Interesting.
I/we have been around a dom couple for 12 yrs now (I think) where the wife is very manipulative, but subtle about it (usually). She figures you out, pushes your buttons and gets you to do things you would not do on your own. This also includes the husband.
Ya know..............she totally gets off on it. I mean sexually.
I have told her to F off and leave me alone.......... anddddddd then I'm calling her again in a few months. So, it's a love hate relationship.
Some of the couples she has been involved with have had disasterous results (divorce and broken families). While I've called her Satan's wife more than once, I cannot say I would change the way my family turned out. If I planned it myself, it would be different, but I just love every part of my family and how it "fell together"