Dealing with feelings/coming to terms with lifestyle ?

Mdelgr

Couple
Everyone seems to speak about the fantasy and the certainly fun side of cuckolding.

One aspect I don’t see discussed often is how to deal with mixed feelings and insecurities wives/husbands may experience when wife black. I’m talking about the real feelings, in the real world not when horny :)

Wives and cucks,
  • How did you deal with the initial feelings of being replaced by another guy?
  • How did you come to terms with the fact that you’re no longer “the one” and that other man/men rock her sexual world more than you ever will?
This can be a mentally difficult adjustment for couples, but if done correctly can also be immensely rewarding.

Perhaps let’s use this thread to guide those newer cuckold couples and those struggling with the psychological aspect of it.
 
At first it can it be tough. Its a kink that I chased and she was down for. When the deed was done I felt lonely for a second and a lot of shame and very inadequate. but realized I still had my special woman. Sex is just sex. And I loved watching her get fucked by black men. We both got something out of it, and it was such a minor part of our relationship. If you don’t think you can handle the after don’t do it. You both need to be on the same page when it comes to this lifestyle.
 
At more or less every step of the way I've had doubts and negative thoughts but the best advice I can give is to go back to what drove you to get involved.
If your wife keeps going back then something is going right for her.

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At more or less every step of the way I've had doubts and negative thoughts but the best advice I can give is to go back to what drove you to get involved.
If your wife keeps going back then something is going right for her.

What else
 
Doubts are normal. It’s all about trust. Takes a lot of love and a lot of trust to run the cuckold road.

Trust has to be there - most importantly trust your wife/girlfriend

She knows what she wants and now I understand what it is I try my best to create the environment

Had to moderate my thoughts a bit but wow it's been great.
 
@Mdelgr
I think this is by far the best and most meaningful thread started. I’ve already run into this to include in a massive way yesterday. It’s classify it as the best as we are new to this. As of this moment I’ve only been present once while my wife was being treated to a BBC. The other times over the past month plus she’s been on her own with two men total.

Two days ago I had the inevitable random call that I was to fly out for work on short notice. Unfortunately that’s the bad end of being a very successful industrial insurance adjuster. Things have changed though. Before it was my wife pleasuring herself to porn and now it’s a morning text inquiring if she can meet her stud. They’ve done it before so I said yes and as usual just asked her to occasionally text and to take some videos and pictures.

Within a couple hours and while on the job I got a text and a couple pictures from her like before. At that point I was happy and it was status quo. The pictures were from his angle while standing up as she was topless. I had zero insecurity at that point. Contrary to what a few say in here I’m not a closet homosexual. I just happen to like seeing the contrast in color between my wife and his, and this is no exaggeration, probably 11 inches of dick that has veins that look like a steroided body builders arms. The next picture is where I started to feel that uncomfortable feeling as it was basically the same picture but with her having a gold condom wrapper at the end of her lips with his dick seemingly about to bust out of the condom she put on him. She texted “red rain poncho lol” underneath as she is full fledge on day two of her period. It bothered me because admittedly for years I have stayed away from having sexual while on her period. At first it was what it was but I’ve become selective.

It bothered me because he was willing to satisfy her when in the recent past I was unwilling, not unable but unwilling. Two or three hours went by and I got a call saying all was good and that she was leaving soon. She sent me a selfie of her with cum on her face and chest and thought all was status quo. She then sent me a text after saying something to the effect of I’d let you do this if you showed me some love when it was that time every month. It bothered me.

A few hours later I checked in with her and she again said she was about to leave and they just had one more go and talked a little bit. Another few hours went by and I had no movement on my security cameras and no notification from my alarm. I called her and she said she’d left hours ago and was running errands. Unfortunately a quick check of family locate on the iPhone and sure enough she was still there.

At about 8 last night she got home and I confronted her on it. We ended up speaking for about two hours. The gist of it from her end was he made her feel like she wasn’t gross for those handful of days where I tend to stay away from sex. She explained, as she had before but completely different circumstances, that during that time she need someone to go out of their way. See prior to my wife having ******* she was 5’2 and about 120. Now she’s about 160 but has it all pretty perfectly distributed but she doesn’t feel that way. She threw in my face that he came four times which was more than I had come with her on her period in the last four years. She said she was so enthused with the attention that she talked him into fucking her without a condom the last two times. She said that after the third time they literally just laid there and made out for an hour until he could get hard again.

I couldn’t help but apologize to her for the void I had left over something so simple. She herself said she has no interest in going back over today (I don’t fly in till 11pm) because she doesn’t want to lead him in as she thinks he was getting a little ahead of himself. I guess what I’ve learned is it’s the needs you can control that end up stinging the worst.
 
Even after almost eleven years in this lifestyle, I still struggle with the emotional/mental issues of it all......me being a cuckold husband and a sissy slave for Her Black lovers was all my Wife/Mistress's idea.......I resisted for a long time, but She is a very persuasive Woman........She now enjoys seeing my daily humiliation and knows all about the internal struggles I go through, which seem to entertain Her even more....
 
it was something that happened over a long period and the first phase was her slowly dominating me. The first time was not so difficult because she picked a guy up at a hotel bar while i watched. The next time was different because it was at a local club and she danced with the guy and sat on his lap. eventually it progressed to me being involved to the point of licking her while they fucked. I have never felt inferior or replaced but it was odd watching her in the club and mixed emotions. Becoming a cum eating cocksucking cuck was not easy but it progressed in steps and once i became used to it I accepted and enjoyed. One thing people do not mention is that your wife will often smell like other men and cum after her dates and that other people will know because people talk. As the husband you lose any semblance of control and in fact become submissive to your wife in most cases
 
One thing people do not mention is that your wife will often smell like other men and cum after her dates and that other people will know because people talk. As the husband you lose any semblance of control and in fact become submissive to your wife in most cases
Even after I showered or when he asked me not to, husband would enjoy his sloppy seconds while telling me the aftershaves and perfumes of the black men who fucked me before and how many they were. He even said my natural smell had changed.
 
It took me years to accept that the interracial hotwife fetish is what I really enjoy. My wife and I still have amazing sex one on one but the kinky side of me love her being a hotwife. I was a bit embarrassed and ashamed but now I love it and honestly wish we did it more.
 
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