Every couple is different. We don’t have the luxury of meeting the guys before on a separate weekend. To be honest, if I was a single guy I wouldn’t want that either—-there is a lot of married pussy out there. We do our research (validations on lifestyle sites, etc.) and we lay the rules out very explicitly.…right down to the “if you don’t look like the pictures you sent then we will tell you “it isn’t a good connection”…BUT we also tell them that rule applies to us too. If the guys look at her and aren’t physically attracted tell us that it “isn’t a good connection.”
We reserve a room and then meet the guys at the bar. We have a code/signal if it is a NO…and that has ONLY happened twice. One guy Showed up 30 minutes late and caught us as we were going up to the room with another guy. One guy said a very offensive word….and I know he didn’t mean it maliciously…but she did the ”No” code.
So far meeting the day of play—say 30 minutes before—has worked for us. This may change for wives who play without their husbands there, but that isn’t us.
