my observation (= me observing my ex with other men
) is that the real difference is a toy doesn't whisper naughty words in her ear, doesn't toss and turn her around or adjust the speed of fucking from soft to rough. It also does not cup her breasts with its hands (for it has none
) or spank her a$$ cheeks.
Of course you could take that part as the husband, roleplaying to be the other man. But in the end you cannot not be that man and everything you will do is what your wife is familiar with and used to from you because you just can't become a different person. :| And different men simply have a different way of taking care of a Woman during sex. And most Black men definitely so!
ImO your chances will be best if you start watching black-male-in-white-female porn while using the Black realistic dick toy, if you don't do that already. Prefer for her to use the toy on herself with you watching her instead of you using the toy on her.
Try not to take the role of the Black man during sex unless your wife has her eyes pinned to the Black man sexing on screen instead of you! You could put her in the doggy position with her face pointing in the direction of where the porn scene is playing. Try to find a scene where the Black male performer is also doing doggy with a female performer that somewhat resembles your wife (figure, hair length and color, ...). Try to adjust speed, angle, etc. as close to how the performers do on screen as possible. Ask your wife questions like, how the Black
man's dick (not only "black dick") feels inside her, or, how she enjoys the fucking she is receiving from the Black man.
You could also comment what's going on on screen like that: "Whoaa... see how that Black guy grabs your hips and pulls you onto him even closer, deeper!" (Say it like the Black performer was actually doing what he does to your wife and not some porn starlet.) But don't talk too much as it can also be distracting.
It is essential that you get your wife's attention to the man and not the dick alone!
All i am saying here had worked for me with my ex.
Good luck!
