And part of it is from 10,000 years of civilization.
She explained to me that this new understanding of what a HotWife is would be an entirely different experience and expression of her sexuality that she's never had. Wow, I love the idea of this. She then celebrated me for being a rare man that would be so willing to give her this power in freedom. Wow, I like that too! I realize it sounds grandiose, but I do consider myself to be a feminist, or at least as much of a feminist as a man can be. A year and a half ago I gave her a book called The Ethical Slut. I didn't know if she be interested in it. But she highlighted every page, and it changed her life.
I remember reading different erotic postings on here of where a woman does this mostly just to please her man, but then discovers herself in the process. I am literally witnessing this now. It brings up a myriad of conflicting thoughts and feelings in me. This is some seriously high octane stuff.
We have had three experiences with three different men during the last year and a half. They were all a pretty good experience. However, this was a few events over extended period of time and not a regular occurrence. I believe that is about to change in a major way. This ******* is literally setting sail on what appears to be a long term around the world full time voyage.
Earlier today she posted on her own a shout out for local BBC's in the SoCal area. I'm not sure how to describe my feelings about this. It's everything I read about on here on the forum but for real. I'm proud of her. I'm excited for her. I'm excited and stimulated. I'm uncomfortable and anxious. I'm having trouble sleeping. This lifestyle ******* seems to be a mixture of both an opiate and a stimulant at the same time. I'm so dissociative, and feeling a sense of pleasure, while I'm over anxious with an energy that is not within my control, but it's directly related to her control. I am definitely not the dominant in this dynamic.
I have to admit that I want this. I have to admit that I'm scared of this. I have to admit that I'm happy about this. I'm happy to admit that I am not the creator of what comes next. The only thing I can say is I'm grateful to have a place I can share some of this experience with others that understand and even appreciate it all.
My ability to make adjustments to my own work schedule now allows me to block out availability for my wife's decision to have dates every Wednesday night with a BBC. What the hell is this? I guess I'm about to find out.
I'm gonna post a few of the pictures we took from last week's escapade. I apologize if any of this was long-winded, but I don't know anyone in person I can safely talk about all this with other than the folks here on this forum. Thanks again for all the feedback, wisdom, and support from the earlier part of this thread.
