Sorry, I missed this response because of the strange one a couple posts below it. Anyway:
Why are we comparing what people do to get their rocks off, behind closed doors with consenting adults, to violently assaulting people? I agree that you can be curious about doing something until you act on your curiosities, and then you become someone who's done that thing, not sometime who's curious about it.
BUT... Sexuality involves attraction. Not ever having been with another man doesn't necessarily mean you're not attracted to them or want to be with them sometimes. You can be gay or bi and never act on your impulses. You can be straight and remain celibate. You can even be a ******* and never become a sex offender, because you realize that it would be immoral, cause damage, or at least likely land you in prison if you were ever to act on the attraction you feel. That doesn't mean the attraction isn't there.
But again, I don't see why we're making the distinction. I'll ask once again, what difference does it make to YOU how some other guy chooses to identify sexually? As long as he's not doing anything harmful to anyone, everything is mutually consensual, and he and the people he interacts with are happy, why should anyone else care whether "society is lying to" him, or even whether he's lying to himself? Take the black man in my previous post. Do you imagine if he read your warning about society, he'd say, "holy crap, I kept my orientation listed as 'straight' on my profile, because society's modern day sensibilities told me I could, even if I tell someone's hubby to fluff me before I fuck his wife. You're telling me I've been lied to all this time, and I'm actually gay? Damn, bro, thanks for the heads up! This changes everything?" And if he didn't react that way, what exactly is the harm in him deciding "the people I want to attract are women, whether they're coupled or not, so I'm leaving 'straight' on my profile?
The only "modern day sensibility" I'm talking about here is live and let live, without having to judge others and worry about what label(s) should apply to them? Why does it matter to you how others view their own sexuality?